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"Best for us": Mark Beretta announces divorce

<p>Mark Beretta has announced that after 22 years of marriage, he and his wife Rachel are getting a divorce. </p> <p>The 57-year-old sports presenter confirmed the news of the separation to <a href="" target="_blank" rel="noopener"><em>Yahoo Lifestyle</em></a>, saying the split took a lot of "reflection". </p> <p>“At the start of the year, after a great deal of reflection and 22 years of marriage, Rach and I came to the conclusion that a separation was best for us,” he said.</p> <p>“We remain good friends, and our two children and grandchild remain our focus and priority as we move forward with love, dignity, and respect."</p> <p>Mark and Rachel first met in 1999 when their friends set them up on a blind date. </p> <p>They married two years later in 2001, and they share two teenage children, 19-year-old Ava and 16-year-old Dan, and one grandson, Arlo.</p> <p>The former couple sold their luxury home in Mosman, Sydney in May this year for $13 million, which was $2.5 million less than their initial asking price of $15.5 million.</p> <p>Earlier this year, Beretta opened up about balancing the pressures of his high-profile career with his family life.</p> <p>“Looking back, you think, I would have loved to spend more time at home, but life is what it is and you make the most of it,” he told <em><a href="" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Now To Love</a></em>.</p> <p>“I love my job so much and I love being with the team. It’s just never on my radar to change careers or to not be part of Sunrise. It’s such a magical work opportunity.”</p> <p><em>Image credits: Seven / Getty Images </em></p>


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How to survive the holidays after divorce

<p>For many of us who are going through or recovering from divorce, the holidays can feel dark, lonely and stressful. But moving on with our lives does not mean that we cannot enjoy the holidays. In fact, we can even make them better than ever before when we remember the following tips.<br /><br /><strong>Your memory may play tricks on you, so be careful!</strong><br />We’re all guilty of remembering our past "married" Christmases as perfect. It’s easy to fall into this trap when we are divorced. But what we forget are all the things that weren’t great during the holidays when we were married. When we shut those not-perfect memories of family holidays out, we are subconsciously setting ourselves up for failure. We are holding our current holiday mood up to an impossible ideal of selective memories that may not be correct. We do this when we are feeling down, trying to imagine a happier time.</p> <p>This way of thinking does not serve you because you are holding yourself to an ideal that is impossible to attain. Making yourself feel guilty or resentful or longing for the past will not serve you this holiday season. The only way to start loving the holidays again is to reclaim for yourself… now.<br /><br /><strong>Stay hopeful, but be realistic</strong><br />For years, we have been inundated with other people, the media and the internet telling us how Christmas “should” be. These unrealistic expectations of perfect holidays and families getting along have conditioned us to feel as if we are not up to those standards. We feel that we are wrong, and that we’re not celebrating the holidays “the right way”.</p> <p>You have worked too hard over the decades and deserve more than to get sucked into the idea that you’re doing Christmas wrong. This year, it is time to envision what the best holiday season means for you, regardless of where you are in your life.</p> <p>A change in family circumstance does not mean you are sentenced to feel bad. It just means that you are now given an opportunity to decide how you want the holidays to be, regardless of what anyone else thinks.<br /><br /><strong>How to love the holidays again</strong><br />The first steps to learning to love the holidays again begin here. Celebrate you and your new life, by answering the following questions. Ask yourself:</p> <ul> <li>What do you really want to do?</li> <li>What will give you joy this holiday season?</li> <li>What steps will you take to get there?</li> </ul> <p>That is all you must ask yourself. These answers do not have to be complicated. You are not required to spend a lot of money on them.</p> <p><strong>Reclaiming your holidays</strong><br />Shaking off your loneliness and reclaiming the holidays for yourself as a divorced woman or man over 50 is all about taking care of yourself for a change. This is the year that you can say “no” to the things from holidays past that you have not enjoyed and that bring you stress, such as travelling, seeing toxic family members, spending too much money.<br /><br />This is also the year where you can pick the traditions that you love and throw out the rest. This is the year that you can define what a joyous season means to you and choose to celebrate how you want to celebrate.<br /><br />And learning to love Christmas again, even if you are divorced and over 50, starts with kicking those unrealistic expectations to the kerb and ignoring the selective memory that plays tricks on you.<br /><br />These next few weeks can be the season that you finally recognise that you deserve holiday joy and happiness and you have the power to define that on your own terms. Will you accept that gift.</p> <p><em>Written by Martha Bodyfelt. Republished with permission of <a href=""></a></em></p>

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Living fabulously after separation or divorce

<p>Living fabulously after separation/divorce requires us to take time to not only grieve the ending of the relationship but also the breakdown of many of the other important life structures. For example; we may need to re-establish parenting arrangements, restructure our financial responsibilities, work obligations, move house, develop new friendships and establish new boundaries in our personal and work relationships.<span> </span><br /><br />Most people don’t get married thinking that they will one day be attending to a separation/divorce. Even if you were the one who instigated the divorce, the split still represents a loss that carries long-term life changing implications in many areas of your life. The time needed to grieve and re-establish balance again will vary for each person and it is important not to move quickly through the grieving phase or we may miss the opportunity to build a strong foundation for establishing our new identity and a new life that has both meaning and purpose.<span> </span><br /><br />The first step to living fabulously after separation/divorce requires you to form a new identity as a single person. This can be a harrowing task as it first requires us to breakdown our old partnership attachment identity and then to define new values, beliefs and thinking patterns aligned to your new goals as a single person.<span> </span><br /><br />Living fabulously after separation/divorce is not about becoming a better person but about becoming brand new; reinventing yourself from the inside out. This requires you to begin to make conscious choices about remaking yourself in a different form. It means intentionally doing things differently. This stage of life presents a wonderful opportunity to create a new future for yourself and a life that will allow you to express who you really are. Important considerations to assist you with this include pondering the following; How did I get to this place? What do I now want my life to look and feel like as a newly single person? What steps are now required of me to begin moving in my new direction?</p> <p><strong>Steps to Living Fabulously include:</strong></p> <p>1. Allow time to grieve the past. Find ways to work through the lingering emotions from the demise of your partnership. This is essential if you are to successfully wrap up the past, make peace with it and move on to create a brand new you. There is now an empty space in your life and you want to ensure you fill it with people and activities that will be aligned to your new single status. You may want to engage a suitable therapist and/or coach to assist you.</p> <p>2. Learn to LOVE YOU! It’s now ME TIME. Regardless of your other responsibilities ensure you set aside time to begin to envision the life you would like to attract for yourself. Think about what your new future self looks and feels like. Where will you be living? What will you be wearing? What changes would you like to see occur in the future? This is a great time to engage in a fitness program, engage a stylist, change your look!</p> <p>3. Change your vibe by experimenting with a new attitude. How do you want the world to see you? Make time to go through your cupboards and decide what needs to go. Make your motto; “Ta, ta to the old, and hello to the new!” </p> <p>Be authentic, find your passion and your inner calling. You now have a blank canvas in front of you and the power to choose the colours and landscape of your new fabulous life.<span> </span><br />Remember happiness is contagious; live fabulously and become someone people want to catch! </p> <p><span>To find out more about Marina’s services and products and dating and relationship tips visit: </span><a rel="noopener" href="" target="_blank"></a></p> <p><em>Written by <span>Marina Bakker. Republished with permission of <a href=""></a></span></em></p>


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