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The role Princess Diana played in Prince Andrew and Fergie’s romance

<p>In the summer of 1985, the start of a turbulent love affair between Prince Andrew and Sarah Ferguson began.</p> <p>As old family friends, they had fallen out of touch for years before reconnecting as adults while attending Royal Ascot.</p> <p>“He was utterly charmed by her, she was nothing the Royal Family has ever seen before,” 9Honey's royal columnist, Victoria Arbiter said.</p> <p>"Fergie was funny, and boisterous and brash and she approached life with such a zest for life and enthusiasm and that in the beginning was utterly charming but ultimately, that led to her downfall."</p> <p>It was Princess Diana though that re-introduced the two to each other by inviting her fourth cousin and very good friend, Fergie to the event.</p> <p>In what was a friendly chat where Prince Andrew refused to take no for an answer when she said no to chocolate profiteroles (she was on a diet, she claimed) turned into a rollercoaster relationship for the two.</p> <p>Just nine months later, the couple announced their engagement in 1986.</p> <p>"She and Prince Andrew fell in love very quickly," Victoria explains.</p> <p>The Prince was so enamoured by Fergie’s sparkling red hair that he chose a ring featuring 10 diamonds around a Burmese ruby which complimented her locks perfectly.</p> <p>In an official engagement interview, the besotted Fergie pointed to Princess Diana in pulling the two lovebirds together and navigating her marriage into the Royal Family.</p> <p>"The Princess of Wales and I are extremely good friends and we naturally talk about lots of different subjects," she said, adding: "We're very, very good friends."</p> <p><img style="width: 500px; height: 281.25px;" src="/media/7823673/gettyimages-1041846330.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/b6cb9ae25d264670bba2962db39b3c93" /></p> <p>After they wed at Westminster Abbey, the two became Duke and Duchess of York.</p> <p>They welcomed two beautiful daughters, Princess Beatrice in 1988 and Princess Eugenie in 1990.</p> <p>However just two years after the birth of the youngest princess, Eugenie – the couple announced their heartbreaking divorce.</p> <p>The legal separation of the two was announced in March 1992, and the divorce was finalised in 1996 – following this, Princess Diana and Prince Charles divorce was finalised also.</p> <p>Rumours continue to circulate the Duke and Duchess of York about getting back together as a couple because they remain close friends and still live in the same home.</p> <p>Do you think Fergie and Prince Andrew will get back together romantically? Let us know in the comments below.</p>

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13 normal fights even happy couples have

<p>Every couple fights and the ones who don't fess up to it are lying. Here’s how to stop getting stuck in the same old arguments.</p> <div class="views-field views-field-field-slides"> <div class="field-content"> <div class="field-collection-view clearfix view-mode-full field-collection-view-final"> <div class="entity entity-field-collection-item field-collection-item-field-slides clearfix"> <div class="content"> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-title field-type-text field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"><strong>1. "We never have sex anymore!"</strong></div> </div> </div> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-content field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"> <p>It's a myth that well-matched couples have equally well-matched libidos, says Kimberly Hershenson, LCSW and couples therapist.</p> <p>And even if you were in sync the day you got married, kids, stress, illness, and other life events have a way of changing things.</p> <p>This means it's inevitable you'll have disagreements about sex.</p> <p>"There are other ways to feel connected if sex isn't happening as frequently as someone would like," she says.</p> <p>"Physical intimacy is obviously important in a marriage but many of my clients don’t realise the importance of having an emotional connection to their partner first."</p> <p>Once you are working as a team, you can troubleshoot bedroom strategies together.</p> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="views-field views-field-field-slides"> <div class="field-content"> <div class="field-collection-view clearfix view-mode-full field-collection-view-final"> <div class="entity entity-field-collection-item field-collection-item-field-slides clearfix"> <div class="content"> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-title field-type-text field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"><strong>2. "Why did you like all your ex’s pictures on Facebook?!"</strong></div> </div> </div> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-content field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"> <p>Modern technology has lead to some uniquely modern relationship fights, especially when it comes to social media.</p> <p>"These days we see a lot of 'cyber-straying' which means sneakily looking up and even reconnecting with old flames, despite being with someone else," says Wendy L. Patrick, JD, PhD, behavioral expert and author of <em>Red Flags</em>.</p> <p>Then, when the partner inevitably finds out, they feel hurt and betrayed, she adds. The fix to this fight? Squelch that curiosity.</p> <p>"Curiosity compromises trust and secrets are relationship saboteurs," she says. "Ex-relationships are in the past for a reason."</p> <p>If you do want to maintain a connection with an ex, make sure your partner is in on all communications. </p> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="views-field views-field-field-slides"> <div class="field-content"> <div class="field-collection-view clearfix view-mode-full field-collection-view-final"> <div class="entity entity-field-collection-item field-collection-item-field-slides clearfix"> <div class="content"> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-title field-type-text field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"><strong>3. "You love your phone more than you love me!"</strong></div> </div> </div> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-content field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"> <p>Smartphones and tablets are awesome but they are also a huge distraction, ready to interrupt your precious time with your partner at any second, Patrick says.</p> <p>Think checking a text or answering a quick email is not a big deal? Imagine if it was an actual person grabbing your attention every time a notification goes off. They'd quickly be the most annoying person in the room, right? So it's understandable how phones can become a major source of fights, she says.</p> <p>The solution is simple: Put away your phones and decide on tech rules you can both follow.</p> <p>"The impersonal nature of this communication often builds barriers, not bridges," she explains.</p> <p>"Remember, your partner is your lifeline. Uplifting, encouraging conversations infused with real emotion will revitalise your relationship in a way that no amount of emoticons could ever do."<a rel="noopener" href="http://www.readersdigest.com.au/true-stories-lifestyle/thought-provoking/10-mobile-phone-etiquette-rules-you-should-be-following-but-arent" target="_blank" title="" data-original-title=""></a></p> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="views-field views-field-field-slides"> <div class="field-content"> <div class="field-collection-view clearfix view-mode-full field-collection-view-final"> <div class="entity entity-field-collection-item field-collection-item-field-slides clearfix"> <div class="content"> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-title field-type-text field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"><strong>4. "Why am I the only one who does dishes around here?!"</strong></div> </div> </div> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-content field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"> <p>Couples have been fighting over chores, well, since chores were invented. This is because it's not really about who washes dishes or vacuums more, it's really about feeling like things are fair, says Fran Walfish, PhD., a relationship psychotherapist, author, and consultant on <em>The Doctors</em> TV show.</p> <p>"What you need to realise is there is no such thing as a 50-50 split of responsibility in a great marriage. There will be times each of you will have to give 100 percent," she explains.</p> <p>"Great couples learn to sacrifice willingly for one another without expecting something in return." Easier said than done, right?</p> <p>"Cultivate this mentality by finding little ways to serve your spouse every day," she adds.<a rel="noopener" href="http://www.readersdigest.com.au/true-stories-lifestyle/relationships/how-put-honeymoon-level-excitement-back-your-marriage" target="_blank" title="" data-original-title=""></a></p> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="views-field views-field-field-slides"> <div class="field-content"> <div class="field-collection-view clearfix view-mode-full field-collection-view-final"> <div class="entity entity-field-collection-item field-collection-item-field-slides clearfix"> <div class="content"> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-title field-type-text field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"><strong>5. "Stop humming, it makes me want to rip my ears off!"</strong></div> </div> </div> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-content field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"> <p>Call it the lesson of your freshman college roommate: Live with someone long enough and you will find something about them that drives you absolutely insane.</p> <p>In long-term relationships, those little annoyances can fester into full-on warfare, especially if you use these quirks to intentionally trigger each other.</p> <p>"This is totally normal, even with the people we love the most," Walfish says.</p> <p>"Instead of creating a mental list of all the things your partner does that annoy you, try and put them in perspective and make a list of all the things they do well. Then extend grace for minor annoyances, knowing that your partner likely does the same for you."</p> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="views-field views-field-field-slides"> <div class="field-content"> <div class="field-collection-view clearfix view-mode-full field-collection-view-final"> <div class="entity entity-field-collection-item field-collection-item-field-slides clearfix"> <div class="content"> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-title field-type-text field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"><strong>6. "Aren't you using the note system I created?"</strong></div> </div> </div> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-content field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"> <p>Just like your partner has little habits that drive you nuts, they also likely have aspects of their personality that you wish were different.</p> <p>In the beginning of your relationship, it's easy to brush them off as cute quirks with the expectation you can change your partner later… and this is how you start a never-ending fight, says Rhonda Milrad, LCSW, a licensed therapist and founder of Relationup.</p> <p>"You complain and even overtly show your disdain, hoping that this will get your partner to change, however it only makes the problem worse," she explains.</p> <p>"Instead, learn how to accept and even find ways to appreciate the idiosyncrasies in your beloved."</p> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="views-field views-field-field-slides"> <div class="field-content"> <div class="field-collection-view clearfix view-mode-full field-collection-view-final"> <div class="entity entity-field-collection-item field-collection-item-field-slides clearfix"> <div class="content"> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-title field-type-text field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"><strong>7. "Why don't you just divorce me if you’re this unhappy?"</strong></div> </div> </div> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-content field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"> <p>Fighting over someone’s motives for staying in the relationship and even dropping the "D" word is surprisingly common, even in happy marriages, says Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin, licensed clinical professional counsellor and co-founder of The Marriage Restoration Project.</p> <p>The problem with this argument isn't that you're fighting, it's that you automatically assume that fighting means divorce.</p> <p>"The truth is that all couples argue," he says. "Instead of wondering if you made the wrong choice, remember all the reasons you thought this person was the right choice - you will find that you’ve picked someone who will uniquely challenge you but will also help you achieve ultimate personal growth and healing." </p> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="views-field views-field-field-slides"> <div class="field-content"> <div class="field-collection-view clearfix view-mode-full field-collection-view-final"> <div class="entity entity-field-collection-item field-collection-item-field-slides clearfix"> <div class="content"> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-title field-type-text field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"><strong>8. "I feel like you don’t even know me anymore!"</strong></div> </div> </div> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-content field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"> <p>Just because two people are in a stable relationship doesn't mean they stop growing and changing - but it can be all too easy for couples to miss these milestones when they’re focused on kids, work, and all the other minutiae of daily life.</p> <p>This can lead to some very frustrating (but very normal) blowups, says Lesli Doares, couples' consultant and coach, author and host of <em>Happily Ever After is Just the Beginning</em>.</p> <p>"When we first meet and get married, there is a lot of conversation and sharing about who we each are but as the years go by, we think we know each other and continue to act as if neither has changed," she says.</p> <p>"The way to fix this fight is to keep asking each other questions and don't assume you know the answers."</p> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="views-field views-field-field-slides"> <div class="field-content"> <div class="field-collection-view clearfix view-mode-full field-collection-view-final"> <div class="entity entity-field-collection-item field-collection-item-field-slides clearfix"> <div class="content"> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-title field-type-text field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"><strong>9. "I picked up the kids five days this week, you owe me!"</strong></div> </div> </div> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-content field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"> <p>Humans have an innate desire for equality and fairness so if you feel like you're consistently getting the short end of the stick, it can lead to major resentment and spark a serious argument.</p> <p>But scorecards are for golf, not relationships, so stop tallying up everything you do and comparing it to your spouse, Doares says.</p> <p>"If one of you isn't happy with the way things are going, the relationship cannot be happy and the way to stop this argument is to make decisions together," she says.</p> <p>"Learning how to reach an agreement that you both can support and implement is critical."</p> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="views-field views-field-field-slides"> <div class="field-content"> <div class="field-collection-view clearfix view-mode-full field-collection-view-final"> <div class="entity entity-field-collection-item field-collection-item-field-slides clearfix"> <div class="content"> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-title field-type-text field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"><strong>10. "You take me for granted!"</strong></div> </div> </div> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-content field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"> <p>Is there any worse feeling than feeling like the (unpaid) maid, chauffeur, mechanic, nanny, or chef? Being taken for granted is a major - and understandable - source of fights between couples, says Allen W. Barton, PhD, a research scientist at the University of Georgia’s Centre for Family Research and founder of LiveYourVows.</p> <p>Thankfully the solution is as simple as these two little words: Thank you.</p> <p>"It’s such a simple thing that it often gets overlooked but expressing appreciation to your partner for things they have done for the relationship and family is key to stopping contention," he says.</p> <p>"Make it a practice to thank your spouse every day for something."</p> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="views-field views-field-field-slides"> <div class="field-content"> <div class="field-collection-view clearfix view-mode-full field-collection-view-final"> <div class="entity entity-field-collection-item field-collection-item-field-slides clearfix"> <div class="content"> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-title field-type-text field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"><strong>11. "Are you hiding something?"</strong></div> </div> </div> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-content field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"> <p>The short answer to this question is usually "yes".</p> <p>It’s not because we necessarily want to lie to our partners or that we’re inherently dishonest but rather that we think telling little white lies, or withholding the truth, will prevent a huge fight.</p> <p>Unfortunately, people can often tell when you're being less than truthful and the fight soon becomes about that.</p> <p>"Based on my research we’ve found that many people tell white lies to their partner and while the majority of people say that white lies are not okay they still find excuses to say them," says Jason B. Whiting, Ph.D, LMFT, professor of marriage and family therapy at Texas Tech University and author of <em>Love Me True: Overcoming the Surprising Ways We Deceive in Relationships</em>. </p> <p>The antidote? Honesty.</p> <p>"Telling the truth, even if it's hard in the moment, will strengthen trust and make you closer in the long run," he says.</p> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="views-field views-field-field-slides"> <div class="field-content"> <div class="field-collection-view clearfix view-mode-full field-collection-view-final"> <div class="entity entity-field-collection-item field-collection-item-field-slides clearfix"> <div class="content"> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-title field-type-text field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"><strong>12. The silent treatment</strong></div> </div> </div> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-content field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"> <p>The silent treatment - rare is the couple that hasn't had this fight-pretending-not-to-be-a-fight. But even though you're not yelling at each other, or even saying a harsh word, this fight can be just as damaging.</p> <p>This is because the silent treatment allows resentments to build and fester, says Erika Boissiere, licensed marriage and family therapist and founder of The Relationship Institute of San Francisco. </p> <p>"Silence is a wedge that will drive more distance between you the longer it goes on," she says.</p> <p>"If you need something from your partner, you must request it. Your partner cannot mind-read your unspoken expectations. It is your job to ask for what you need in a kind, compassionate way."</p> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="views-field views-field-field-slides"> <div class="field-content"> <div class="field-collection-view clearfix view-mode-full field-collection-view-final"> <div class="entity entity-field-collection-item field-collection-item-field-slides clearfix"> <div class="content"> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-title field-type-text field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"><strong>13. "Stop throwing the past in my face!"</strong></div> </div> </div> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-content field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"> <p>It’s normal to look for patterns in behaviour, it can help you learn what to expect from others, yet constantly bringing up past mistakes is a sore spot for many couples.</p> <p>How do you decide when to forgive and forget and when it's important to remember?</p> <p>"You can't expect that when one person does something reckless, threatening, or destructive that their partner will just get over it," says Wendy Brown, clinical member of the Ontario Society of Psychotherapists and author of Why Love Succeeds.</p> <p>"Their worries, trauma, and concerns must be addressed before you can move on."</p> <p>This doesn't mean that this fight has to be an endless round robin of accusation, hurt, apology, and resentment though.</p> <p>"You need to look for ways to openly discuss the past in a calm way—a therapist can be an impartial third party to help you do this," she says.</p> <p><em>Written by <span>Charlotte Hilton Andersen</span>. This article first appeared in </em><span><em><a href="http://www.readersdigest.com.au/true-stories-lifestyle/drama/13-normal-fights-even-happy-couples-have">Reader’s Digest</a></em></span><em>. For more of what you love from the world’s best-loved magazine, </em><span><em><a href="http://readersdigest.innovations.com.au/c/readersdigestemailsubscribe?utm_source=over60&amp;utm_medium=articles&amp;utm_campaign=RDSUB&amp;keycode=WRA87V">here’s our best subscription offer.</a></em></span></p> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <p><img style="width: 100px !important; height: 100px !important;" src="/media/7820640/1.png" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/f30947086c8e47b89cb076eb5bb9b3e2" /></p>

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“You have to show up”: Serena Williams' husband shares the secret to their happy marriage

<p>Known to be the brains behind discussion website Reddit and the husband of Serena Williams, Alexis Ohanian penned a letter, revealing the secrets behind his marriage and how he supports his tennis legend wife.</p> <p>Speaking to <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.glamour.com/story/alexis-ohanian-serena-williams-successful-marriage" target="_blank"><em>Glamour</em></a>, journalist Samantha Leach asked the 35-year-old entrepreneur on how he learnt to be the perfect husband.</p> <p>This is what he had to say:</p> <p>Glamour<em> asked me to talk about “going big” when it comes to romance. I’ve done a few things that you may have seen on social media – things that have gotten me plenty of teasing from my friends, as well as other husbands on the Internet who’ve said I’m making them look bad. It started when I put up some billboards for my wife, a.k.a. the GMOAT (greatest mom of all time), to celebrate her first tournament after having our daughter, Alexis Olympia Ohanian Jr. I made a video showcasing her journey returning to tennis around the U.S. Open. And then there was that trip to Italy – she had a craving, so I delivered her to Venice.</em></p> <p><em>I get it; these are pretty extravagant gestures. But I think if you were to ask my wife, or many other people in relationships, it’s often the simpler things that are the most important. You have to show up. You have to be supportive. These are the things that matter.</em></p> <p><em>I credit my parents with a lot of what I’ve learned about partnership and relationships. My father, who’s Armenian, and my mother, who came from what was then West Germany, met in Ireland and spent a whirlwind two weeks together. Even though my dad didn’t speak any German and my mom spoke only basic English, they fell in love. She followed my father to America and worked as an au pair, ultimately overstaying her visa and actually living in the U.S. undocumented for a while until they got married. My mom had to hit reset on her whole life. In Germany she was almost credentialed to be a pharmacist. Here in the U.S. she had to start over and get her GED while working a ton of service and restaurant jobs. Then she opted to work nights as a pharmacy technician – not a pharmacist – just so she’d be able to be around when I came home from school. Meanwhile, my father logged long hours to put food on the table and give us the best life he possibly could.</em></p> <p><em>It wasn’t always easy, but my parents were partners in the truest sense. By watching them up close, I learned what it means to be supportive, how to make compromises without sacrificing yourself, and how to show up in the ways that matter. Whether it was being proud parents at my football games or organising family road trips for weekend getaways to Civil War battlefields or antiquing (the former was my dad’s favourite, the latter my mom’s; at the time I found them boring, but I appreciate those memories now). In short, I got the cheat code for partnership early on.</em></p> <p><em>When you’re married to the GOAT, the logistics alone can make the act of physically “showing up” a challenge. Serena’s tennis schedule takes her all over the world, and my career also requires being on the road, whether it’s travelling to meet with founders, speaking at industry events, or spending time at my venture capital firm Initialised home office in San Francisco. Comparing calendars isn’t romantic, but at the start of every year, Serena and I map out our schedules so that, ideally, there isn’t more than a week that we go without seeing each other. I brought Google Calendar into her world so we could see each other’s schedules at any time, which would also make it easier to plan an impromptu call if we’re away from each other – a day without FaceTime is rough when you’ve been away from each other for two weeks.</em></p> <p><em>My understanding of showing up and being present for my wife was taken to a whole new level when Olympia was born. I was able to take 16 weeks of paid leave from Reddit, and it was one of the most important decisions I’ve made. It helped that I was a founder and didn’t have to worry about what people might say about my “commitment” to the company, but it was incredible to be able to spend quality time with Olympia. And it was perhaps even more meaningful to be there for my wife and to adjust to this new life we created together – especially after all the complications she had during and after the birth. There is a lot of research about the benefits of taking leave, not only for the cognitive and emotional development of the child but for the couple. However, many fathers in this country are not afforded the privilege of parental leave. And even when they are, there is often a stigma that prevents them from doing so. I see taking leave as one of the most fundamental ways to “show up” for your partner and your family, and I cherished all 16 weeks I was able to take.</em></p> <p><em>Since I came back from leave, I’m less “full-time dad” and more what I like to call “business dad". When Serena has an intense day of training or a photo shoot, I’ll spend the day with Olympia. I’m fortunate to be my own boss, which comes with the freedoms of doing things like bringing my daughter into the office or working remotely from virtually anywhere Serena competes. My partners at Initialised are used to seeing Olympia jump on camera – along with her doll Qai Qai – or hearing her babbling on a call. I tell them with pride, “Olympia’s at work today!” And I’ll post some photos on Instagram or Twitter so my followers can see it too.</em></p> <p><em>The more we normalise this, on social media and in real life, the better, because I know this kind of dynamic makes a lot of men uncomfortable (and selfishly I want Olympia to hear me talking about start-ups!). Research shows that men are happy to have successful wives – until it interferes with their own work. A full 50 per cent of men expect their career to take precedence over their wife’s. I know this is real, because I’ve seen the tweets and comments about how being less successful (or doing what is traditionally considered “women’s work” and caring for your kids) can be “emasculating". To me, that says more about the guy than anything else. If you need to make more money than your partner to have confidence, then I think there’s something more going on under the hood. If that’s where your swagger’s has to come from, then it’s probably not real.</em></p> <p><em>I know I’ve been successful in my career, but I’m not the one racking up the trophies. It helps that my wife and I both know what it takes to be successful and bring that mutual understanding, drive and relentlessness to the table. But at the end of the day, sometimes her career really does have to come first. I try to be the most supportive partner I can be and to have conversations with her about her career goals and what she can do to reach them. Most of my talks with Serena about her career have come from a place of “What do you want to be doing?” or “Where do you want to be?” and that’s not only in sport but in life. She does the same with me. I’m far from perfect, but I try to get behind her and let her know I’m there for her and our daughter, no matter what.</em></p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/BjxErpTFqpw/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;"><a style="color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/BjxErpTFqpw/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" target="_blank">Family day yesterday. @olympiaohanian was not having it though. @serena collection top.</a></p> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;">A post shared by <a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/serenawilliams/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" target="_blank"> Serena Williams</a> (@serenawilliams) on Jun 8, 2018 at 7:18am PDT</p> </div> </blockquote> <p><em>While I don’t have anything extravagant planned at the moment (or if I did, I wouldn’t tell you!), I will always try to show my wife how much I appreciate and support her. As an entrepreneur, one of my big mantras is to surprise and delight. I guess I’ve applied that in some way to romance, and if I can think of a way to top myself, I’ll keep pulling out the stops.</em></p> <p><em>But the real scoop on “going big” for my wife would never go viral – it’s our simple Sunday tradition. When I was growing up, my dad would make pancakes every Sunday. They were delicious, but it wasn’t just about the food. It was about being together. So, on Sunday mornings I make breakfast for the family and it doesn’t cost me a thing, except for gluten-free flour (I had to modify Dad’s recipe a bit), some eggs, almond milk, a secret ingredient, and berries (Olympia loves raspberries). There are no phones, just conversation. And we’ll spend the day together lounging around the house, or playing hide-and-seek, or going for a swim in the pool. Just being a family on those days means so much to both of us – more than a billboard, a video montage or a whirlwind trip to Italy. And before you ask: No, I won’t tell you my pancake recipe.</em></p> <p>What is your secret to a successful marriage? Let us know in the comments below. </p>

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Meet the world's most eligible royals who are yet to marry

<p>Even though Prince Harry has officially been off the market for a while now, since marrying his forever love Duchess Meghan in May last year, there are still plenty of eligible royals that have not yet tied the knot yet – including Princess Margaret's grandson Arthur Chatto and Princess Diana's niece Lady Kitty Spencer. </p> <p>These eligible royals are still bachelors and bachelorettes and looking for their prince or princess. From the attractive prince who just landed a modelling contract to the newly-single princess looking for love, we reveal the most eligible royal members who haven’t walked down the aisle yet.</p> <p>Scroll through the gallery above to see some of the world’s most eligible royals.</p> <p><strong>Prince Nikolai</strong></p> <p>Prince Nikolai of Denmark is the eldest son of Prince Joachim and Alexandra, Countess of Frederiksborg.</p> <p>He is the nephew of beloved Princess Mary and is the sixth-in-line to the Danish throne.</p> <p>In 2018, the 19-year-old was signed with a modelling agency and has shown his skills by walking the catwalk for Dior and Burberry.</p> <p><strong>Lady Amelia Windsor</strong></p> <p>Lady Amelia Winsor, from the UK, is 23 years old and is a distant cousin to Prince William and Prince Harry. She is the granddaughter of the Queen's cousin who is the Duke of Kent, Prince Edward.</p> <p>The royal is the 37th-in-line to the British throne and on occasion works for Dolce &amp; Gabbana as a model. She was once deemed the “most beautiful royal” by <em>Tatler</em>, a British tabloid, and it’s not hard to see why.</p> <p><strong>Lady Marina-Charlotte Windsor </strong></p> <p>Lady Marina-Charlotte Windsor is 26 years old and is the eldest sister of Lady Amelia. She is not included in the line of succession for the throne as she is Roman Catholic.</p> <p><strong>Prince Abdul Mateen</strong></p> <p>The prince is the fourth son of the Sultan of Brunei and the 27-year-old is certainly one of the world's most eligible bachelors.</p> <p>He is currently doing a master’s degree in international diplomacy at SOAS University of London and has an Instagram account with over 1 million followers.</p> <p><strong>Crown prince Al-Hussein Bin Abdullah II</strong><a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/BnIos_yFZZV/"></a></p> <p>The crown prince is the eldest child of King Abdullah II and Queen Rania, and he is the first in line to the Jordanian throne.</p> <p>The 24-year-old prince shares images to his Instagram account which has amassed over 1.8 million followers. In June 2018, he made headlines around the world after posting a picture of himself and Prince William watching the World Cup from his bachelor pad in his palace in Jordan.</p> <p><strong>Viscount Althorp</strong></p> <p>Louis Spencer, who holds the official title Viscount Althorp, is the eldest son and fourth child of Princess Diana's brother Charles Spencer, and his first wife Victoria Lockwood</p> <p>He is the first cousin to Prince William and Prince Harry and is Prince Diana’s nephew.</p> <p>Louis, 24, will inherit the Althorp estate as his oldest sister, Lady Kitty Spencer, is unable to due to British primogeniture law.</p> <p><strong>Lady Kitty Spencer</strong></p> <p>Lady Kitty Spencer, 28, is the named UK ambassador for the luxury jewellery brand Bulgari. She has modelled for a number of fashion magazines and walked down the runway for Dolce &amp; Gabbana.</p> <p>She is the eldest child of Princess Diana's brother Charles Spencer and his first wife, Victoria Lockwood. The royal is regularly seen attending events, including Prince Harry’s wedding to the Duchess Meghan in May 2018.</p> <p><strong>Hamdan bin Mohammed</strong></p> <p>Crown Prince Sheikh Hamdan bin Mohammad bin Rashid Al Maktoum is the heir to the Dubai throne and 36 years old.</p> <p>The Crown Prince is an intellectual political figure and is known to mingle with his ‘people’ frequently by dining at local restaurants and driving his own car through the streets of Dubai.</p> <p><strong>Princess Sirivannavari Nariratana</strong></p> <p>The 32-year-old princess is the daughter of the current ruler of Thailand, King Vajiralongkorn.</p> <p>Princess Sirivannavari is a fashion designer and attends some of the world's biggest fashion shows regularly.</p> <p>She famously played professional badminton winning gold with her team at the 2005 Southeast Asian Games.</p> <p><strong>Princess Elisabeth</strong></p> <p>Princess Elisabeth of Thurn and Taxis is a member of Germany’s defunct nobility and has been a style editor-at-large for <em>Vogue</em> in the UK since 2012.</p> <p>She usually goes by the nickname TNT.</p> <p><strong>Albert con Thurn und Taxis </strong></p> <p>Albert von Thurn und Taxis is the 12th prince in his family line. Although Germany no longer rules under a monarchy, the noble families continue to use and pass on their titles.</p> <p>His family is worth an estimated US$1.6 billion and is a champion race car driver.</p> <p><strong>Arthur Chatto</strong></p> <p>Arthur Chatto has made headlines for his topless Instagram posts, constantly posing shirtless as he travels the world.</p> <p>He is the 20-year-old grandson of the late Princess Margaret, Queen Elizabeth’s sister. He is the son of Princess Margaret's daughter Lady Sarah Chatto and her husband Daniel Chatto.</p> <p><strong>Princess Alexandra of Luxemborg</strong></p> <p>Princess Alexandra from Luxembourg is from one of the most prominently wealthy royal families in the world. The Grand Ducal Family of Luxembourg is worth an estimate of US$4 billion.</p> <p>She is 24 years old and is the only daughter of Grand Duke Henri and Grand Duchess Maria Teresa. For now, she is the fifth-in-line to the throne – just behind her two older brothers and her niece and nephew.</p> <p><strong>Prince Constantine-Alexios.</strong></p> <p>Prince Constantine-Alexios of Greece is 20 years old and currently attends Georgetown University in Washington D.C. The prince’s grandfather, Constantine II – the last King of Greece – is a close friend and second cousin to Prince Charles. King Constantine II is Prince William’s godfather.</p> <p>Prince Constantine-Alexios is the son of Crown Prince Pavlos Greece and Crown Princess Marie-Chantal. </p> <p><strong>Princess Iman and Princess Salma </strong></p> <p>18-year-old Princess Salma recently celebrated her completion of a commissioning course at the Royal Military Academy Sandhurst, which her brother, the Crown Prince attended.</p> <p>Her older sister, Princess Iman bint Abdullah, is the second child and eldest daughter of the king of Jordan, King Abdullah II and Queen Rania. She is 22 and is currently studying at Georgetown University in Washington D.C.</p> <p>Do you recognise any of these royal members? Let us know in the comments below.</p>

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Prince Charles’ surprising admission: Prince Andrew “wants to be me”

<p>Prince Charles has revealed that Prince Andrew “wants to be him” in a new documentary on Channel 5 in the UK. The documentary with Jeremy Paxman talks about the early lives of the Queen’s children, which includes sibling rivalry.</p> <p>The <em>Daily Mail</em>’s Richard Kay has described Andrew’s place in the royal family as the “spare part”, which is a sentiment reinforced in the documentary.</p> <p>When asked about how Prince Charles feels about his brother, Kay is able to recall a past incident and shares with Paxman:</p> <p>“Charles said, ‘The trouble with my brother Andrew is that he wants to be me.’”</p> <p>Kay continues to explain the sibling dynamic, saying that Prince Andrew is a “curious” position.</p> <p>“Andrew was the spare, for a good bit of his life he was very important.</p> <p>“He was the number two, the Queen's second son and if anything had happened to Charles, it was going to be Andrew who took over.”</p> <p><img style="width: 0px; height: 0px;" src="/media/7823509/prince-andrew-prince-charles.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/a2b67d9a48a8478a8d1dfad47e9bcae6" /></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><em>Prince Charles and Prince Andrew with their mother, Queen Elizabeth II</em></p> <p>However, due to the birth of Prince William and Prince Harry, as well as the birth of William’s three children, this bumped Prince Andrew down to seventh-in-line for the throne.</p> <p>His biographer, Ingrid Stewart, also confirmed the dynamic between the two brothers.</p> <p>“Charles is 16 years older than Edward and they weren't close,” Stewart admitted.</p> <p>Stewart can also remember a time where Prince Charles seemed to pull rank amongst the siblings.</p> <p>“On one of those occasions Prince Edward went upstairs and found some of the Duke of Windsor's old kilts which of course were all the tartans that The Prince of Wales is entitled to wear, and he thought, 'Ooh those look rather fun.' So, he put one on, and it fitted.</p> <p>“He went down to dinner in a tartan which was that of the Duke of Rothesay, and as he went into the dining room Charles went apoplectic and said, ‘What are you doing wearing that? I am the only one entitled to wear that kilt. It is a kilt for the Prince of Wales. Go upstairs and take it off.’”</p> <p>“Edward being such a calm person just went, 'OK', went upstairs and took it off and never mentioned it again.”</p> <p>Are you surprised by this sibling rivalry between Prince Charles and Prince Andrew? Let us know in the comments.</p>

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Carrie Bickmore shares refreshingly honest photo of what motherhood is really like

<p>In the age of social media, it can be easy to get sucked into comparing yourself to someone who’s life seems so perfect on Instagram.</p> <p>Users on the photo-sharing app seem to have it all together. They wake up each morning with perfectly blow-dried hair, a full face of makeup all while taking care of three kids – who also happen to be angels.</p> <p>It's easy to warp reality on the internet, something Carrie Bickmore has proven.</p> <p>While the host of <em>The Project</em> seems to always look polished and poised, without a hair out of place, the mother-of-three shared a very realistic photo to her Instagram account, showing exactly what life is like as a parent.</p> <p>Cuddling her newborn daughter Adelaide, the 38-year-old first shared a perfectly curated photograph of her sleeping soundly next to her youngest child.</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/Btwgg4gnlDg/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;"><a style="color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/Btwgg4gnlDg/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" target="_blank">INSTAGRAM verses REALITY (swipe right) 🤣 1st pic was taken on a flattering angle, with some props, some casual hand positioning, some clever cropping and a nice little filter added. The 2nd was the real moment captured without my knowledge a couple of weeks after Adelaide was born before I woke up and suggested we take a nice shot. 😜</a></p> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;">A post shared by <a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/bickmorecarrie/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" target="_blank"> Carrie Bickmore</a> (@bickmorecarrie) on Feb 11, 2019 at 2:16pm PST</p> </div> </blockquote> <p>But once you swipe next, the truth is unveiled, as this is what was really happening behind-the-scenes.</p> <p><img style="width: 384.00702987697713px; height:500px;" src="/media/7823493/cb1.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/360e77d27e4c4d489c418c7dae4c4a5a" /></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><em>Photo: Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/Btwgg4gnlDg/">@bickmorecarrie</a></em></p> <p>“INSTAGRAM verses REALITY,” she captioned the photo, before going into the differences of both.</p> <p>“1st pic was taken on a flattering angle, with some props, some casual hand positioning, some clever cropping and a nice little filter added.</p> <p>“The 2nd was the real moment captured without my knowledge a couple of weeks after Adelaide was born before I woke up and suggested we take a nice shot.”</p> <p>The photos garnered praise, as fans commended the television host for reminding women what motherhood is really like.</p> <p>“We can definitely relate, finally someone shows what it really looks like!” wrote one user.</p> <p>“That’s brilliant! Well done on posting a reality check for us mums! Still looked content and loved up in both!” wrote another.</p> <p>So that settles it. Even the mums who seem perfect on the outside, have their moments of imperfection as well. </p>

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Why Prince Philip has such a special bond with Princess Anne

<p>A father’s bond with his children is eternal, and for Prince Philip it is much the same. However, the relationship he shares with his only daughter, Princess Anne, has always been special.</p> <p>Victoria Arbiter, the <a href="https://honey.nine.com.au/2019/02/05/15/29/prince-philip-princess-anne-special-bond">royal columnist for 9Honey</a>, says Philip struggled with being a father when first stepping into parenthood.</p> <p>“He’s not a terribly patient man, he’s a very practical man but he – I think he struggled with Prince Charles in some ways because Prince Charles is so different,” the expert explained.</p> <p>However, his relationship with Princess Anne was always special because of their “likeness".</p> <p>Reportedly, Prince Philip told everyone his only daughter was “the sweetest girl,” after she was born.</p> <p><img style="width: 500px; height: 281.25px;" src="/media/7823433/gettyimages-808690802.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/2508d5f3d1854874b791d54032632964" /></p> <p>Unlike Prince Charles who was a mirror of his mother, sensitive and patient, Princess Anne closely resembled her father.</p> <p>“Princess Anne was rough and tumble,” Arbiter says of the Queen's daughter.</p> <p>“She was up for anything, so Philip and Anne really have always shared a lovely relationship.”</p> <p><img style="width: 500px; height: 281.25px;" src="/media/7823431/gettyimages-149467260.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/595052c33ef94fadb67792a845ebf695" /></p> <p>Her love of horses growing up bonded the father-daughter duo even more so, with Prince Philip going out of his way to support his daughter’s equestrian passions, which eventually transformed into a professional career for her.</p> <p>“If it doesn’t fart or eat hay, she isn’t interested,” Philip once joked about Princess Anne’s love of horses.</p> <p>However, Philip and Anne’s closeness goes far past the similarity of their personalities. The Princess’ formal duties began at just 18 years old and since then she has remained one of the most diligent members of the royal family for the last five decades.</p> <p>“She’s no nonsense, she’s very much like her father in that regard and Anne just gets on with it,” Arbiter explained about Princess Anne who is now 68.</p> <p>In 2018, she was named the hardest working royal in 2018.</p>

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Bride-to-be blasted for slamming sentimental ring: "Hope that guy takes it back and runs"

<p>A woman has been labelled “trashy” after she made fun of an engagement ring given to her by her partner.</p> <p>The unnamed bride-to-be posted her complaints on Facebook, which was later shared on Reddit.</p> <p>“My boyfriend finally asked me to marry him and this is really what he gives me,” she wrote, including two pictures of her wearing the ring.</p> <p>“He pulled it out of his pocket and it took just about everything in me to not laugh and question whether this was real life or not.”<a href="http://www.reddit.com/r/trashy"></a></p> <p><img style="width: 306.22px; height: 500px; display: block; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;" src="/media/7823402/ringreddit.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/3c475e6a942446d3858b62b84d71132e" /></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><em>The woman's post as shared on <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/trashy/comments/anfmu0/making_fun_of_your_engagement_ring_on_social_media/">Reddit</a></em></p> <p>She said while she was getting used to the jewellery after a few days, she still wished for something different. “It was his grandmother’s and the pearl is my birthstone and I think that’s the only reason I’ve been able to tolerate it.”</p> <p>However, the backlash to her post was immediate.</p> <p>“Hope that guy takes the ring back and runs,” a user commented.</p> <p>Many people agreed that the pearl piece may not be suitable as an engagement ring.</p> <p>“As someone who worked in the jewelry industry for years, if you're going to go with an alternative stone instead of diamond, the pearl is the LAST stone you want in an everyday engagement ring,” one commenter wrote.</p> <p>“They are porous and are easily damaged. Pearls are meant to be worn occasionally, and then kept in a bag away from moisture.”</p> <p>Others were also not a fan of the piece, with many describing it as “hideous”, “ugly” and “upsetting”.</p> <p>However, most agreed that the ring was not the main issue with the woman’s gripe.</p> <p>“That ring is pretty ugly in my opinion, it’s okay to be disappointed with something you’ll have to theoretically wear forever. Posting it all over social media however...” one posted.</p> <p>“The trashiness comes from the Facebook post, not the ring itself. She can hate the ring and talk to him about it. Instead she broadcasted her feelings to the world at his expense.”</p> <p>What do you think of the bride-to-be’s post? Share your thoughts in the comments.</p>

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Prince Charles' surprising gay admission

<p>Back when Prince Charles was unable to find a royal wife that met his standards, he joked with friends that maybe he should "go gay".</p> <p>This interesting claim comes from a new Channel 5 documentary that talks about the private lives of the royal family. Jeremy Paxman is hosting the documentary.</p> <p>The show, <em>Paxman On The Queen’s Children</em>, involves Paxman interviewing friends and family about the heir to the throne, Prince Charles, and his siblings, Anne, Andrew and Edward.</p> <p>Paxman conducted an interview with one of Prince Charles' old friends, Broderick Munro-Wilson, according to <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/prince-charles-joked-pal-shall-13944480" target="_blank"><em>The Mirror</em></a>.</p> <p>The pair discussed an old newspaper story about “potential brides” in Europe for the heir to the throne, with Munro-Wilson claiming: <span>“I thought the only possibility was Caroline of Monaco.”</span></p> <p>According to Munro-Wilson, the Prince could not be tempted by any of the potential brides in Europe, joking around and saying: <span>“Shall I go gay?”</span></p> <p>“We all roared with laughter and moved on… they had a lot of fun,” reminisces Munro-Wilson.</p> <p>Paxman then asked about Anne, the heir’s royal sister.</p> <p>“Anne too?”</p> <p>Broderick explained: <span>“She wasn’t a stuffy old thing. I wouldn’t want anyone to think they were shrinking violets, either of them.”</span></p> <p>A shrinking violet is an exaggerated shy person.</p> <p>What do you think about these comments? Has it changed your view of Prince Charles? Let us know in the comments.</p>

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The important role Duchess Meghan’s mother will play welcoming the royal baby

<p>Duchess Meghan’s mother Doria Ragland will play a pivotal role in raising the Sussex baby, a royal observer said.</p> <p>As the arrival of Duchess Meghan’s first child is coming closer, she is expected to transition into parenthood with the help of her mother.</p> <p>“I think [the Duchess’s] mum is going to be hugely important to her in these first few weeks like all mums are,” royal commentator Victoria Murphy told Channel Nine’s <a href="https://honey.nine.com.au/2019/02/01/06/54/meghan-markle-mum-baby-sussex"><em>Today</em></a> show. “It’s about supporting the mother as well as helping with the baby.”</p> <p>Murphy said Ragland’s support becomes more important as the Duchess “has left behind her old life and a lot of her old friends” in the US to settle into the royal life in the UK.</p> <p>However, Murphy also pointed out that the 37-year-old royal does have a small support network in her new hometown. </p> <p>“Meghan does have some friends over here, she has people that she knows, has known for a while, who live over here. She’s not completely reliant on Harry,” the royal commentator explained. </p> <p>Royal families often enlist the help of caretakers from Norland College, a 125-year-old school that trains students in traditional child-rearing skills as well as cooking, sewing, self-defence and first-aid training.</p> <p>“The nannies are taught everything from defensive driving to security issues to how to care for a future king or queen,” Murphy told <a href="http://abcnews.go.com/Entertainment/royal-nanny-wanted/story?id=30372529"><em>ABC News</em></a>.</p> <p>Princess Anne and Duchess Kate are among the royals who have hired nannies from Norland. However, Duchess Meghan and husband Prince Harry might break this tradition by asking for help from the trusted grandmother.</p> <p>“With the royals, the biggest thing for them is this issue of trust and finding people who they can really trust,” added Murphy.</p> <p>Duchess Meghan’s baby is due to arrive in late April. She and Prince Harry are set to move from Kensington Palace in London to Windsor Castle's Frogmore Cottage in March, giving the couple time to settle in before welcoming their first child.</p>

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The do's and don'ts of settling family feuds

<p>How should you juggle the minefield that is a family dispute?<span> </span><a rel="noopener" href="http://gadkrebs.com.au/" target="_blank" title="" data-original-title="">Gad Krebs</a>, psychologist and positive relationship expert, believes you should consider the following three options.</p> <div id="section"><strong>Don’t listen to advice on how to have a successful relationship</strong></div> <div class="view view-article-slider view-id-article_slider view-display-id-article_slider_block view-dom-id-85adea07031a70539a8ca76689d1dc2b"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="views-field views-field-field-slides"> <div class="field-content"> <div class="field-collection-view clearfix view-mode-full field-collection-view-final"> <div class="entity entity-field-collection-item field-collection-item-field-slides clearfix"> <div class="content"> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-content field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"> <p>Well-intentioned people can dispense relationship advice, often unsolicited.</p> <p>Accept this advice and then ignore it. On the one hand it’s the case that those offering a sip from the holy grail of marital bliss are themselves struggling with dysfunction.</p> <p>And even where they do enjoy harmony at home, just because the advice works for them is not indicative that it’ll work for you.</p> <p>Each relationship operates according to its own norms and its own assumptions. This is a result of the unique personalities of the couple and how they engage with one another. What works for one couple<span> </span>may be disastrous for another.</p> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="views-field views-field-field-slides"> <div class="field-content"> <div class="field-collection-view clearfix view-mode-full field-collection-view-final"> <div class="entity entity-field-collection-item field-collection-item-field-slides clearfix"> <div class="content"> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-title field-type-text field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"><strong>Never say “You never” or “You always”</strong></div> </div> </div> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-content field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"> <p>In the heat of an argument people can shift their focus from specific, technical complaints - “You are 10 minutes late”- to broad all encompassing statements - “You’re always late!”</p> <p>Criticism can turn toxic when a specific issue becomes an identity; it not only who they are, but who they always are.</p> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="views-field views-field-field-slides"> <div class="field-content"> <div class="field-collection-view clearfix view-mode-full field-collection-view-final"> <div class="entity entity-field-collection-item field-collection-item-field-slides clearfix"> <div class="content"> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-title field-type-text field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"><strong>Ask for directions</strong></div> </div> </div> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-content field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"> <p>Most people when they find themselves lost ask for help; businesses engage consultants and the sick visit doctors. Relationships should be no different.</p> <p>Living as a couple will lead to conflict; this is inevitable. Although some disagreements can be negotiated by the couple alone, others cannot. It is at this point where a couple need to be mature enough to recognise their predicament and seek external professional help.</p> <p>Engaging a competent therapist during a crisis can allow the couple to gain a new perspective on the issue, as well as give them an opportunity to up skill themselves and learn how to address their own issues.</p> <p>Proud couples, like proud people, suffer unnecessarily due to their inability to ask for help.</p> <p><em>This article first appeared in </em><span><em><a href="http://www.readersdigest.com.au/true-stories-lifestyle/dos-and-donts-settling-family-feuds">Reader’s Digest</a></em></span><em>. For more of what you love from the world’s best-loved magazine, </em><span><em><a href="http://readersdigest.innovations.com.au/c/readersdigestemailsubscribe?utm_source=over60&amp;utm_medium=articles&amp;utm_campaign=RDSUB&amp;keycode=WRA87V">here’s our best subscription offer.</a></em></span></p> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <p><img style="width: 100px !important; height: 100px !important;" src="/media/7820640/1.png" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/f30947086c8e47b89cb076eb5bb9b3e2" /></p>

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Mind the gap – does age difference in relationships matter?

<p>Romantic couples with a large age gap often raise eyebrows. <a href="https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1471-6402.2007.00408.x">Studies have found</a> partners with more than a ten-year gap in age experience social disapproval. But when it comes to our own relationships, both <a href="https://doi.org/10.1017/S0140525X00067595">men and women prefer someone</a> their own age, but are open to someone 10-15 years their junior or senior.</p> <p>While there is variation across cultures in the size of the difference in age-gap couples, <a href="https://books.google.com.au/books?hl=en&amp;lr=&amp;id=wBIRsa3DfO0C&amp;oi=fnd&amp;pg=PA289&amp;ots=ZIPanjTQvR&amp;sig=wPWqfefoczfj4p3G0-3iiqnIJ4M#v=onepage&amp;q&amp;f=false">all cultures demonstrate the age-gap couple phenomenon</a>. In some non-Western countries, <a href="http://www.un.org/esa/population/publications/worldmarriage/worldmarriage.htm">the average age gap</a> is much larger than in Western countries. For example, in some African countries about 30% of unions reflect a large age gap.</p> <p>So does age matter? And do couples with large age gaps experience poorer (or better) relationship outcomes compared to couples of similar ages?</p> <p><strong>How many relationships have a big age gap?</strong></p> <p>Across Western countries, <a href="https://www.taylorfrancis.com/books/e/9781135221157/chapters/10.4324%2F9780203874370-7">about 8% of all married heterosexual couples</a> can be classified as having a large age gap (ten years or more). These generally involve older men partnered with younger women. About 1% of age-gap couples involve an older woman partnered with a younger man.</p> <p>The limited evidence on same-sex couples, however, suggests the <a href="https://www.taylorfrancis.com/books/e/9781135221157/chapters/10.4324%2F9780203874370-7">prevalence rates are higher</a>. About 25% of male-male unions and 15% of female-female unions demonstrate a large age gap.</p> <p>But what these trends tell us is that the majority of the population is likely to partner with someone of similar age. This largely has to do with having social circles that generally include peers of similar ages and being attracted to others who are similar. Similarity entails many things, including personality, interests and values, life goals and stage of life, and physical traits (age being a marker of physical appearance).</p> <p><strong>Why doesn’t age matter to some?</strong></p> <p>Many of the reasons proposed for age-gap couples have been largely rooted in evolutionary explanations, and focus on explaining older man-younger woman pairings.</p> <p>From this perspective, it’s thought men’s preferences for younger women and women’s preferences for older men relate to reproductive fitness. That is, <a href="http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1111/1467-8721.00070">the extent to which someone has “good genes”</a> – indicated by their attractiveness and sense of energy (also known as vitality) – and the extent to which they are a “good investment” – indicated by their status and resources as well as their warmth and sense of trust.</p> <p>Although men and women place importance on a partner who is warm and trustworthy, women place more importance on the status and resources of their male partner. This is largely because, with women being the child bearers, the investment is very high on their behalf (time and effort in child bearing and rearing). So they are attuned to looking for a partner who will also invest resources into a relationship and family.</p> <p>But because the building of resources takes time, we tend to acquire resources later in life and so are older by the time we have acquired enough wealth and resources to comfortably provide for others. So, women’s attunement to status and resources might explain why some women may be attracted to older men.</p> <p>In contrast, there’s evidence to suggest men value attractiveness and vitality more than women because, from an evolutionary standpoint, youth is seen as an indicator of fertility. Given men cannot bear children, evolution suggests they’re attuned to younger women to enhance the chances of partnering with someone who can provide children.</p> <p>But the evolutionary explanation is limited in that it doesn’t explain why the reverse occurs (an older woman-younger man pairing), or why age gaps exist within same-sex couples. For this, socio-cultural explanations might provide insights.</p> <p>With more women working, in higher positions and being paid more, they no longer have such a reliance on men for resources. So fewer women will prioritise resources when looking for a mate.</p> <p>As for same-sex couples, there’s very little research. <a href="https://www.taylorfrancis.com/books/e/9781135221157/chapters/10.4324%2F9780203874370-7">Some suggest a lack of</a>, or a reduced pool of, suitable age-similar mates may bring about same-sex coupling with large age differences.</p> <p><strong>What are the relationship outcomes for age-gap couples?</strong></p> <p>Many people assume that age-gap couples fare poorly when it comes to relationship outcomes. But <a href="https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1471-6402.2007.00408.x">some studies find</a> the relationship satisfaction reported by age-gap couples is higher. These couples also seem to report greater trust and commitment and lower jealousy than similar-age couples. <a href="http://psycnet.apa.org/record/2015-55834-001?doi=1">Over three-quarters</a> of couples where younger women are partnered with older men report satisfying romantic relationships.</p> <p>A factor that does impact on the relationship outcomes of age-gap couples is their perceptions of social disapproval. That is, if people in age-gap couples believe their family, friends and wider community disapprove of their union, then <a href="https://www.taylorfrancis.com/books/e/9781135221157/chapters/10.4324%2F9780203874370-7">relationship commitment decreases</a> and the risk of break-up increases.</p> <p>These effects appear to apply to heterosexual and same-sex couples. So the negative outcomes for age-gap couples seem to reside not in problems within the couple, but in pressures and judgments from the outside world.</p> <p>Another factor at play may have to do with the stage of life each partner is experiencing. For instance, a ten-year gap between a 20-year-old and a 30-year-old may bring up different challenges and issues than for a ten-year gap where one partner is 53 and the other is 63.</p> <p>This is because our lives are made up of different stages, and each stage consists of particular life tasks we need to master. And we give priority to the mastery of different tasks <a href="http://psycnet.apa.org/buy/1986-19674-001">during these distinct stages of our lives</a>. So when each member of a couple straddles a different life stage, it may be difficult for the couple to reconcile each other’s differing life needs and goals.</p> <p><strong>Does age matter?</strong></p> <p><a href="http://www.oxfordhandbooks.com/view/10.1093/oxfordhb/9780195398694.001.0001/oxfordhb-9780195398694">The success of a relationship</a> depends on the extent to which partners share similar values, beliefs and goals about their relationship; support each other in achieving personal goals; foster relationship commitment, trust and intimacy; and resolve problems in constructive ways. These factors have little do with age.</p> <p>So the reality is, while an age gap may bring about some challenges for couples, so long as couples work at their relationship, age should be no barrier.<!-- Below is The Conversation's page counter tag. 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Why you have never heard Roger Federer’s wife Mirka speak

<p>Roger Federer biographer Simon Graf has spilled the beans on what Federer is like and how consciously he guides his career.</p> <p>Graf has recently published a book on Federer, with 15 essays elaborating about the tennis star’s life.</p> <p>Although Federer has no plans to release a biography of his own, Graf explained in an interview to <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.tennisnet.com/news/buchautor-simon-graf-roger-federer-fuehrt-seine-karriere-sehr-bewusst" target="_blank">tennisnet </a>that with the hours of research and interviews conducted with those around Federer, the book is as close as we’re getting.</p> <p>“In Basel, I gave him a copy of the book, and he was pleased that it was going so well. It is important to him that the picture of him is right. The people around him found that I met him well,” Graf explained.</p> <p>However, a question that has been on everyone’s lips is why the rest of Federer’s team never says a word to the press. Mirka Federer, his partner of nearly two decades, hasn’t spoken to the press for years.</p> <p><img style="width: 0px; height: 0px;" src="/media/7823060/federer-mirka-2.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/ab53fde9c2cf4fe78e2814a9b17e6805" /></p> <p>“Roger likes to keep control, he does not want everyone in the team talking. Physio Daniel Troxler does not speak, Ivan Ljubicic does not, Mirka does not speak either.</p> <p>“Severin Lüthi speaks, I think that's good too. Because he is always underestimated. By now people know what he understands about tennis, that he is an important figure for Roger.</p> <p>“Otherwise: Roger speaks a lot, so he makes up for everything. But he also does not want to reveal private details.”</p> <p>This is also the reason he is so successful in the world of tennis, according to Graf.</p> <p>“That he [Federer] himself retains control is one of the reasons why he is so successful. He leads his career very consciously.</p> <p>"Federer is always very nice, but he is not one who always wants to please everyone. He made his way very straightforward and made tough decisions along the way."</p> <p>Are you a fan of Roger Federer and the way he conducts himself in the tennis arena? Let us know in the comments.</p>

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Think your sex life is over after 40? Hardly

<div class="view view-article-slider view-id-article_slider view-display-id-article_slider_block view-dom-id-7f26b20057cdfee560cdb55129dbe52f"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="views-field views-field-field-slides"> <div class="field-content"> <div class="field-collection-view clearfix view-mode-full field-collection-view-final"> <div class="entity entity-field-collection-item field-collection-item-field-slides clearfix"> <div class="content"> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-content field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"> <p><strong>You may need to put a little more work into it</strong></p> <p>You can thank declines in hormone levels for the fact that you may not be ready to go at a moment's notice. "Both men and women deal with hormone changes in their 40s that can cause changes in sexual arousal, desire and general physical comfort during sexual activity," says Shannon Chavez, PsyD, CST, a licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist in Los Angeles.</p> <p>"Changes in hormones may require an increase in stimulation during sexual activity or increased focus on sensual pleasuring in order to get aroused."</p> <p><strong>You may be wilder in the sack</strong></p> <p>Think you're in for the same old, same old if you're in a long-term relationship?</p> <p>Think again—that's just one of the many myths about ageing.</p> <p>"Couples in their 40s are having some of the best sex of their lives—they have more permission and motivation to explore different aspects of sexuality," Dr. Chavez says.</p> <p>"Couples may try kink, role play, watch erotica together, open their relationship or try Tantra in their 40s. Couples are more open to exploring at this age due to sexual confidence, a stronger sense of sexual self, desire to make sex more playful, or feeling deeper emotional bonding for more meaningful and passionate sex."</p> <p><strong>You'll need to start paying attention to your heart health</strong></p> <p>We're not talking about the state of your love life. Your cardiovascular system is key to a thriving sex life.</p> <p>"A healthy cardiovascular system is essential to sexual functioning," says Gracie Landes, a licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sexual therapist in New York City.</p> <p>"Maintaining good physical health is important." That means keeping up with your cardio, but don't skimp on the strength training, either. You'll have more energy for fun in the sack, and the confidence that comes with looking better always helps—heck, even just going to the gym increases libido.</p> <p><strong>You may go through a lull - and that's OK</strong></p> <p>Sexual desire may fluctuate—and you might be starting to head into the slow decline that comes for many couples as they age.</p> <p>"A lull in your sex life, no matter what age, is inevitable," says Dr. Chavez.</p> <p>"People in long-term relationships get comfortable and may lose the routines around sex that worked in earlier phases of the relationship like getting ready for sex, taking each other out on dates, flirting, and being playful with one another. Couples are not always talking about sex in healthy ways that enhance desire for connection. The important part is being able to talk about it with your partner or a professional."</p> <p><strong>It may get really boring if you're trying to conceive</strong></p> <p>The quantity and quality of a woman's eggs decreases significantly as she ages—making conception after 40 more challenging. If you're still looking to expand your family, you may find yourself engaged in fertility treatments and lots of not-so-successful baby-making sex. And that can make sex feel, well, a little bit like doing dishes.</p> <p>"For those struggling to conceive later in life, sex can become a chore," Landes says.</p> <p><strong>Women may be more orgasmic</strong></p> <p>You may see myths that claim that older women lose their ability to orgasm, but experts say that women over 40 may find more pleasure in sex than they ever did before. "For some women, orgasm becomes easier with experience, self-confidence, and comfort," Landes says. If fact, many women may find discover a second phase to their sexual experience: They know what it takes to get there and aren't shy about making it happen.</p> <p><strong>Guys can hold out longer</strong></p> <p>There's an upside to the decline in hormone levels over this decade: Men over 40 find themselves lasting longer than they did in the past. "As men age they are often better able to delay orgasm," Landes says. "They can slow down and enjoy the experience more fully in a more connected way."</p> <p><strong>You may need to break out the lube - or the estrogen cream</strong></p> <p>Blame hormones for the fact that sex gets a whole lot drier after 40. "Fluctuating estrogen levels and irregular menstrual periods can bring discomfort," Landes says. "The vaginal walls start to become thinner, more easily irritated, more likely to bleed or tear." The cure? Invest in lube—and some doctors will recommend oestrogen cream applied to the area to help with dryness.</p> </div> <div class="field-item even"> <p><em>Written by Lisa Milbrand. This article first appeared in </em><a href="http://www.readersdigest.com.au/true-stories-lifestyle/think-your-sex-life-over-after-40-hardly"><span><em>Reader’s Digest</em></span></a><em>. For more of what you love from the world’s best-loved magazine, </em><span><em><a href="http://readersdigest.innovations.com.au/c/readersdigestemailsubscribe?utm_source=over60&amp;utm_medium=articles&amp;utm_campaign=RDSUB&amp;keycode=WRA87V">here’s our best subscription offer</a>.</em></span></p> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <p><img style="width: 100px !important; height: 100px !important;" src="/media/7820640/1.png" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/f30947086c8e47b89cb076eb5bb9b3e2" /></p>

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Bride-to-be labelled as “ungrateful brat” for hating engagement ring

<p>A bride-to-be has been slammed as “ungrateful” after she complained that her partner proposed to her with a family heirloom instead of the “blingy” ring she had originally asked for.</p> <p>The anonymous woman took to online forum<span> </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.weddingbee.com/" target="_blank">Wedding Bee</a><span> </span>to discuss her “hate” for the ring that her boyfriend of 10 years proposed with.</p> <p>“A few months ago, my boyfriend asked me to send him photos of the ring styles I liked and I told him exactly what I wanted,” she wrote, describing her dream jewel as a “larger canary yellow diamond ring on yellow gold”.</p> <p>She further added, “I like really blingy looks.”</p> <p>Shortly after, his family got involved. “His mother called me later … she wanted me to have his grandmother’s ring.”</p> <p>The proposal finally came early in the year. “The ring he gave him is with his grandmother’s diamond which I didn’t want and I’m suppose [sic] to pass it down to our future children,” she wrote.</p> <p>“At first I liked the ring … but the more days that go by the more I hate it.”</p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet" data-lang="en-gb"> <p dir="ltr">'Ungrateful' woman HATES her family heirloom engagement ring  <a href="https://t.co/w1gDRdRvOF">https://t.co/w1gDRdRvOF</a> <a href="https://t.co/KGLLI8Q8V6">pic.twitter.com/KGLLI8Q8V6</a></p> — The Scottish Sun (@ScottishSun) <a href="https://twitter.com/ScottishSun/status/1085850579073683456?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">17 January 2019</a></blockquote> <p>People were quick to call her out for being a “brat”.</p> <p>“That’s a big blingy ring,” wrote one user. “You sound extremely ungrateful. Hate is such a strong word. That’s his grandmothers ring that you say you hate. How disrespectful.”</p> <p>“I understand you’re disappointed it isn’t the large yellow diamond you wanted, but the stone you got is lovely,” said another. “I wouldn’t say anything until you’ve let a lot of time pass, because it will sound extremely ungrateful.”</p> <p>However, others sympathised with the woman, saying the bride-to-be’s disappointment was understandable.</p> <p>“I don’t think it’s ungrateful at all to want to love your ring!” one said. “You should probably talk about it (calmly) with him before any resentment builds.”</p> <p>“I’m not a fan of the idea that a woman should just shut up and be happy that their boyfriend proposed,” another user chimed in. “You have to wear this ring and be proud of it every day – not him, not his mother.”</p> <p>Do you think the woman has the right to be angry? Let us know in the comments below.</p>

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“Painful memories”: Grant Denyer’s wife breaks down in tears on radio

<p>Chezzi Denyer, the beloved wife of the much admired Grant Denyer, has shared a painful memory of her husband when he was dealing with strong medication.</p> <p>Chezzi broke down in tears when she called into the 2Day FM breakfast show on Thursday morning, to discuss his 2008 Monster Truck accident that left her then-newly boyfriend with a broken back.</p> <p>The near-fatal crash resulted in a struggle with prescription drugs, a time he speaks candidly about today.</p> <p>The horrific accident found the podcast creator of <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mummytimeco/?hl=en">Mummytimeco</a> as his full-time caregiver, as she aided in nursing him back to health as soon as he returned home from hospital.</p> <p>The talk show host recalls the impact the medication he was taking during his recovery was a “horrific” experience.</p> <p>“The one thing that nobody ever tells you when you do an injury and the hospital never lets you go telling you, is that the medication is often worse than the actual injury itself,” he said on air.</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/BrWpk8uHUHD/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;"><a style="color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/BrWpk8uHUHD/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" target="_blank">My lil’ mad fam bam</a></p> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;">A post shared by <a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/grantdenyer/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" target="_blank"> Grant Denyer</a> (@grantdenyer) on Dec 13, 2018 at 8:12pm PST</p> </div> </blockquote> <p> </p> <p>“I could barely walk. I would wake up from a horrific dream and go and try and find my wife thinking there was a home invasion and thinking that she was being sexually attacked. I would crawl along the floor to try and fight off attackers that just weren’t there.”</p> <p>“I’d hallucinate where I couldn’t tell the difference between dreams and reality. The moment you close your eyes you go into your worst and most horrific fears and when you wake up you don’t know the difference between that being real or not,” he said.</p> <p>Grant says after a few months he made the decision to no longer be reliant on painkillers, one that was made for the sake of healing properly.</p> <p>He said it was “an ugly process that can do a lot of damage to a relationship. You tend to say things that you do not mean because you have no control over the roller coaster of emotions.”</p> <p>The mother of two says she attended counselling sessions to heal from the ordeal.</p> <p>“…He honestly believed he would never walk again and we had no real outside help. When we brought him home from hospital, I’m not a nurse, I didn’t know what I was doing,” she recalled on air.</p> <p>In tears, she described how difficult it was to help Grant wean off his medication.</p> <p>“Some of the things that we went through would test any relationship,” she said.</p> <p>The painful memories the couple both recalled made them both audibly emotional.</p> <p>“I said things that I had no control over,” the father of two said before saying, “I am so forever sorry for it.”</p> <p>For Chezzi though, this relationship’s tough times were worth it to her in the end.</p> <p>“I knew that I loved him.”</p>

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Deborah Knight admits she can't remember the moment she met her husband

<div> <div class="replay"> <div class="reply_body body linkify"> <div class="reply_body"> <div class="body_text "> <p>Deborah Knight has been with her partner for 20 years. It was after 7 years of knowing each other that they decided to tie the knot. It sounds like a very romantic story.</p> <p>Only problem is, she can’t remember meeting him. Knight was working for ABC’s<span> </span><em>Landline</em><span> </span>in Canberra and was interviewing a politician in Parliament House. This was where her now partner Lindsay Dunbar was working.</p> <p>“I was so focused on the interview and doing the job that he didn’t really register,” she tells <a rel="noopener" href="https://honey.nine.com.au/2018/06/15/15/07/how-we-met-deborah-knight" target="_blank">9Honey.<span> </span></a>“I had the blinkers on.”</p> <p>However, she got to know him a bit more as they worked together in the Canberra press gallery.</p> <p>“It is a cliché that a lot of relationships are formed in the press gallery amongst journalists – and staffers, obviously, as seen in recent events unfolding through federal politics,” Knight explained.</p> <p>“It’s a hotbed of romance, because you’re working together so closely.”</p> <p>It was at a friend’s farewell party that Knight made the first move.</p> <p>“And I said we should perhaps talk a bit more,” Knight says.</p> <p>“He was happy to go along with that suggestion.”</p> <p>As the pair got to know each other, there would soon be a make or break moment for the couple. Knight was appointed US correspondent for Channel Ten, which is a position that would take her overseas for at least a few years.</p> <p>“He decided to come and join me. At that point, I realised he was serious, and I was happy for him to come too. So that was the moment I thought, ‘OK, this is a long-term thing.’”</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/Br0nsKQBAtD/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;"><a style="color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/Br0nsKQBAtD/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" target="_blank">Hope you had a wonderful Christmas with family and friends.</a></p> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;">A post shared by <a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/deborah_knight/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" target="_blank"> Deborah Knight</a> (@deborah_knight) on Dec 25, 2018 at 11:33am PST</p> </div> </blockquote> <p>Despite the pair being together for as long as they have, and having three children together, Knight says that their marriage is always a work in progress.</p> <p>“You have to be patient with each other, you have to be kind to one another and you’ve got to give each other space to do your own thing – not to suffocate each other.</p> <p>Do you remember the moment you met your partner? Tell us in the comments below. </p> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div></div>

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5 secrets of super happy couples

<p>There are at least three pressure areas in relationships once couples are aged 50+, says <a href="http://couplestherapyaustralia.com/">Peter Fox</a>, couples therapist. If we can control the A.B.C. of relationship isssues then we are at least off to a great start.</p> <p><strong>A) Financial pressure: </strong>This can affect couples in their second marriage more so than those in their first. The former have to re-build their finances including superannuation, and recoup losses from the family home, for example. As a result the couple becomes time-poor during a period in which they crave quality time together.</p> <p><strong>B) Step-family or blended-family relationships: </strong>The children in the family can be from a wide range of ages and each responds to a new family set up differently. Sometimes grown up children from the first family become estranged. Each generation of children is dealing with multiple new relationships and these can require a great deal of attention and management. Whatever the situation is, how does the couple at the head of the family find time for each other?</p> <p><strong>C) Chronic illness: </strong>Fox says new pressures arrive when one member of the couple, sometimes the one who had previously been the main decision maker, develops a chronic illness. As a result of the illness, their roles must reverse. A similar relationship turning point occurs when the previous main breadwinner is made redundant and becomes financially dependent on their spouse. A crisis of relevance may accompany this.</p> <p>The great news is that there is plenty that people can do, even if they’re in a perfectly healthy relationship, to increase happiness in their 'togetherness'.</p> <p>Here, we look at long-term changes you can start to implement in order to help support a happy relationship.</p> <p><strong>Tip 1: Prepare for ‘longevity risk’ </strong></p> <p>Most people anticipate an active life until the age of 75, but 75 is now considered to be young. In Australia, people have a good chance of living to 90 and beyond, and of staying healthy and active until that time. But do they have finances in place to take them through to that age? Looking ahead and planning for the future can be one of the keys to maintaining romantic love.</p> <p>“Plan financially and practically for the possibility of being alive and together and healthy until you’re beyond 90 and that will take away a lot of the stress couples can experience as they age,” Fox says. “It’s not just about finances, but also being close to family, in a suitable house and having access to support.”</p> <p><strong>Tip 2: Cultivate younger friendships </strong></p> <p>“We have a tendency to grow old around other people of the same age,” Fox says. “This means we all face the same difficulties and require the same sort of support at the same time. If your kids are busy, or are not nearby, it really helps to have someone younger who can drop in, check you’re okay and help out with the shopping.”</p> <p>A good relationship with people in a younger generation, Fox adds, can also be stimulating. It can help keep a relationship young and lively and inspire change and passion. “It keeps your outlook young, and that can be of real benefit to a relationship,” he says.</p> <p><strong>Tip 3: Get your shared priorities straight </strong></p> <p>How often do you find you’re distracted by responsibility for your grandchildren, or by other activities not directly related to your relationship? And are you sure that you’re on the same page in terms of how you feel about specific activities?</p> <p>Fox tells a story of a couple he counselled. The wife thought she was a long way down her husband’s list of priorities because he was always in the garage working on the car. He felt he was putting her at the top of the list because the car was to take them on a trip around Australia.</p> <p>“Have a check-in every few months about your real priorities and whether they are in alignment,” Fox says. “Figure out what it is in your life that is distracting you from those real priorities as a couple, and what you can do to re-balance. Often what couples say their priorities are and what their activities indicate are quite different.”</p> <p><strong>Tip 4: Enjoy your lives apart </strong></p> <p>This is simply ensuring you have a separate life and interests.</p> <p>“Make sure there is something in your life that you do away from your partner, and that you are truly passionate about,” Fox recommends. “If you are passionate about something then it brings a great deal of stimulation back into the relationship.”</p> <p>And it’s not just a feel-good suggestion, Fox says. A hobby or some other activity also introduces other vital ingredients into a relationship. It’s no secret, for instance, that a healthy social network is a great contributor to health and happiness. If you are able to introduce each other to new networks via your individual passions then it will be enormously beneficial to your relationship.</p> <p><strong>Tip 5: Share a leisure activity</strong></p> <p>The flipside to the previous point is that you should also share an activity you are both passionate about. Fox regularly sees a large group of kayakers in his local area heading off to yet another social or competitive event. Many are 50+, couples who paddle two-seater kayaks.</p> <p>“This ticks all the boxes,” Fox says. “They have shared leisure, develop a social network, and get out in the fresh air for some great exercise.”</p> <p>What are your secrets to a happy relationship? Let us know in the comments section below.</p> <p><em>Written by Chris Sheedy. Republished with permission of <a href="https://www.wyza.com.au/articles/lifestyle/relationships/5-secrets-of-super-happy-couples.aspx">Wyza.com.au.</a></em></p>

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Inside Princess Diana’s complicated relationship with her mother

<p>It’s no secret that Princess Diana and her mother had a complicated relationship.</p> <p>It is said that Diana’s relationships with different men after her marriage with Prince Charles ended, is the reason behind the feud with her mother Frances Shand Kydd.</p> <p>Diana was famously linked to many high profile men, including heart surgeon Hasnat Khan, businessman Gulu Lalvani and son of Egyptian billionaire Dodi Fayed.</p> <p>But after discovering details about one relationship in particular, Frances had decided to unleash on the late Princess.</p> <p>Speaking to <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/princess-dianas-explosive-feud-mum-13090276" target="_blank"><em>The Mirror</em></a>, Diana’s former butler Paul Burrell recounted what happened the day an emotional Diana was on the receiving end of an abusive phone call from her mother.</p> <p>“I heard her call, ‘Paul come quick’,” he said.</p> <p>“She waved me over with her hand. I joined her on the floor cross-legged and stuck close beside her. I leant my ear as near to the phone as possible and listened to the conversation – albeit one-way.</p> <p>“It was the slurring voice of Ms Frances Shand Kydd. What I heard was a torrent of abuse, swearing and upsetting innuendo towards the Princess and towards the male company she was keeping.</p> <p>“It was a hate-filled personal attack on the men and their religious beliefs.”</p> <p>The exact words that were said were revealed in a documentary Burrell was featured in.</p> <p>“[She said] you’re nothing but a prostitute and a whore, that’s what I’ve brought up, a prostitute,” Burrell shared.</p> <p>Diana then reportedly told him: “Paul, I’ll never speak to my mother again as long as I live.”</p> <p>Prior to Diana’s tragic death, Frances had a few things to say to <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/1463517/Obituary-Frances-Shand-Kydd.html" target="_blank"><em>Hello! Magazine</em></a>.</p> <p>Speaking on the topic of Diana’s divorce and her battle with bulimia, Frances said it was “absolutely wonderful” that the late royal had lost her HRH title.</p> <p>Her interview haunted Diana and according to Burrell, Diana never spoke to her mother again.</p>

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The surprise matchmaker behind Roger Federer and wife Mirka's first kiss

<p>Although tennis superstar Roger Federer exudes class and confidence, that’s not the way it’s always been.</p> <p>The 20 time Grand Slam winner revealed just how awkward his first kiss was with his now wife, Mirka Federer.</p> <p>It happened in Australia, during the 2000 Sydney Olympic Games.</p> <p>"We were both playing for Switzerland in tennis," Federer remembered, "and then we spent two weeks together in those dorms.</p> <p>“We were together with the wrestlers and all the other cool athletes. I guess over the two weeks, we built up some chemistry."</p> <p>It turns out that the other “cool athletes” might’ve had an idea as to the budding chemistry, and it came to a head when one of them suggested that Federer makes a move.</p> <p>"He said, 'Hey, kiss her now.'"</p> <p>Federer giggles: "And I'm like, 'No, I don't know, maybe, should I?' So, anyway, I did."</p> <p>As he was hyperaware of the age difference between them (it’s only three years, but when you’re a teenager, it can feel like 10!), Federer tried to beef up the age difference.</p> <p>"She told me I was so young when she kissed me. I tried to tell her I was almost 18-and-a-half. I tried to sneak in a quarter year."</p> <p>Mirka mustn’t have seemed to mind too much, as the pair have been married since 2009. The happy couple now have two sets of twins, eight-year-old girls, Charlene and Myla, as well as four-year-old boys Lenny and Leo, and the happy family keeps a low profile.</p> <p>Do you remember your first kiss with your partner? Was it as smooth as Federers’? Let us know in the comments below.</p>

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