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The exact moment Queen Elizabeth II knew Prince Philip was the one

<p>This year, the Queen and Prince Philip celebrated their 71st wedding together after tying the knot in Westminster Abbey on November 20, 1947.</p> <p>The couple have overcome many adversities together and their marriage is the longest of any British sovereign.</p> <p>The duo first met when Elizabeth was just eight, at the wedding of Princess Marina of Greece and Denmark (Philip’s cousin) and Prince George, Duke of Kent (Elizabeth’s uncle) in 1934.</p> <p>However, they crossed paths again five years later and it was on this day that the then heir-to-the throne fell in love with her future husband.</p> <p>When Elizabeth was 13, she visited the Royal Naval College in Dartmouth with her sister Margaret and her parents.</p> <p>Speaking on <a href="https://honey.nine.com.au"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>9Honey</strong></span></a>’s <em style="font-weight: inherit;">The Windsors</em> podcast, royal commentator Victoria Arbiter says: “[The princesses] were escorted around the property by an 18-year-old blonde-haired blue-eyed midshipman, Prince Philip, who was charged with taking care of the girls while the royal parents were off doing duties."</p> <p>“She was totally in lust, I think," says Juliet Rieden, author of <em style="font-weight: inherit;">The Royals in Australia</em>.</p> <p>"He was devilishly handsome. People at the time said that he looked like a Greek God, this shock of blonde hair, he was very tall, he was very muscular."</p> <p>On the weekend of the royal family’s Dartmouth visit, Philip joined them for dinner on their yacht.</p> <p>Elizabeth’s infatuation with the officer was noticed by Lord Louis Mountbatten, an aide to the King who was also on the trip.</p> <p>It was several years before the couple dated because of Elizabeth’s age, however, Arbiter believes that moment was when their relationship began.</p> <p>Rieden explains, "It’s been widely reported that the Queen was smitten the minute she met him. That was it.</p> <p>"Of course, she was only 13 and he was 18, so they wrote letters to each other while he was off on naval service. They were writing to each other all the time."</p> <p>In 1946, Philip asked King George VI for permission to marry his daughter and the future Queen.</p> <p>The King agreed on the condition that the official announcement would not be made until Elizabeth turned 21 the following April.</p>

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Bride-to-be’s heartless reaction to sister’s miscarriage prompts groom to cancel their wedding

<p>A heartless bride caused her groom to call off their wedding after he witnessed her cruel reaction to news of her sister’s miscarriage.</p> <p>The bride’s wedding planner shared the horrific story on the website <a href="https://notalwaysright.com/"><strong style="font-style: inherit;"><u>Not Always Right</u></strong></a>, explaining that the drama first began when the sister first announced that she pregnant.</p> <p>After the sister, who was also chosen to be a bridesmaid for the wedding, revealed that she was pregnant, the bride became enraged and called it “inconvenient”.</p> <p>“The Bridezilla informed her that her pregnancy is inconvenient and threw a fit at her poor timing because the dress will have to be altered to handle the pregnancy,” she wrote.</p> <p>“I fled to another room and shut the door, but they were having it out so loudly I could still hear the fight,” the wedding planner recalled. </p> <p>The sister reminded the bride that she and her partner had been struggling to conceive for three years.</p> <p>“While the wedding may be your day, you knew what I was going through to get the chance to have a baby,” the sister said.</p> <p>The heartless bride then kicked her out of the bridal party, saying: “Well, then, I guess you can’t be in my wedding, because I don’t want to deal with the problems your pregnancy will cause.”</p> <p>The sister walked out of the meeting and the wedding planner said she had to put on her “best retail face” to continue on with their session.</p> <p>A few months later, the wedding planner was in a meeting with the bride and her mum when the mum excused herself to answer a phone call.</p> <p>After spending a while on the phone, the mum returned with a red face and tears in her eyes, letting her daughter know that the sister had lost her baby.</p> <p>The wedding planner’s heart immediately broke and she felt sympathy tears beginning to form in her eyes.</p> <p>However, the bride remained unaffected by the devastating news.</p> <p>“Oh. Well, I guess she can be in my wedding, then, since she’s not pregnant anymore,” the bride responded.</p> <p>The wedding planner said the mum’s eyes “snapped” before she proceeded to say in a “deadly calm voice” that she would no longer be paying for the wedding.</p> <p>“It looks like my daughter will be taking over paying for everything,” she told the wedding planner.</p> <p>“I hope this doesn’t cause your business any trouble.”</p> <p>The bride immediately started to panic, "waving her arms” and “screeching horrified questions” that the mum refused to answer.</p> <p>The wedding planner explained that the groom was also exposed to the bride’s heartlessness shortly after.</p> <p>“The wedding was cancelled entirely, twenty-four hours later, by the would-be groom,” she revealed at the end of the post. </p>

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Update: Cassandra Thorburn denies she swiped Karl Stefanovic and his new bride

<p>Just three days before her ex-husband Karl Stefanovic ties the knot with his 34-year-old fiancee, Cassandra Thorburn has responded to headlines that she criticised the <em>Today</em> host and his bride-to-be.</p> <p>Stefanovic, 44, will say “I do” to shoe designer Jasmine Yarbrough in Mexico on Saturday, a year after finalising his divorce from his 21-year marriage to Thorburn. </p> <p>The mum-of-three has hit back at reports, saying that her comments were taken out of context.</p> <p>Speaking to the <a href="https://www.dailymail.co.uk"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><em>Daily Mail</em></strong></span></a>, she said: “The bullying campaign by the media to make me out as a bitter ex-wife is disgraceful.”</p> <p>While leaving the Justice Professional by Just Cuts event at Luna Park, Thorburn criticised women who place an importance on appearance and fashion, the industry Yarbrough is making a name for herself in.</p> <p>“Anyone who knows knows me at all knows I have never believed following fashion is a good thing,” she added. </p> <p>“Women should dress in what makes them feel good. It is not a competition. That's what I said on the panel. They have been my views forever. Individuality and accepting ourselves for who we each are is what we should strive for.”</p> <p>Thorburn said that fashion trends were not important to her as her focus is being a busy mother who runs around after her family.</p> <p>“(Life) is not a fashion show, it’s not a competition. It is not a competition on going out and dressing up. I have been judged on my appearance … I don’t agree with it,” she said.</p> <p>“How I turn up to pick up my kids from school that day depends on what I have been doing. I might have been cleaning toilets, we all do it.”</p> <p>Speaking to the <a href="https://www.dailytelegraph.com.au/"><strong><em><u>Daily Telegraph</u></em></strong></a>, Thorburn said she was “doing great” as she left the women’s event.</p> <p>However, the 47-year-old refused to answer personal questions about how she was feeling in the lead-up to Stefanovic’s nuptials and declined to pose on her own for photos.</p> <p>Stefanovic and Thorburn share three children together. On Sunday, Thorburn’s two youngest children Ava, 13, and River, 11, flew to Mexico with their father and future stepmother.</p> <p>The wedding will take place at the prestigious One &amp; Only Palmilla Resort in San Jose del Cabo.</p> <p>The resort is a favourite for many celebrities include Cameron Diaz and Jennifer Aniston.</p> <p>Reportedly, Stefanovic and his fiancée forked out tens of thousands of dollars on accommodation for their guest list.</p> <p>It is believed that his long-time friend James Packer will be best man, with the guest list including model Jordan Barrett, Alan Jones and Yarbrough’s business partner Tamie Ingham.</p> <p>Stefanovic’s <em>Today</em> co-host, Georgie Gardner, was invited to the wedding but is unable to attend due to family holiday plans.</p> <p>On Saturday, Yarbrough will wear a wedding dress designed by Jess Andreatta, who recently revealed the gown would reflect “the location and overall vibe of the wedding”. </p>

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This may be the secret to happiness in relationships

<p><strong><em>Susan Krauss Whitbourne is a professor of Psychology and Brain Sciences at the University of Massachusetts Amherst. She writes the Fulfilment at Any Age blog for Psychology Today.</em></strong></p> <p><span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/laughter">Laughter</a></span> can be, if not the best, at least <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201007/laughter-certain-types-can-be-the-best-medicine">great medicine</a></span> for your personal <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/health">health</a></span>. You may not be aware, however, of the many <em>relationship</em> health benefits of sharing a smile or laugh. Couples who successfully navigate their inevitable periods of conflict and disagreement in long-term <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/relationships">relationships</a></span> know how best to use <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201206/the-12-ties-bind-long-term-relationships">constructive, rather than destructive</a></span>, methods of resolution. In <em>constructive</em> conflict resolution, you focus on the <em>problem</em>, not the <em>person</em>; in <em>destructive</em> conflict resolution, you make things <em>personal</em>.</p> <p>A key component to relationship health is that happy couples know how to relish their happy moments together. It seems obvious that sharing the joys of everyday life with your partner could promote your long-term bond. When you laugh with your partner, you’re serving as a source of positive reinforcement. As your partner increasingly comes to associate you with rewarding experiences, you boost your partner’s <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/motivation">motivation</a></span> to be with you (and vice versa).</p> <p>Positive emotions do more than provide psychological comfort, however. According to University College of London’s Sophie K. Scott and colleagues (2014):</p> <p><em>“Laughter is one of the positive emotional expressions, which are expressly linked to a physiological reduction in the stressful reactions to negative emotions (e.g., </em><span><em><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/fear">fear</a></em></span><em>, </em><span><em><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/anger">anger</a></em></span><em>, disgust), in a way which may be more effective than other ways of managing negative emotions” (pp. 619-620).</em></p> <p>Laughing helps your body as well as your mind: Scott and her <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/teamwork">team</a></span> bolstered their argument with evidence taken from a long-term study of middle-aged and older married couples. That study focused on the general relationship benefits of being able to manage emotions. Called "<span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201502/5-ways-get-your-unwanted-emotions-under-control">emotion regulation,</a></span>" this is essentially the ability to make yourself feel better when you feel bad. If you’re capable of emotion regulation, you can put the brakes on such negative emotions as anger, frustration and hostility. You can also keep humorous reactions in bounds, reflecting the situation as appropriate (unlike the “<span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201503/does-everyone-really-love-joker-does-anyone">class clown</a></span>”).</p> <p>Stanford University psychologist Lian Bloch and collaborators (2014) used data from a 13-year study of heterosexual marriages among middle-aged and older couples to examine whether the ones who used the process of “downregulating” negative emotion (i.e., getting themselves to feel better) would be better able to cope when faced with relationship strife. The researchers examined the predictive power of negative downregulation as the first assessment on marital satisfaction over the course of the 13 years of the study.</p> <p>In a long-term study such as this, you could argue from the “correlation doesn’t equal causation” perspective that the same quality that allows couples to regulate negative emotions at one point in time allows them to feel more satisfied with each other. Only a true experiment could rule out this possibility. Because earlier scores were being used statistically to predict later outcomes, however, there’s also a strong case to be made for a directional arrow from downregulation at one point in time to marital satisfaction in the following years.</p> <p>On each testing occasion, the Stanford study brought married couples to a lab session during which they spent 15 minutes each talking about:</p> <ul> <li>events of the day;</li> <li>a topic of continued disagreement; and</li> <li>a pleasant topic or something they enjoyed doing together.</li> </ul> <p>Their physiological reactions were monitored at the same time, and participants also rated their emotions during these encounters. Participants also rated the quality of their own conflict resolution, and whether it was constructive or destructive in <u><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/environment">nature</a></u>. </p> <p>The key question, then, was whether emotion regulation would predict marital satisfaction. However, the data were also broken down by spouse (husband vs. wife) so the researchers could also examine <em>whose </em>downregulation was more important for the relationship’s long-term health. The subtitle of the article – “More than a Wives’ Tale" – gives away the punch line because the <em>wife’s</em> downregulation more successfully predicted marital satisfaction over time. Her ability to communicate constructively played the key role in making good things happen long-term.</p> <p>We know from this study, then, that regulating negative emotions (by wives in particular) is helpful in maintaining relationship bonds. How do the findings relate to the sharing of positive emotions? Were couples benefited at all by focusing on an enjoyable, mutual activity? Berkeley psychologist Joyce Yuan and colleagues (2010), using the same married couples in the Bloch <em>et al.</em> research, found that couples who experienced positive emotions were better able to calm themselves physiologically as well. Positive emotions, in short, “have the capacity to ‘undo’ physiological arousal” (p. 471).</p> <p>Laughter is certainly one of the strongest reactions we have to positive emotions. You may smile when you’re feeling good, but you’ll only laugh if something strikes you as out-and-out funny. Scott and her team noted that people laugh surprisingly often, perhaps as much as 5 times in a 10-minute conversation. </p> <p>People also tend to laugh more at what <em>they</em> say than at what <em>others </em>contribute to the dialogue, according to the Scott<em> </em>et al. analysis. We seem to use laughter more as a tool in communicating our thoughts to others than in reacting to what those around us are trying to communicate. (The next time you're chatting with a friend or your partner, take note of the times you laugh and see if this observation matches your own experience.)</p> <p>Returning to the research, these findings suggest that you may be able to control the emotional climate of your relationship <em>by bringing laughter into it</em>. At first, it might seem strange or forced, but over time, you may find that you and your partner actually find more to laugh about in common. Press the pause button on conflicts before they become destructive and take a moment to put things in perspective. Who knows? Once you take that step back, the whole situation may become laughable. As difficult as it might be the first time, getting in the habit of downregulating together may be the best medicine for long-term relationship fulfillment.</p> <p><em>Written by Susan Krauss Whitbourne. Republished with permission of <span><strong><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201506/may-be-the-secret-happiness-in-relationships">Psychology Today.</a></strong></span> </em></p>

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“I’m in love with him”: Terri Irwin sets the record straight on romance rumours with Russell Crowe

<p>After making headlines last year over speculation that she’s Russell Crowe’s new beau, Terri Irwin has spoken out and set the record straight.</p> <p>Terri, 54, featured on<span> </span><em>The Sunday Project</em><span> </span>and spoke about her admiration for the Oscar-winning actor as she jokingly claimed she was mad about him.</p> <p>Speaking to Lisa Wilkinson, the wife of the late Crocodile Hunter said: “I am in love with him, I have to admit it.</p> <p>“I am desperately and totally in love.”</p> <p>But it was the look on her face that gave it away, as her sly smirk revealed that the mother-of-two was only joking.</p> <p>The wildlife conservationist continued to make light of the situation as Lisa asked, “Does he know about that?” to which she replied saying she was calling him after the show to let him know.</p> <p>But despite the witty remarks, Terri spoke about the high level of respect she holds for the<span> </span><em>Gladiator</em><span> </span>star as like her, he also holds animals close to his heart.</p> <p>“I do love Russell,” she said, as she touched on their close friendship.</p> <p>She continued: “I do really, really think the world of him.</p> <p>“He loves wildlife, he is very considerate about helping what we are doing and is a good guy.”</p> <p>After the death of Steve Irwin in 2006, Terri and Russell formed a close friendship.</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/BibTY1OB_-9/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/BibTY1OB_-9/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" target="_blank">A post shared by Australia Zoo (@australiazoo)</a> on May 5, 2018 at 11:52pm PDT</p> </div> </blockquote> <p>Russell has previously discussed his admiration for Steve and his family, as he was good friends with the late zookeeper.</p> <p>“I was great friends with Steve and his wife and his kids are really important to me. They’re beautiful people,” he told <em><span> </span></em><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.newscorpaustralia.com/" target="_blank"><em>Newscorp</em></a>.</p> <p>And even though rumours surrounding Terri and Russell were rife, that didn’t stop him from gushing over her.</p> <p>“Terri is one of the greatest women I’ve ever met in my life, without there being implication of intimacy or whatever,” he said.</p> <p>“You know I do love Terri Irwin, I love her kids and I love how she’s kept the memory of Steve alive, and respected the work that the two of them had begun and she’s an absolute champion.”</p>

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Is it better to be loyal or honest in your relationship?

<p><strong><em>Susan Krauss Whitbourne is a professor of Psychology and Brain Sciences at the University of Massachusetts Amherst. She writes the Fulfilment at Any Age blog for Psychology Today.</em></strong></p> <p>An old friend is in town on a trip that you’ve known about for months. Back when you made a date to get together for the evening, it seemed like a great idea. You definitely want to see this person, or at least you did at the time. Now that it’s getting closer to the actual event, you’re starting to regret having made those plans. Things have gotten hectic at work, and you’d like to take the evening to sit around in your sweats and binge watch that new program which just became available for streaming. </p> <p>Perhaps it’s not an evening out, but a lunch date on a weekday close by to where you work. The weather forecast is predicting a messy, rainy, day and you don’t think you’ll want to venture out any more than is necessary to get from home to the office. These situations present you with a classic dilemma: Do you tell the truth to your friend but risk the relationship or preserve the relationship by making up a legitimate-sounding excuse?</p> <p>Testing the values of loyalty vs. honesty in moral judgments, Cornell University’s John Angus D. Hildreth and University of California Berkeley’s Cameron Anderson (2018) asked “Does loyalty <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/president-donald-trump">trump</a></span> honesty?” As they note, “Groups often demand loyalty, but all too often, loyalty can corrupt individuals to engage in deceit."</p> <p>Among the list of possible deceptions that loyalty to organisations or causes can prompt is pretending to believe in something you don’t or overlooking bad behaviour by people who are a part of your group. A politician might downplay a fellow office-holder’s illicit activity, or a sales manager might turn a blind eye to the shoddy products that the company is putting out on the market. You might lie to help your <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/teamwork">team</a></span> win in a competitive match. The deceptions involved in these instances have more serious consequences than those associated with <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/deception">lying</a></span> to a friend to preserve the relationship, but the same underlying dynamic is at play in that honesty and loyalty operate at cross-purposes.</p> <p>As the Cornell-Berkeley researchers go on to observe, most people view lying as unethical but may be more accepting when a lie is the result of a prosocial motive. In fact, they cite evidence that you’ll gain more trust from the people who know you if you have a reputation as a prosocial liar. A friend may overhear you saying to a mutual acquaintance that her new hairstyle looks great when, clearly, the cut and colour are all wrong. Your coming out with this slight untruth shows how much you value other people’s feelings. Such lies are preferable to lies that are intended to give you an advantage over other people in order to get ahead. When you tell someone she looks nice so that you can get her to do a favour for you, this is no longer a prosocial lie because you’re doing this to increase the odds of getting something you want.</p> <p>However, when a lie isn’t just prosocial but a “loyal lie,” other people are likely to view you far more negatively. A lie that is intended to protect shady operations by a group of which you are a part comes closer to a self-serving lie than one that is <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/altruism">altruistic</a></span>, even though “loyal” implies some sort of higher purpose. There is a philosophical reason for this notion as well. Philosophers such as Jeremy Bentham and John Stuart Mills regard loyalty as “immoral” due to its “inherent partiality”. Because loyal lies benefit one’s group as well as oneself over others, they should be perceived as immoral by those who observe the lie being told. The liar, by contrast, sees no such problem and, in fact, feels “a moral imperative to act in the best interests of the group.” By not lying, the individual runs the risk of “negative social judgment, ostracism and social exclusion."</p> <p>Putting these ideas to the test, Hildreth and Anderson conducted a series of four studies involving nearly 1400 participants involving both online surveys and laboratory experiments. In the online version of the test of the study’s hypotheses (later replicated with college students), participants read scenarios varying in the behaviour described by an individual who either lied or did not lie either to benefit their group in its <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/sport-and-competition">competition</a></span> with another group. The question was whether participants would regard deceit as unethical and immoral. In the condition involving loyalty and intergroup competition, participants perceived deceit as being relatively less unethical than in other conditions. However, participants rated loyal deceit (lying to benefit their group) as more unethical than disloyal honesty (being honest at the expense of one’s own group).</p> <p>The research team placed college student participants in the experimental study similarly in conditions involving either intergroup competition or no competition. Here the question was whether or not they would lie when their loyalty was triggered. Rather than judging the <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/ethics-and-morality">morality</a></span> and ethicality of others, then, participants judged their own behaviour.</p> <p>As shown in prior studies, participants were more likely to lie when they thought it would help their own group. In general, they judged their own behaviour as less ethical when they lied compared to when they were honest. However, there was an important exception – when they lied to benefit their group, the participants did not see any ethical problem in their own behaviour. In fact, they actually saw their behaviour as slightly more ethical when they lied compared to when they told the truth.</p> <p>As the authors concluded, “These individuals seemed to ground their self-perceptions in a morally pluralistic framework, focusing on loyalty above and beyond truthfulness as a critical moral dimension in this context” (p. 90). In other words, liars can compartmentalise enough to be able to justify their lying if it serves a purpose of protecting their group.</p> <p>The final study in the series randomly assigned participants in the laboratory simulation to actor or observer role. As in the prior studies, loyal lies received the harshest judgments by observers, but not by the actors themselves.</p> <p><strong>To sum up</strong>, in answer to the article’s title, loyalty really does trump honesty in the view of the person committing the lie. Loyal liars don’t just rationalise their lying after the fact; instead, they have different standards for loyal lying than they do for honesty. Returning to the quandary you find yourself in when you feel you need to lie to get out of a prior obligation, the Cornell-Berkeley study suggests that it’s all too easy to slip into a mode where you see your lying as needed to protect your relationship. This may be fine on an occasional or extreme basis, but it’s quite likely that you can easily slip down that slope into habitual lying.</p> <p>Rather than lie to protect your relationship, then, a dose of honesty may be needed even if it seems difficult at the time. Alternatively, perhaps you shouldn’t lie at all. If you’ve made a social commitment that now seems inconvenient, consider following through on it. You may have a much better time than you realised you would, and the loyalty you show toward those in your life might just provide the basis for more fulfilling <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/relationships">relationships</a></span>.</p> <p><em>Written by Susan Krauss Whitbourne. Republished with permission of <a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Psychology Today.</strong> </span></a></em></p>

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Princess Eugenie releases never-before-seen wedding photo: "The greatest day of my life"

<p>On October 12, Princess Eugenie said “I do” to her boyfriend of seven years Jack Brooksbank.</p> <p>The Queen’s granddaughter looked breathtaking in a stunning Peter Pilotto gown and now, she has shared a never-before-seen photo from her big day.</p> <p>The 28-year-old posted the black and white photo to her Instagram account, which showed her donning a massive smile alongside her beau.</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/BqfSQgZF-Xo/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;"><a style="color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/BqfSQgZF-Xo/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" target="_blank">#tbt to THE greatest day of my life</a></p> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;">A post shared by <a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/princesseugenie/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" target="_blank"> Princess Eugenie</a> (@princesseugenie) on Nov 22, 2018 at 8:10am PST</p> </div> </blockquote> <p>“#tbt to THE greatest day of my life,” Eugenie captioned the sweet snap.</p> <p>Eugenie’s wedding dress featured long sleeves, a sweeping train and a low back, which allowed her to proudly show off her scoliosis scars.</p> <p>The Queen also loaned her the emerald York tiara to wear for her ceremony in St George’s Chapel at Windsor Castle.</p> <p>Following the ceremony and the couple’s carriage procession, they celebrated with guests at their reception in Royal Lodge.</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/Bo43MillrLq/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;"><a style="color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/Bo43MillrLq/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" target="_blank">Princess Eugenie and Jack Brooksbank are pictured at Royal Lodge, Windsor ahead of the private dinner, following their Wedding. Princess Eugenie's evening dress was designed by Zac Posen, who was inspired by the beauty of Windsor and the surrounding countryside. The White Rose of York is subtly embroidered on both the shoulder and back which hold together the cape. Princess Eugenie is wearing diamond and emerald drop earrings which were a Wedding gift from the Groom. Princess Eugenie also wears a hair slide belonging to Her Majesty The Queen. For more detail on the Dress and Jewellery, visit: https://bit.ly/2NF0Q2b</a></p> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;">A post shared by <a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/hrhthedukeofyork/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" target="_blank"> The Duke of York</a> (@hrhthedukeofyork) on Oct 13, 2018 at 2:31pm PDT</p> </div> </blockquote> <p>For the reception, Eugenie changed into a blush and ivory silk dress from designer Zac Posen.</p> <p>The glamorous gown was reportedly inspired by the beauty of Windsor and the symbol of the House of York, the White Rose of York.</p> <p>Eugenie also let her neatly styled bun out for the reception, using one of the Queen’s hair slides to secure the front section. </p>

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Barnaby Joyce’s rift with new father-in-law is over

<p>Having a rocky relationship with your in-laws is an issue that arises within many relationships – including Barnaby Joyce’s.</p> <p>The former deputy prime minister was going through a rift with Peter Campion, his new father-in-law, after he told Barnaby to punch himself in the face.</p> <p>But thankfully, that all seems to be well and truly behind them.</p> <p>Tensions began after Barnaby’s affair with Peter’s daughter Vikki Campion went public, but ever since the couple welcomed baby by Sebastian in April this year, the new granddad has chosen to put the past behind him.</p> <p><img style="width: 0px; height:0px;" src="/media/7822076/peter.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/5903dd7e8a0b44ecb23471273ea7ea55" /></p> <p>Amid reports of Barnaby and Vikki’s relationship, Peter released a statement to the <em><a href="https://www.cairnspost.com.au/">Cairns Post</a></em> in February.</p> <p>“Politics sure does make for strange bedfellows. We just never imagined our daughter would hop into one with a former Kiwi.</p> <p>“Our future son-in-law should give himself an uppercut for failing to give one to the PM,” the statement read.</p> <p>But Peter’s anger subsided when he met his grandson for the first time during Barnaby’s trip to north Queensland.</p> <p>Peter now believes that he was misquoted and that the media had taken his words out of context, claiming that his relationship with his son-in-law wasn’t as bad as they made it seem.</p> <p>“I was only p***ed with Barnaby in a very mild way because I’d made the effort when my wife was estranged from her father to go and sort that out, but he hadn’t. But to be fair, he was busy. These things happen,” Peter told the <a href="https://www.northerndailyleader.com.au/story/5770768/barnaby-gets-nice-chat-from-peter-campion/"><em>Northern Daily Leader</em></a>.</p> <p>Vikki’s father admitted to having an unstable relationship with his daughter during the time of his original statement, which started before she met Barnaby.</p> <p>Vikki, a former journalist and Barnaby’s media advisor, chose to not speak to her father due to their tumultuous relationship.</p> <p>Vikki and Barnaby’s affair ensued chaos amongst the Australian media and also Barnaby’s family, which included his wife and four daughters.</p> <p>While he is no longer with Natalie, his now ex-wife, he seems to be building back the trust with his daughters as he was spotted with them in September for some quality family time – the first time Barnaby was pictured with his children after his controversial affair.</p>

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Another royal is getting married!

<p>This year the Queen saw two of her grandchildren, Prince Harry and Princess Eugenie, tie the knot to their respective partners.</p> <p>Now, it has been revealed that another royal wedding is on the cards next year.</p> <p>One of the Queen’s goddaughters, Princess Theodora of Greece, has announced her engagement to her American boyfriend, Matthew Kumar.</p> <p>The 35-year-old is the youngest daughter of King Constantine II and Queen Anne-Marie of Greece.</p> <p>In 1974, the monarch was formally abolished in Greece, however, members of the family are still known by their royal titles and mingle within European royal circles.</p> <p>The bride-to-be announced the news on Instagram along with a sweet photo of her and her fiancé.</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/BqPuwQ6FvFY/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;"><a style="color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/BqPuwQ6FvFY/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" target="_blank">Words can’t express our happiness and excitement. I can’t wait to marry this wonderful man. I love you Matt ♥️</a></p> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;">A post shared by <a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/tgreece/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" target="_blank"> Theodora</a> (@tgreece) on Nov 16, 2018 at 7:11am PST</p> </div> </blockquote> <p>"Words can’t express our happiness and excitement. I can’t wait to marry this wonderful man. I love you Matt," she wrote.</p> <p>Theodora’s parents released a statement expressing their joy over the happy news.</p> <p>"Their Majesties King Constantine and Queen Anne-Marie are delighted to announce the engagement of their youngest daughter Theodora to Mr. Matthew Kumar.</p> <p>"Further details about the forthcoming wedding will be provided in due course.</p> <p>"Mr. Matthew Kumar, 34, was born and raised in Southern California to Sam and Lonnie Kumar. He is a practicing attorney in Los Angeles."</p> <p>The guest list for the lavish wedding is likely to feature many European royals, including Queen Elizabeth II.</p> <p>Her Majesty became Theodora’s godmother at her christening in 1983.</p> <p>If the Queen is unable to attend the wedding, it is expected that Prince Charles and the Duchess of Cornwall will go in her place.</p> <p>Princess Mary will also receive an invitation to the ceremony as her husband, Denmark’s Crown Prince Frederik, is Theodora’s cousin.</p> <p>Theodora was raised in England but moved to America to pursue acting and now goes by the stage name 'Theodora Greece'.</p> <p>She is best known for playing the character Alison Montgomery on <em>The Bold and the Beautiful</em>. </p>

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The woman Prince Charles proposed to before Princess Diana

<p>Many royal fans know that Prince Charles chose to propose to Diana after the Royal Family deemed his now wife, Camilla, was an unsuitable match.</p> <p>However, a new documentary, released for the UK royal heir’s 70th birthday, has revealed that Diana wasn’t the first woman Charles was encouraged to propose to.</p> <p>Channel 4’s documentary, <em>The Royal House of Windsor</em>, said that Charles’ honorary grandfather, Lord Mountbatten, encouraged him to pursue his granddaughter Amanda Knatchbull.</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img style="width: 344.6327683615819px; height: 500px;" src="/media/7822034/image_.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/44e0c524082d4a868520c167389160f0" /></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><em>Amanda Knatchbull</em></p> <p>The documentary claims Lord Mountbatten had spent years “secretly lining Amanda up as a future queen”.</p> <p>Amanda was the daughter of Patricia Knatchbull, Countess Mountbatten of Burma and John Knatchbull, Baron Brabourne.</p> <p>Amanda’s brother, Norton, was a close friend to Charles and was given the honour of being the godfather to Prince William.</p> <p>Lord Mountbatten was reportedly so determined to stop Charles’ pursuit of Camilla that he encouraged the Prince to propose to “perfect candidate” Amanda, who was nine years younger than him.</p> <p>Charles’ obeyed his wishes and began courting Amanda, inviting her on the Royal Yacht Britannia for a trip to Eleuthera in the Caribbean back in 1977.</p> <p>Allegedly, Charles then popped the question to Amanda and said: “Will you be my wife?”</p> <p>The documentary claims that Amanda rejected his offer because they were close friends and their relationship was more like “brother and sister”.</p> <p>Soon after his rejection, Charles pursued Lady Diana Spencer.</p> <p>Charles and Diana eventually tied the knot on July 29, 1981.</p> <p>Amanda went on to marry author Charles Vincent Ellingworth in 1987 and they had three children together.</p>

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Another royal wedding? Princess Beatrice dating multi-millionaire property tycoon

<p>With her sister tying the knot a little over a month ago, it seems Princess Beatrice has also found love as friends say she could be engaged soon to her multi-millionaire, divorced, father-of-one boyfriend.</p> <p>Beatrice, 30, is reported to have fallen for property developer Edoardo Mapelli Mozzi, 34, and was seen introducing him as her boyfriend when she attended a party in London last week hosted by Indian billionaire Lakshmi Mittal.</p> <p>Mozzi, who has a two-year-old son, has been dating the Princess for the last two months.</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/BqTxXtTl9Bf/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;"><a style="color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/BqTxXtTl9Bf/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" target="_blank">Rumor-Princess Beatrice has fallen for divorcee, father and multi-millionaire property developer, Edoardo Mapelli Mozzi of 34 years of age.#princessbeatrice #princesseugenie @princesseugenie @theroyalfamily #BritishRoyal #BritishRoyals #BritishRoyalty #britishroyalfamily #RoyalFamily #instaroyals #London #TheYorkSisters #news #royalnews #katemiddleton #catherinemiddleton #duchessofcambridge #meghanmarkle #duchessofsussex #uk #princess #unitedkingdom #hrhprincessbeatrice #hrhprincessbeatriceofyork #princessdiana</a></p> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;">A post shared by <a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/hrhprincessbeatrice/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" target="_blank"> HRH Princess Beatrice Of York</a> (@hrhprincessbeatrice) on Nov 17, 2018 at 8:51pm PST</p> </div> </blockquote> <p>It is said the pair have also went on holiday together and frequently go out for dates.</p> <p>According to the Princess’ close friends, Beatrice has already introduced her new man to her parents Prince Andrew and Sarah Ferguson.</p> <p>The couple were allegedly introduced to each other through a mutual acquaintance and share the same circle of friends before they started dating.</p> <p>Speaking to <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/7766865/princess-beatrice-dating-property-developer/" target="_blank"><em>The Sun</em></a>, a friend said that the pair felt a connection immediately and they have a “real laugh together".</p> <p>“They’ve been on holiday together and Beatrice introduced him to Fergie and her dad. Things are moving very quickly, and it wouldn’t surprise anyone if they got engaged within a short period of time.</p> <p>“They could even be tying the knot in 2019 – it’s already been discussed by her friends.</p> <p>“Everyone is thrilled that Bea is so happy and in such a good place right now.”</p> <p>The two met a month before Eugenie’s wedding which happened on October 12.</p> <p>Mozzie is Beatrice’s first boyfriend after her split with Dave Clark, who she dated for 10 years until 2016.</p>

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Michelle Obama’s surprising marriage confession

<p>The former First Lady of the United States has revealed that her and husband Barack Obama, who many look at as the pinnacle of a stable relationship, went through marriage counselling in a candid interview.</p> <p>The 54-year-old sat down with <em>Good Morning America</em> and said that her relationship with Barack is like any other marriage.</p> <p>“I know too many young couples who struggle and think there’s something wrong with them and I want them to know that Michelle and Barack Obama, who have a phenomenal marriage and love each other, we work on our marriage,” she said to interviewer Robin Roberts.</p> <p>Michelle and Barack, who met for the first time at a law practice they were both working at, credit marriage counselling for teaching them ways to take care of themselves and each other.</p> <p>“Marriage counselling for us was one of those ways where we learned how to talk out our differences. What I learnt about myself was my happiness was up to me,” she told Roberts.</p> <p>The full interview aired on Tuesday this week on <em>Good Morning America</em> and was the same day Michelle’s first book, <em>Becoming</em>, was released.</p> <p>The memoir is an inside look into the life of the former First Lady as she shares her struggles and triumphs throughout her life.</p> <p>One particular struggle was the difficulty she faced when trying to conceive before welcoming her two daughters Malia and Sasha.</p> <p>“We were trying to get pregnant and it wasn’t going well,” she writes in her book, according to <em>The Associated Press</em>.</p> <p>“We had one pregnancy test come back positive, which caused us both to forget every worry and swoon with joy, but a couple of weeks later I had a miscarriage, which left me physically uncomfortable and cratered any optimism we felt.”</p> <p>But the couple soon had Malia and Sasha with the help of IVF.</p> <p>Are you keen to read Michelle Obama's new book<span> </span><em>Becoming</em>? Let us know in the comments below.  </p>

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The one person stopping Fergie and Prince Andrew from remarrying

<p>Although Prince Andrew and Sarah Ferguson split in 1996, the couple still continue to live together at Royal Lodge in Windsor Great Park.</p> <p>Despite their past, the duo continue to display an amicable relationship in public and have afternoon tea together with their daughters, Princess Beatrice and Princess Eugenie.</p> <p>Now, the Duchess of York has addressed the longstanding rumour that the only thing stopping them from remarrying is Prince Philip.</p> <p>According to W Magazine, Philip bears a "long-standing hatred" toward Fergie for the infamous photos that captured American businessman John Bryan sucking her toes.</p> <p>"We know he would oppose any remarriage, that’s why we all say it can only happen after he has gone," said a friend of the couple.</p> <p>Speaking to the <a href="https://www.dailymail.co.uk"><strong><em style="font-weight: inherit;"><u>Daily Mail</u></em></strong></a>, Fergie responded to the age-old question – will they remarry?</p> <p>“So many people have asked me that, but we’re so happy with the way we are right now," she said.</p> <p>“We enjoy each other’s company; we allow each other to blossom. I know it sounds like a fairytale but that’s the way we are.”</p> <p>Fergie praised Prince Andrew for his work for his country.</p> <p>“My duty is to him. I am so proud of him. I stand by him and always will. The way we are is our fairytale,” she gushed.</p> <p>“Although we are not a couple, we really believe in each other. The Yorks are a united family. We’ve shown it. You saw it at the wedding.</p> <p>“We stand up for each other, fight for each other. We’re totally respectful of each other’s position and thoughts and we listen to each other. Our children listen to us, too.</p> <p>“And we sit round the table and have afternoon tea together. It’s a very important part of our lives.”</p> <p>The duo’s relationship continues to baffle royal spectators 22 years after their high-profile split.</p> <p>“We’re the happiest divorced couple in the world. We’re divorced to each other, not from each other.”</p> <p>In the interview, Fergie also opened up about the heartbreak of not having her “best friend” Princess Diana present at Eugenie’s wedding last month.</p> <p>“I thought of absent friends and family; of Diana — but she’s with me all the time,” the 59-year-old said.</p> <p>“What I miss most is her tinkling laughter.”</p> <p>Diana and Fergie grew up together, with the duo being distantly related and their parents going to school together.</p> <p>“Diana was my best friend and the funniest person I knew. She had such timing and wit.”</p> <p>“It was a total joy to be with her because we just laughed and enjoyed life so much, and I know she would have loved the wedding.”</p> <p>Eugenie married James Brooksbank on October 12 at Windsor Castle. </p>

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The best way for adult children and parents to communicate

<p><strong><em>Susan Krauss Whitbourne is a professor of Psychology and Brain Sciences at the University of Massachusetts Amherst. She writes the Fulfilment at Any Age blog for Psychology Today.</em></strong></p> <p>When I speak with other <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/parenting">parents</a></span> of adult children, I often wonder if I am being a negligent parent. Since sending our children off to college, to jobs, or <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/marriage">marriage</a></span>, some of my friends talk to and text their children endlessly. I, on the other hand, do not. I notice disbelief on their faces when I report not speaking to my married son for two-week stretches at a time.</p> <p>Adult children – particularly daughters as I learned from the research for my book <span><a href="http://amzn.to/1R7szpy">Nobody’s Baby Now: Reinventing Your Adult Relationship with Your Mother and Father</a></span> – report speaking with a parent two, three or more times a day in conversations that range from important to trivial. Mobile phones and texting have made sharing information inexpensive, easy and more immediate. But, is keeping in close or constant touch – in any mode of communication – beneficial for parents?</p> <p>Current forms of communication can be frustrating for parents. Many adult children don’t answer their mobile phones; they keep the voicemail boxes full; and if you can leave a message, it’s doubtful they listen to it. Emails don’t get read unless you send a text to alert them to read your email.</p> <p>However as one study reveals, parental feelings after contact with grown children are varied; they can be quite uplifting or upsetting in different circumstances. In short, it may be a mixed blessing that you can’t reach your adult child.</p> <p><strong>How contact with grown children affects parents’ mood</strong></p> <p>Calling and texting grown children – versus face-to-face interaction – may not be the emotionally best choice for parents. In the study, “The Ties That Bind: <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/mid-life">Midlife</a></span> Parents’ Daily Experiences With Grown Children,” lead author Karen Fingerman at the University of Texas, Austin, found that 96 percent of the sampled 247 parents with children over the age of 18 spoke with, texted or saw them in person during a one-week period.  A surprising number had daily contact.</p> <p>But researchers wanted to know whether the mode of communication was influenced by the quality of the parent-child relationship, and if the encounters had a significant impact on the mood and wellbeing of the parent.</p> <p><strong>A mixed bag of reactions</strong></p> <p>“Pleasant and stressful experiences with grown children were associated with parents’ positive and negative daily moods,” the study found.</p> <p>Fingerman and her <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/teamwork">team</a></span> used daily diaries for parents to report their contact intervals and whether their interaction was pleasant or negative. Of the many parents that communicated with their children in the study week, 88 percent spoke on the phone, three-fourths saw them in person and two thirds texted. “Nearly all” subjects laughed or had a pleasant interaction.</p> <p>But, more than 50 percent had stressful experiences, such as a child “getting on nerves,” or having thoughts of <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/anxiety">anxiety </a></span>over children. Most parents experienced either an overall positive or an overall negative communication, with few having neutral interactions.</p> <p><strong>The most rewarding ways to stay in touch</strong></p> <p>The quality of the parent-child relationship does matter; both the frequency of contact and its <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/environment">nature</a></span> hinge on it. Parents who had more positive relationships with their adult children were more likely to report daily contact using all three modes of communication (phone, text, in person). Those who rated their overall relationship as positive were almost one and a half times likelier to see their children in person.</p> <p>Also notable is that parents reported more negative relationship quality when they communicated with children via phone or text message. By contrast, in-person parent-child contact was not significantly associated with more negative relationships.</p> <p>One aspect of the study questioned what kinds of relationships were more rife with parental worry; researchers questioned whether positive relationships had more parents worrying about children – wondering about their wellbeing, for example. The opposite was found: “Stressful thoughts were more likely to occur regarding offspring with whom parents had less positive relationship qualities.”</p> <p><strong>Positive chats heal negative interactions</strong></p> <p>A positive <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/therapy-types/parent-child-interaction-therapy-pcit">parent-child interaction</a></span> appeared to “mitigate the effects” of a negative one no matter which adult child caused the initial parental upset on a given day:</p> <p>“A grown child may call with a problem, upsetting the parent. Later that day, the same child or a different child may call and share a joke at work or a funny story about how his or her toddler sings the ABCs to fall asleep. The amusing story may alleviate the distress over the problem.”</p> <p>How do you communicate with your adult children? How often? Do they ignore your phone calls, texts and emails? Are in-person visits less upsetting than your electronic connections? Share your thoughts with us in the comments below.</p> <p><em>Written by Susan Krauss Whitbourne. Republished with permission of <strong><u><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com">Psychology Today</a>. </u></strong></em></p>

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Man set to marry 9th wife two days after they met

<p><span>Ron Shepard, 70, is Britain’s most famous monogamist and is set to marry a 32-year-old after his latest fiancé, 28-year-old Cristel Lalec, dumped him in November 2017. </span></p> <p><span>Ron, who has been married eight times – with his relationships spanning a variation of lengths, ranging from 11 years to just 8 months – admitted, “I have been lonely over the last 10 months and I just want to be with someone who I can love and trust.”</span></p> <p><span>The 70-year-old was married to his seventh wife Wan when he met a young 15-year-old Cristel for the first time – a mutual friend of Wan’s – whilst on holiday in Thailand with a group of friends.</span></p> <p><span>Shortly after his next marriage to wife number 8, Weng, ended, Ron proposed to Cristel.</span></p> <p><span>Cristel, who is planning to be wife number 9, initiated the relationship with Ron on an online adult dating site, reports <em><u>The Sun</u></em>. </span></p> <p><span>“She messaged me on Friday and we’ve spoken loads since and she said she doesn’t want to speak to anyone else,” Ron informed <em>The Sun</em>.</span></p> <p><span>Meanwhile, Ron continues to boast about his female pursuers, claiming, “It’s been incredible. I’ve got 60 pages of notifications from women of all ages, including married ones who want to have a fling.”</span></p> <p><span>Ron is a father to eight children from his previous marriages, and admitted, “People have said if I keep going I’ll end up with a football team. I think it’s a case of just wait and see.”</span></p> <p><strong><span>Ron’s previous marriages:</span></strong></p> <ol> <li><span>Margaret – 1966, married for 2 years with three children before divorcing in 1968.</span></li> <li><span>Jeanette – 1973, married for one year.</span></li> <li><span>Lesley – 1976, Lesley and Ron had two sons together before he walked out in 1981.</span></li> <li><span>Kathy – 1982, married for four years with one daughter before splitting.</span></li> <li><span>Sue – 1986, Sue and Ron shared 11 years of marriage and had two sons. She eventually threw him out in 1997.</span></li> <li><span>Usha – 1999, married four years.</span></li> <li><span>Wan – 2003, moved home to Bangkok after 8 months of marriage.</span></li> <li><span>Weng – 2004, parted ways in 2015</span></li> </ol> <p><span> What do you think of Ron marrying for a 9th time? Share your thoughts with us in the comments below. </span></p>

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7 ways you're jinxing your own happiness

<p><strong><em>Susan Krauss Whitbourne is a professor of Psychology and Brain Sciences at the University of Massachusetts Amherst. She writes the Fulfilment at Any Age blog for Psychology Today.</em></strong></p> <p>Your next vacation is months away, and as you make your hotel and air reservations, a small and annoying thought creeps into your consciousness. What if someone in your group gets sick, and you’re not able to go? Or maybe you’re planning to visit a part of the world that’s prone to storms and/or earthquakes. What if one of those calamities strikes? You would definitely feel bad for the people whose lives are disrupted by these horrific events, but you couldn't help but feel cheated out of a good time by factors outside of your control should these occur.</p> <p>Thinking ahead to an event that should be enjoyable with these annoying feelings of trepidation can undoubtedly detract from the pleasure of the experience altogether. Part of the fun of such pleasant events as going on vacation, attending a wedding (or having your own), or seeing a concert or play is the thrill you get of counting down as the big day gets closer and closer. By the same token, after the event is over, you can now think back on it with pleasure, as you recall its high points, or you can focus on all the things that went wrong. Even worse, while in the midst of what should be a pleasurable occasion, you find it impossible not to think that it will soon end.</p> <p>These types of ruminations fall into the category of common mindset traps in your “mental time travel”. As noted by University of Exeter (in the United Kingdom) psychologist Barnaby Dunn and colleagues (2018), “much of our conscious life” is taken up by this type of thinking (p. 19). The authors note that when the mental time travel takes on a negative cast, people will not work as hard to get the rewards associated with pleasant events, nor will they learn from their experiences. Their “affect as information” perspective proposes that “the actions we take are in large part shaped by the information conveyed by our affective experience” (p. 20). To be able to regulate your <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/motivation">motivation</a></span>, they argue, you should be able to “anticipate, experience and remember positive affect” (p. 20). If you can’t, those events you so eagerly await and remember will lose their ability to enhance your <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/happiness">happiness</a></span>.</p> <p>The tendency to dwell on the negative in imagining the future or remembering the past, as Dunn et al. point out, is a hallmark of <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/depression">depression</a></span>. By using a “dampening appraisal” of your experiences, you'll feel less of the hedonic pleasure that gives so much zest to life. While you’re in the middle of an enjoyable experience, if you have these thoughts, you’re bound to miss out on whatever good things are legitimately happening to you.</p> <p>Across two studies of undergraduate participants, the Exeter psychologists contrasted the impact of remembering a past event and anticipating one in the future with either “amplifying” or “dampening” instructions. The amplifying instructions encouraged a positive mood state by telling participants to think about their positive feelings “as the start of good things to come,” “about how you are living up to your potential”, and “how happy you feel”. In the dampening condition, participants were told to “think about why the feelings of positivity … are too good to last, why you don’t deserve these positive feelings and what things could go wrong as a result of these positive feelings” (p. 23).</p> <p>As the authors expected, participants experienced stronger feelings of sadness after the dampening instructions, even though the events they were either anticipating or recalling were inherently positive. The instructions to amplify their positive emotions had no impact on feelings of happiness among the participants. In other words, telling a person to “think positive” has less of an impact than telling a person not to “think negative.” In fact, as shown by a more detailed analysis of the findings, it seems that the dampening instructions actually magnify whatever dampening appraisals people ordinarily make of their life experiences.</p> <p>Let’s take a look, then, at what those dampening appraisals consist of. In a supplemental paper, the authors show which specific thoughts lead people to focus on the negative when thinking forward or backward about their experiences. See how much you agree with these 7 statements with regard to the way you feel about a positive event in your life:</p> <ol> <li><strong> You think about things that could go wrong.</strong></li> <li><strong> You think, “I don’t deserve this.”</strong></li> <li><strong> You think, “My streak of luck is going to end soon.”</strong></li> <li><strong> You remind yourself that these feelings won’t last.</strong></li> <li><strong> You think about the things that have not gone well for you.</strong></li> <li><strong> You think about how hard it is to concentrate.</strong></li> <li><strong> You think, “People will think I am bragging.”</strong></li> </ol> <p>If you’re agreeing more than you’re disagreeing with these statements, it means that you will have trouble finding joy in your experiences. As the Dunn et al. study showed, furthermore, these thoughts don’t just impair your <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/memory">memories</a></span> for the past. When you dredge up these thoughts as you plan an event such as a vacation, party or night on the town, you’re <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/priming">priming</a></span> yourself to let your thoughts wander in a pessimistic direction. In the words of the authors, “If an individual engages in dampening appraisals, recalling a positive memory and anticipating a positive future event turns into an active negative mood induction (rather than simply a less effective positive mood induction).” It becomes hard to escape this negative mood induction once it’s activated.</p> <p>The British findings have interesting implications for the treatment of people with a depressive disorder. If you’re trying to encourage these individuals to focus on the positive, your efforts to counteract the feelings of sadness would either be ineffective or perhaps even backfire. Instead, you’d have better luck by having them identify and then try to lessen those thoughts that would most likely jinx their happiness.</p> <p>We don’t know exactly why people who engage in negative prognostication or recall allow their dampening appraisals to take over. Perhaps you’re planning a vacation for only some, but not all, of your family, or perhaps you’re a little worried that you can’t afford the expense. <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/guilt">Guilt </a></span>about enjoying yourself under these circumstances could lead you to twist positive into negative anticipation. Similarly, remembering an experience in which you had fun, but not everyone else did, could prime the guilt pump.</p> <p>Fulfillment in your day-to-day experiences involves getting the most out of them, both before and after they occur. By learning to avoid the jinx trap, yours will be that much more enjoyable.</p> <p><em>Written by Susan Krauss Whitbourne. Republished with permission of <a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Psychology Today</strong></span></a>. </em></p>

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Roger Federer reveals the one thing he refuses to do without his wife

<p>He is widely considered to be the greatest male tennis player of all time and now, fans have gotten a glimpse into the romantic side of Roger Federer.</p> <p>The 37-year-old Swiss champion has confessed that he refuses to sleep in a bed without his wife of nine years by his side.</p> <p>Speaking to <a href="https://www.thetimes.co.uk/"><strong style="font-style: inherit;"><em><u>The Sunday Times</u></em></strong></a>, Federer explained that his wife, Mirka, and their children travel everywhere with him when he is on tour.</p> <p>The couple’s four children – twin girls Myla Rose and Charlene Riva, 9, and twin boys Lenny and Leo, 4 – are home-schooled so they can travel across the world with their parents.</p> <p>Federer admitted that he has had to change “a ton” of nappies between matches but there is one thing that he will never compromise.</p> <p>“I refuse to leave the bed with my wife. We always wanted to have kids, but my dream was to be with [her] and not in another bedroom on another floor,” he said. </p> <p>“I'd rather sleep with kids screaming than away from my wife,” he added.</p> <p>Although he’s currently accompanied by his children’s nanny and teacher when he tours, the World No 3 said he will enroll his children into a mainstream school in Switzerland when he retires.</p> <p>However, the tennis legend refused to reveal whether he had any plans to walk away from playing competitively.</p> <p>Federer said that all he cared about were his “wife, children and friends”, and if he won more tournaments “fantastic” but if not “it’s all good”.</p> <p>Federer has won 20 Grand Slam singles titles, the most in history for a male player. </p>

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Heartbreaking twist after wedding ring lost 20 years ago is found

<p>After nearly two decades of being lost, a wedding ring has been found and returned to its rightful owners.</p> <p>On Monday, a group of treasure hunters from Canada’s Calgary Metal Detecting Club were tracking something that led one member named Paul into a lake.</p> <p>After searching deep within the lake, Paul emerged with a wedding band that had become buried at the bottom, engraved with the names “Karl” and “Palma”.</p> <p>Paul immediately took the ring to a local business, so they could help him track down the owners of the valuable item.</p> <p>An employee of the business, named Karin, contacted a popular Calgary blog called <em style="font-weight: inherit;">Crackmacs</em>, which posted a photo of the ring on social media to find who it belonged to.</p> <p><iframe src="https://www.facebook.com/plugins/post.php?href=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2FCrackmacs%2Fphotos%2Fa.1021486787866426%2F2403234163025008%2F%3Ftype%3D3&amp;width=500" width="500" height="502" style="border: none; overflow: hidden;" scrolling="no" frameborder="0" allowtransparency="true" allow="encrypted-media"></iframe></p> <p>Crackmacs wrote: “She simply asked that if whoever owns the ring could give her the date, she’ll return it, easy peasy. A long shot but who knows, right?”</p> <p>Thanks to the post going viral, the couple was identified within an hour.</p> <p>However, the discovery came through a 2012 obituary announcing Palma’s death, “predeceased by her husband Karl”.</p> <p>The clue helped Karin track down the couple’s son and granddaughter online, and she was able to arrange with them a time to return the family’s lost ring.</p> <p>Karin later learned that the family had been at the beach having a picnic 20 years ago when Karl’s ring fell off in the water.</p> <p>He and his sons searched the water and nearby area for hours, with sadly no luck.</p> <p>The loss of his wedding band continued to devastate Karl, particularly after he suffered from a stroke, which kept bringing back memories of losing the ring.</p> <p>Karl’s son revealed that his heartbreak over losing his wedding ring continued to resurface until he died at the age of 67.</p> <p>When Karin returned the ring to Karl’s family 20 years after it first went missing, his loved ones placed it on Karl’s gravestone.</p> <p><iframe src="https://www.facebook.com/plugins/post.php?href=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2Fphoto.php%3Ffbid%3D10156920437414664%26set%3Da.45314294663%26type%3D3&amp;width=500" width="500" height="248" style="border: none; overflow: hidden;" scrolling="no" frameborder="0" allowtransparency="true" allow="encrypted-media"></iframe></p> <p>The reunion between the family and the ring also coincided with the sixth anniversary of Palma’s passing, making the visit even more poignant with emotion.</p> <p>Karin and Paul met the family at the cemetery for the special reunion, thankful that the wedding band had finally made it home.</p> <p>Have you or someone you know ever lost your wedding ring? Let us know in the comments below.</p>

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Prince Harry and Duchess Meghan reveal the one thing that didn’t go to plan at their wedding

<p>When Prince Harry and Duchess Meghan tied the knot on May 19, it was estimated that 2 billion people across the globe tuned in to watch their ceremony.</p> <p>Despite the pressure of fans tuning in from all over the world, many helping hands on deck and months of intricate planning, even the Duke and Duchess of Sussex’s big day faced some last minute hiccups.</p> <p>In a series of interviews recorded for an exhibit currently on display at Windsor Castle, titled ‘A Royal Wedding: The Duke and Duchess of Sussex’, the couple shared one mishap they faced on the morning of their wedding.</p> <p>After the royal wedding, Kensington Palace informed fans that Harry personally picked the forget-me-nots that featured in his bride's bouquet.</p> <p>“We have a very small garden here that we had been planting things in the fall for and what was really special, I think, was that the morning of the wedding Harry went in and he picked some flowers to go into my bouquet, which was really beautiful and something that makes it sentimental and really meaningful,” says Meghan in one of the interviews, reported <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a href="https://www.vanityfair.com/style/2018/10/harry-meghan-reveal-wedding-details"><em>Vanity Fair</em>.</a></strong></span></p> <p>However, the flowers, which were reportedly Princess Diana’s favourite, caused some issues for the 34-year-old groom.</p> <p>Harry explained: "We didn’t have as many flowers in our little garden as we had hoped for because I think it snowed at Easter! That kind of ruined the whole thing!”</p> <p>In the end, Meghan’s bouquet looked beautiful, containing a mix of sweet pea, lily of the valley, astilbe, jasmine, astrantia as well as myrtle.</p> <p>The 37-year-old former actress is not the only royal who had some issues with her wedding bouquet.</p> <p>When the Queen got married in 1947, the then-Princess Elizabeth managed to lose her flowers.</p> <p>David Longman, who designed Princess Diana’s bouquet, revealed during an interview: “It got lost. So in the middle of their honeymoon, they had to get dressed up again in their wedding clothes and my father had to provide another bouquet for those photographs."</p> <p>Longman added, “Now we make two bouquets so that doesn’t happen again.”</p> <p>Did you encounter any mishaps on your wedding day? Let us know in the comments below. </p>

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Palace divided: Why Prince William and Prince Harry are planning to go their separate ways

<p>Prince William and Prince Harry’s brotherly bond is one that has flourished in front of the world, despite the many pressures and hardships they have faced together.</p> <p>It is common for the young generation of royals – William, Kate, Harry and Meghan – to be spotted together at various engagements, with some even dubbing them the royal version of the Fab Four.</p> <p>However, there are reports that the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge and the Duke and Duchess of Sussex are planning a formal division of their joint household, Kensington Palace.</p> <p>According to <a href="https://www.thetimes.co.uk"><em><strong><u>The Sunday Times</u></strong></em></a>’ royal correspondent Roya Nikkhah, the dynamic will change after Harry and Meghan welcome their first child into the world.</p> <p>"The Duke of Cambridge and Duke of Sussex are preparing to go their separate ways," says Nikkhah. </p> <p>"William and Harry are considering plans to split the Kensington Palace household and create two separate courts as their future roles with Kate and Meghan diverge," she adds.  </p> <p>The royal residence of Kensington Palace comprises of a main palace and additional homes on the grounds.</p> <p>It also operates as management of the young royals and their duties.</p> <p>Harry and Meghan currently reside in a cottage on the Kensington Palace grounds but it is expected they will move into an apartment in the main palace as they await the birth of their baby.</p> <p>In the future, William’s responsibilities will continue to increase as he prepares to become king, while Harry will branch out into a different set of responsibilities.</p> <p>“There is a gulf in the style and approach to the type of work that William and Kate will increasingly do as future head of state and consort, and Harry and Meghan, who have more of a blank canvas with their roles," says a royal insider at <em style="font-weight: inherit;">The Sunday Times</em>.</p> <p>"[The] William and Harry double-act has naturally been supplanted by the two couples and their families," <em style="font-weight: inherit;">The Times</em>’ insider continues.</p> <p>They add: "When William becomes the Prince of Wales, he will take on a lot of extra responsibility, including the Duchy of Cornwall and all that entails. Harry and Meghan have none of that, and seem ambitious about forging their own paths."</p> <p>Harry and Meghan will continue to focus on their work for mental health, disability, veterans and youth.</p> <p>While the brothers won’t live too far away from each other, splitting Kensington Palace will accommodate their growing families.</p> <p>The much-loved brothers will continue to delight fans with their close-knit relationship but will have different levels of management to support their evolving royal roles.</p> <p>“The brothers have leant on each other and looked after each other since their mother died. But now they have their own families, they no longer rely on each other as before," confirmed <em style="font-weight: inherit;">The Sunday Times</em> insider.</p> <p> "They have become different people with different outlooks on life. Splitting the household is the obvious thing to do."</p>

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