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The one thing Prince Harry has given up for his pregnant wife

<p>Prince Harry has given up his love of alcohol by not consuming the beverage for the last three months, all to support his wife, the Duchess of Sussex.</p> <p>The royal, who was known for his wild antics and his partying ways, reportedly stopped drinking alcohol the moment he discovered Meghan was pregnant.</p> <p>Speaking to <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.thesun.co.uk/tvandshowbiz/7502079/prince-harry-gives-up-alcohol-support-meghan-pregnancy/" target="_blank"><em>The Sun</em></a>, a royal insider claimed, “Meghan obviously cannot drink during her pregnancy and Harry wants to be there to support here.</p> <p>“When they are in London, they have been spending more nights in together as he cannot go out drinking with friends like he used to.”</p> <p>The last time the famous couple were spotted drinking was in July, at an event in Dublin where they shared a glass of champagne together. The Duke and Duchess also caused a few whispers when they chose to skip Princess Eugenie’s wedding reception, an occasion where the alcohol was being served by the dozen.</p> <p><span>Taking to social media on Monday, Kensington Palace made the official announcement that the Duke and Duchess of Sussex are expecting their first child together, with the baby news causing a frenzy worldwide.</span></p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/Bo_QEK5nLor/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;"><a style="color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/Bo_QEK5nLor/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" target="_blank">Established in 1916, @TarongaZoo is Australia's oldest zoological park – their commitment to conservation science has culminated in the development of the Taronga Institute of Science and Learning, whose work in forensic science has helped put controls in place to reduce illegal wildlife laundering. The new Institute, which will offer never-before seen learning opportunities for Australian students, was opened by The Duke and Duchess of Sussex today. #RoyalVisitAustralia #Australia #Sydney</a></p> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;">A post shared by <a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/kensingtonroyal/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" target="_blank"> Kensington Palace</a> (@kensingtonroyal) on Oct 16, 2018 at 2:04am PDT</p> </div> </blockquote> <p>The post, which was shared via Twitter and Instagram, shows a photo of the happy couple and was released a few short hours after the pair landed in Sydney for their two-week tour and to host the Invictus Games.</p> <p>In his younger days, Prince Harry was infamous for going rogue as he learnt to adjust to life in the spotlight. A tabloid regular, the young royal was often photographed stumbling drunk out of bars and night clubs.</p> <p>In 2012, images of a naked Prince Harry were released to the public, after he was spotted at a Las Vegas hotel drinking heavily.</p> <p>But it’s safe to say that his rowdy partying lifestyle is now behind him, as he prioritises his royal duties and his devotion to be a good husband and an even better father above anything else.</p> <p>Meghan has previously spoken about her love for alcohol and a glass of wine, revealing in a 2015 interview, “It’s delicious and I enjoy it.”</p> <p>Before adding, “Do the things you enjoy within reason. Know your body and what works for you and you’ll be fine.”</p> <p>The Duchess also previously touched on her health and diet mantra in an interview with Best Health, where she admitted that she never wanted to feel “deprived” of the things she enjoys, because once you start placing restrictions on yourself, you start to “binge”.</p> <p>Instead, she believes in balance as she encourages “lifestyle eating”, not dieting.</p>

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Hillary Clinton's surprising comment about Bill’s affair with Monica Lewinsky

<p>While speaking about her husband’s presidential affair with then-22-year-old Monic Lewinsky, Hillary Clinton provided an unexpected answer.</p> <p>During an interview with <em style="font-weight: inherit;">Sunday Morning</em> in the US, Mrs Clinton claimed that Bill Clinton’s affair wasn’t an abuse of power because Lewinsky “was an adult”.</p> <p>The response of the former First Lady was surprising considering her passion for championing gender equality and that her 2016 presidential campaign focused on her becoming the first female president if elected.</p> <p>When asked if her husband should’ve resigned the presidency after the affair was exposed, Mrs Clinton replied: “Absolutely not”.</p> <p>Pressed on whether it had been an abuse of power, as the president couldn’t have a consensual relationship with an intern, Mrs Clinton held her stance, reiterating that Lewinsky was old enough at the time.</p> <p>Mr Clinton was 49 years old when the affair took place.</p> <p>Mrs Clinton then focused on President Donald Trump, who has been accused of sexually assaulting several women before the 2016 election.</p> <p>“Let me ask you this: Where’s the investigation of the current incumbent, against whom numerous allegations have been made and which he dismisses, denies and ridicules?” Mrs Clinton said.</p> <p>Regarding her husband’s affair, she said: “So there was an investigation, and it — as I believe — came out in the right place.”</p> <p>The US House voted to impeach Mr Clinton for an obstruction of justice and lying under oath, however, the US Senate later acquitted him and he remained as president.</p> <p>Despite the spotlight that has been placed on sexual misconduct with campaigns such as #MeToo, Mrs Clinton believes sexism is still rampant in politics.</p> <p>Mrs Clinton believes sexism, as well as the investigation into her e-mails and Russian election meddling, were the reasons for her loss to Mr Trump.</p> <p>“If you watched the way Trump debated me, it was just imbued with sexism. Making fun of me for preparing. Well, you know, that’s the old, like, ‘Oh, yeah, the girl in the class who’s always prepared. I don’t need to be prepared,’” Mrs Clinton said.</p> <p>During the 2016 election, <em style="font-weight: inherit;">Access Hollywood </em>leaked a damning video where Mr Trump could be heard bragging about grabbing women’s genitalia.</p> <p>Mr Trump responded to the footage by holding a press conference with several women who accused Mr Clinton of sexual misconduct and accused Mrs Clinton of trying to silence them.</p> <p>However, Mrs Clinton said she played “no role” in silencing the women who accused her husband.</p> <p>“No role,” Mrs Clinton said. “I take responsibility for my life and my actions.”</p>

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Carrie Bickmore reveals her 8-second trick to a happy relationship

<p>Carrie Bickmore and Chris Walker have been in a loving relationship for the past six years and now, the host of The Project has shared her secret to success when it comes to understanding each other as a couple.</p> <p>The duo, who are expecting a second child together, said keeping the spark alive in their relationship is more important now than it has ever been before.</p> <p>“Chris said to me the other day, ‘I was talking to this guy at work and he is reading a lot of relationship books. He was telling me this great tip I think we should try. It means you start the day connected’,” said Carrie.</p> <p>The secret is simple but is apparently effective. Instead of giving your partner a peck on the lips before you head out in the morning, hold the kiss for eight seconds while staying still.</p> <p>“The first day we did it, Evie [her daughter] looked at us like we had two heads,” she said.</p> <p>“And then later when we were walking to school she said, ‘Are you and daddy friends?’”</p> <p>According to Carrie, her daughter’s reaction was a sign that the trick works.</p> <p>While they only recently introduced the technique into their relationship, they claim it’s been helping.</p> <p>Speaking to <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.dailytelegraph.com.au/lifestyle/stellar/we-need-to-talk-about-miscarriage-in-our-own-time/news-story/a7db83da8656b43f6c8225cfb23ecd3f?login=1" target="_blank"><em>The Daily Telegraph’s Stellar Magazine</em></a>, Carrie spoke about her miscarriages and how this pregnancy means so much to her and Chris.</p> <p>“I was struggling to get my head around what had happened and was not in the mood to talk about it,” she explained.</p> <p>The Gold Logie award winner is currently a mother-of-two – 11-year-old Oliver and three-year-old Evie.</p> <p>Evie’s biological father is Chris, while Oliver’s biological father is Carrie’s late husband, Greg Lange, who passed away from brain cancer in 2010.</p> <p>Will you be trying out this 8-second trick? Let us know in the comments below. </p>

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Meet Princess Eugenie's huge bridal party

<p>Princess Eugenie and Jack Brooksbank have announced who will be in their very sizeable bridal party for their rapidly approaching wedding.</p> <p>It’s perhaps no surprise that Princess Beatrice, Princess Eugenie’s sister, has been given the role of maid of honour, and standing beside Brooksbank as he no-doubt nervously awaits his bride, will be his brother Thomas. The Princess’ cousin Zara Tindall and her husband Mike will also be part of the bridal party.</p> <p>Meanwhile, the next generation of royals feature heavily as bridesmaids and pageboys at the wedding that will take place at St George’s Chapel, according to <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.news.com.au/entertainment/celebrity-life/royals/royal-weddings/princess-eugenie-has-announced-who-will-be-in-her-bridal-party/news-story/98a8e7547a79788530f7923f86260eef" target="_blank"><em>news.com.au</em></a>. Prince William and Duchess Kate’s two eldest children, George, 5, and Charlotte, 3, will take part, their second wedding party of the year after Prince Harry and Meghan’s nuptials.</p> <p><img style="width: 378.333px; height: 500px; display: block; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;" src="/media/7821297/kate-george-charlotte.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/f1095c16947a48f7b9d1bd0f9ed1863a" /></p> <p>They’ll be joined by Savannah Phillips, 7, and Isla, 6, daughter of Eugenie’s cousin Peter Phillips and his wife Autumn. Mia Tindall, 4, will also take part, daughter of the Tindalls.</p> <p>And there will be some slighter older family members to keep them in line as “special attendants” – Princess Eugenie’s cousins Lady Louise, 14, and James, Viscount Severn, 10. They’re the children of Prince Edward and his wife Sophie.</p> <p>Other notable bridesmaids and pageboys include Princess Eugenie’s goddaughter Maud Windsor, 5, who is the daughter of Lady Frederick and Lord Frederick Windsor, who attends St Thomas’s Battersea, Prince George’s school.</p> <p>Taking up the coveted role of pageboy alongside Prince George will be Louis de Givenchy, 6, the son of Olivier De Givenchy, a JP Morgan investment banker, and his wife Zoe.</p> <p>And finally, a celebrity offspring add some more razzle dazzle as a bridesmaid - Theodora Williams, 6, the daughter of Robbie Williams and wife Ayda Field.</p> <p>Will you be watching Princess Eugenie's wedding on TV? Tell us in the comments below. </p>

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Princess Eugenie and her fiancé are actually related – here's how

<p>Princess Eugenie and Jack Brooksbank’s October 12 wedding is fast approaching.</p> <p>And now, it has been revealed that the lovebirds are actually distant cousins, sharing an ancestor on Eugenie’s mum Fergie’s side of the family.</p> <p>Eugenie and Jack share an ancestor who was the 2nd Earl of Leicester, 19th century aristocrat Thomas William Coke.</p> <p>The connection makes the couple third cousins once removed.</p> <p>Their family history was first uncovered by <a href="https://www.businessinsider.com.au/how-princess-eugenie-and-new-fiance-jack-brooksbank-are-related-2018-1?r=UK&amp;IR=T"><strong><em><u>Business Insider</u></em></strong></a> on ancestry site Peerage.com.</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/BgHOiXAgsVJ/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;"><a style="color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/BgHOiXAgsVJ/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" target="_blank">Think Jack said something funny!</a></p> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;">A post shared by <a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/princesseugenie/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" target="_blank"> Princess Eugenie</a> (@princesseugenie) on Mar 9, 2018 at 10:42am PST</p> </div> </blockquote> <p>On Eugenie’s mum’s side of the family, the Earl is her great-great-great-great grandfather.</p> <p>However, the Earl is also Jack’s great-great grandfather, from his second marriage to Georgina Caroline Cavendish.</p> <p>As Jack is a descendant from the Earl’s second marriage, there are fewer generations in between.</p> <p>Although the connection between the two may sound a bit strange, it is not the first time that a royal married a distant relative.</p> <p>The Queen and Prince Philip are third cousins via Queen Victoria.</p> <p>Eugenie, who is the Queen’s granddaughter and ninth-in-line to the throne, will say “I do” to Jack in St George’s Chapel at Windsor Castle.  </p> <p>Will you be watching Princess Eugenie's wedding on Friday night? Let us know in the comments below. </p>

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Royal wedding countdown: Princess Eugenie’s fiancé admits he’s “terrified”

<p>Later this week on October 12, Princess Eugenie will say “I do” to her fiancé Jack Brooksbank in St George’s Chapel at Windsor Castle.</p> <p>Although the Queen’s granddaughter revealed that she was “not stressed” about her big day, her fiancé has admitted that he feels otherwise.</p> <p>Speaking to the <a href="https://www.dailymail.co.uk"><strong><em style="font-weight: inherit;"><u>Daily Mail</u></em></strong></a>, Jack admitted that he was “feeling anxious” about his looming nuptials.</p> <p>“I’ll need to take a few minutes for myself before the speeches because I’m terrified. It’s very exciting but I’m a little bit nervous,” he confessed.</p> <p>During an interview with <em style="font-weight: inherit;">British Vogue</em>, Eugenie played down any nervousness and said she was nothing but excited for her wedding.</p> <p>“I’m not stressed at all,” she said in the magazine’s September issue.</p> <p>“It’s very nerve-racking because you want it to be perfect but then you realise that you’re going to be with the person you love forever and nothing else really matters.”</p> <p>And while Eugenie didn’t reveal any details of her ceremony, Jack revealed how he assisted his wife-to-be in the planning process.</p> <p>The 32-year-old liquor distributor, who is currently the UK ambassador for George Clooney and Rande Gerber’s tequila brand, said: “I’ve not been kept out of all the planning. I get to decide some things. I’m in charge of drinks and we’ll be serving Casamigos.”</p> <p>However, despite his close working relationship with the famous actor, he was not allowed to confirm if Clooney would be attending their big day.</p> <p>“I can’t say if George Clooney is coming,” Brooksbank told the <em style="font-weight: inherit;">Daily Mai</em>l.</p> <p>In the lead-up to their wedding, the Royal Collection Trust released an ornate <a href="https://www.oversixty.com.au/lifestyle/relationships/the-missing-detail-from-princess-eugenie-s-wedding-china-that-s-baffling-everybody/"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>china set</strong></span></a> which included a miniature teacup and saucer, pillbox, tankard and coaster.</p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet" data-lang="en"> <p dir="ltr">.<a href="https://twitter.com/RCT?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">@RCT</a> has released a new line of items to celebrate Princess Eugenie’s wedding to Jack Brooksbank. <br />You will notice Eugenie’s solo monogram features a crown, as she is an HRH. But the couple’s joint monogram &amp; Jack’s solo monogram doesn’t have a crown. <a href="https://t.co/cZwcvdsJl0">pic.twitter.com/cZwcvdsJl0</a></p> — Gert's Royals (@Gertsroyals) <a href="https://twitter.com/Gertsroyals/status/1045631831935242240?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">September 28, 2018</a></blockquote> <p>In addition to the couple’s intertwined monogram, Eugenie and Jack also have cups which feature their individual initials.</p> <p>Eugenie’s cup features the letter “E” with a golden crown or an “HRH”, standing for “Her Royal Highness”.</p> <p>Jack’s cup features the letter “J” without a crown.</p> <p>The monogram hints that Jack will not receive a royal after the wedding, while Eugenie will continue to carry her current title. </p>

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The special tiara Princess Eugenie will wear on her wedding day

<p>Before Princess Eugenie says “I do” to fiancé Jack Brooksbank on October 12, the Queen’s granddaughter must choose which tiara she will wear when she walks down the aisle.</p> <p>Royal experts suspect Eugenie will choose to wear the same headpiece her mother Sarah Ferguson wore on her wedding day, the York Tiara.</p> <p>When Fergie married Prince Andrew in 1986, she received the impressive tiara as a wedding gift from the Queen.</p> <p>The tiara, which was designed by luxury jeweller Garrard, has been worn by Fergie for multiple black tie events since her nuptials.</p> <p>The tiara features a five-carat diamond surrounded by an ornate swirling pattern of jewels.</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img style="width: 500px; height: 281.25px;" src="/media/7821171/image_.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/12960fd58c484b78bde0cfab02b9069b" /></p> <p>The impressive headpiece is also part of a set that includes a necklace, bracelet and earrings that were all worn by Fergie on her big day.</p> <p>Fergie’s tiara is just one of the many royal headpieces that had been passed down through the generations.</p> <p>When tying the knot with Prince Harry earlier this year, Meghan wore a headpiece that belonged to the Queen’s grandmother, Queen Mary.</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img style="width: 500px; height: 335px;" src="/media/7821168/1.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/9c0812a33fea431b8d9d69116f5adb4c" /></p> <p>The tiara was gifted to Elizabeth when Queen Mary died in 1953 and features a centrepiece made of 10 diamonds.</p> <p>It is believed that the Duchess of Sussex visited the Queen at Buckingham Palace to choose what tiara she would wear for her special day.</p> <p>When Kate married Prince William in 2011, she borrowed the Cartier Halo Tiara from the Queen.</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img style="width: 500px; height: 332.9166666666667px;" src="/media/7821169/2.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/1dead125a6894aab8f2664085acd8a08" /></p> <p>The headpiece was gifted to the Queen Mother from her husband King George VI in 1936. </p>

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Body language expert weighs in on Prince Harry and Meghan’s public display of affection in Sussex

<p>While visiting their dukedom of Sussex for a royal engagement, Prince Harry and Meghan were unable to hold back from showcasing their affection for each other.</p> <p>Yesterday, the Duke and Duchess of Sussex attended several events together hand-in-hand in the historic county. </p> <p>Speaking to <a href="https://www.elitedaily.com/p/prince-harry-meghan-markles-body-language-in-sussex-shows-theyre-so-in-love-12147151"><strong><em style="font-weight: inherit;"><u>Elite Daily,</u></em></strong></a> body language expert and author of <em style="font-weight: inherit;">Persuasion Point: Body Language and Speech for Influence</em>, Traci Brown, said the couple revealed their strength by how often they mimicked each other throughout the day. </p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img style="width: 357.14285714285717px; height:500px;" src="/media/7821123/1.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/52c92275f5a542eb82a576c7d9bef9d9" /></p> <p>"We are hardwired to copy people," Brown explained.</p> <p>"See how they're doing exactly the same thing? Totally in step with each other and waving the same way? That's what couples do when they're energetically in sync and very connected. And it happens naturally."</p> <p>According to Brown, Harry’s supportive hand on Meghan’s back reveals how comfortable they are with each other.</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img style="width: 334.06352683461114px; height:500px;" src="/media/7821124/2.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/f5299f7981bd4912a7a8c3aad8b24b7c" /></p> <p>“Again, they're in step. But this time Harry has his hand on her back which is probably both to guide her a bit and a comforting gesture," she said.</p> <p>"A hand on the back lets you feel that someone is there, supporting you and guiding you along the way. It's quite comforting for most folks."</p> <p>While enjoying their day out, Harry and Meghan also did something that is not usually seen among royals.</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img style="width: 333.3333333333333px; height:500px;" src="/media/7821125/3.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/0991d8a76bee494bbcd8c996ecfcb56c" /></p> <p>"I think what's more telling is the way their fingers are intertwined. When's the last time you've seen a royal do that? Certainly not Will and Kate. It's a very telling PDA."</p> <p>When the couple sat side-by-side at the Joff Youth Centre, Meghan leaned into her husband while the duo continued to hold hands and flash wide smiles across their faces.</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img style="width: 400px; height:500px;" src="/media/7821126/4.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/12426cc31ccb497a9f0f02c7cc317bf0" /></p> <p>However, the 37-year-old former actress wasn’t the only woman who had the opportunity to hold hands with Harry.</p> <p>Earlier in the day, a local school teacher, Charlotte Sleep, shook hands with the prince and jokingly said: “I am not letting go of your hand!”</p> <p>Harry replied with a smile: “Please do!”</p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet" data-lang="en"> <p dir="ltr">Watch: Bye Brighton! A wave for well wishers (and some hand-holding) as the couple left the charity, Survivors Network <a href="https://twitter.com/hashtag/HarryandMeghan?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">#HarryandMeghan</a> <a href="https://twitter.com/hashtag/DukeandDuchessofSussex?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">#DukeandDuchessofSussex</a> <a href="https://twitter.com/hashtag/royal?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">#royal</a> <a href="https://twitter.com/people?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">@people</a> <a href="https://t.co/sTGb4DauoE">pic.twitter.com/sTGb4DauoE</a></p> — Simon Perry (@SPerryPeoplemag) <a href="https://twitter.com/SPerryPeoplemag/status/1047492344818356224?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">October 3, 2018</a></blockquote> <p>Harry and Meghan have happily shown PDA since first appearing together in public for the first time at the Invictus Games last year.</p> <p>The couple have not shied away from their affection since tying the knot on May 19.</p> <p>Veteran royal photographer Mark Stewart previously told <a href="https://people.com"><strong><em style="font-weight: inherit;"><u>PEOPLE</u></em></strong></a>: “They are not afraid to hold hands. They don’t mind showing their emotions.”</p> <p>Royal etiquette expert Myka Meier, founder and director of Beaumont Etiquette, said the couple’s public displays of affection make them more relatable to the public.</p> <p>“While Prince Harry and Meghan holding hands is atypical for royal engagements, it is a seemingly welcomed gesture to show unity and celebration of their engagement period,” she said.</p> <p>“There is no protocol that says they can not show affection on official engagements, and this gesture makes them relatable and loveable to the public.</p> <p>“Meghan and Prince Harry holding hands at a royal engagement is a refreshingly modern approach to their new role both as a couple and as representatives of the royal family.”</p>

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The missing detail from Princess Eugenie’s wedding china that’s baffling everybody

<p>With Princess Eugenie’s wedding right around the corner, a set of collectable wedding china has been designed for the public just like it was for her cousins Prince William and Prince Harry.</p> <p>Photos released by the Royal Collection Trust show plates, teacups and mugs embellished with ivy, forget-me-nots, bluebells and white roses.</p> <p><img style="width: 0px; height:0px;" src="/media/7821084/101655_a.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/dfca1b1e038942049bb13ac1e933fb8b" /></p> <p>But royal fans were quick to notice a missing detail in the Princess of York’s wedding memorabilia – the groom’s initial is missing.</p> <p>Where Prince Harry and Duchess Meghan’s china featured the initials “HM” – Princess Eugenie’s simply features “E”, unaccompanied by her husband-to-be Jack Brooksbank’s initial.</p> <p><img style="width: 0px; height:0px;" src="/media/7821085/101424.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/23116245edf841f3aa506105c2499bd0" /></p> <p>While the 32-year-old wine merchant’s name does appear on the inside rim of the cup and underside of the plate, many people find it strange that his initial isn’t sitting alongside his fiancée’s.</p> <p>“Where’s the groom?” one social media user asked.</p> <p>But according to UK newspaper the<span> </span><em><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.express.co.uk/" target="_blank">Daily Express</a></em><span> </span>it all comes down to royal protocol, which is the explanation behind the absence of the groom’s initial.</p> <p>The crown symbol on the memorabilia, known as a royal coronet, cannot appear above the name of a man marrying a female member of the royal family – but it can for a woman marrying a Prince, as the case was for Meghan and Kate.</p> <p>Profits from the commemorative collection – which includes a $45 mini teacup and saucer – will go to the Royal Collection Trust charity, which preserves the royal family’s art and artefacts. </p>

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14 essentials for a successful relationship

<p><strong><em>Susan Krauss Whitbourne is a professor of Psychology and Brain Sciences at the University of Massachusetts Amherst. She writes the Fulfilment at Any Age blog for Psychology Today.</em></strong></p> <p>With the number of theories about relationships proposed by psychologists, not to mention poets, philosophers, and playwrights, it may seem impossible to come up with anything approaching a reasonable number. Boldly going where few psychologists may venture, Northwestern University’s Eli Finkel and colleagues have done just that by proposing that there are 14 basic principles underlying all of psychology's relationship theories. The 14 gets reduced further, actually, because they fall into four categories of questions concerning different aspects of relationships, from their formation to their end. </p> <p>The underlying basis for this work is <strong>relationship science</strong>, which the authors refer to as “an interdisciplinary field that employs diverse empirical methods to understand the initiation, development, maintenance, and dissolution of interpersonal relationships." These aren’t just any relationships, but the ones people consider their closest. Yours is most likely to be the one with your romantic partner, or the person you’re in a committed relationship with.</p> <p>Finkel and his collaborators approached the classification of relationship principles as they would a “culinary” task in which “each theory is a dish (e.g., a curry) composed of discrete ingredients (e.g., a grain, a protein, a vegetable, several spices).” They set for themselves “the task of extracting the core principles" — the basic ingredients — and then determining which principles cut across theories.</p> <p>As you consider these 14 principles, try applying them to your own close relationships, particularly those that have meant the most to you over the course of your life. We’ll look at these principles according to the set into which they fit in the Finkel et al. scheme:</p> <p><strong><u>Set 1: What is a relationship?</u></strong></p> <ol> <li><strong> Uniqueness: </strong>A close relationship isn’t just a combination of the qualities that each partner possesses; it reflects the special interaction that occurs when you’re with your partner. You behave differently with your partner than you do with other people, and so does your partner. Perhaps you’re rather quiet and a bit of an <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/introversion">introvert</a></span>, and so is your partner, but when the two of you are together, you can talk nonstop about the slightest thing. Your relationship reflects, then, something special that happens when you’re in each other’s presence.</li> <li><strong> Integration:</strong>Your sense of self is deeply embedded in that of your partner. Each of you has your own <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/identity">identity</a></span>, but sometimes it’s hard to tell where one ends and the other begins. People think of you as a couple, and it’s hard for anyone, including yourselves, to imagine you not being together.</li> <li><strong> Trajectory: </strong>Your relationship with your partner has a history that has evolved over your time together, so that it’s not the same as it was when it started. On a day-to-day basis, you may not notice those changes, but when you think back on even a couple of years ago, you realise it’s developed from there. The chances are good, as well, that your relationship will continue to evolve in the future. Relationship theories have at times proposed that there are fixed stages, such as those that occur with the birth and development of children, but many theories propose instead a more fluid set of dynamic changes.</li> </ol> <p><strong><u>Set 2: How do relationships operate?</u></strong></p> <ol start="4"> <li><strong> Evaluation:</strong>You and your partner often think about how you feel about both your relationship and each other. Some theories divide these feelings into simple positive and negative dimensions, but others propose a more complex set of evaluations, such as the <em>triangular theory of love</em>, which suggests that relationships vary according to <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/relationships">intimacy</a></span>, passion, and commitment. In any case, you bring these evaluative lenses to your relationship, whether you realise it or not.</li> <li><strong> Responsiveness:</strong>The way you respond to your partner influences the relationship quality that both of you feel. Is your partner sensitive to your needs and feelings? How do you respond to your partner’s? The more this occurs, Finkel et al. propose, the better your relationship will function.</li> <li><strong> Resolution:</strong>How do you and your partner resolve conflict? It’s well-known from research on couple conflict that there are constructive and destructive patterns of getting through difficulties. The constructive ones, as the term implies, promote or at least don’t detract from the relationship; the destructive ones condemn it to a less positive fate.</li> <li><strong> Maintenance:</strong>A long-term close relationship is one that both partners want to see continue. You will therefore work with your partner to keep it alive, even if it has problems. Sometimes outsiders look at a couple and wonder how it is that they remain together, but from <em>inside</em>the relationship, these problems don’t seem all that significant.</li> </ol> <p><strong><u>Set 3: What tendencies do people bring to their relationships?</u></strong></p> <ol start="8"> <li><strong> Predisposition:</strong>You and your partner each have personalities that lead you to behave in certain ways within your relationship. <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/attachment">Attachment</a></span>theory, for example, proposes that people’s early <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/child-development">childhood</a></span> experiences shape the views of close relationships that they carry into adulthood. Those with an insecure attachment style will be clingy or perhaps dismissive, and those more securely attached will be able to relate in a more even-keeled manner.</li> <li><strong> Instrumentality:</strong>You and your partner each have <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/motivation">goals</a></span>that you wish to pursue, and in an ideal world, you are both able to fulfil those goals. At times, you may rely on your partner to help you achieve your personal goals. Perhaps you wish to adopt a healthier lifestyle, eating fewer carbs or exercising more. Does your partner work with you to help achieve these changes or fight you every step of the way by, say, bringing home fresh bread every night? At a deeper level, everyone has a need for intimacy and connection, and your partner can also help you fulfil this basic goal.</li> <li><strong> Standards:</strong>Everyone has a certain set of standards or values that they hold about what a relationship should be and provide. You may expect, for example, that a close relationship involves you and your partner being faithful to each other. You might also have a certain standard about how smart, attractive, and successful a good partner should be. Relationship theories propose that you constantly monitor the reality against your standards, and when they come close to each other, you’re more satisfied, all other things being equal. However, if your relationship is gratifying in general, you’ll be willing to adapt your standards to meet your partner’s reality.</li> </ol> <p><strong><u>Set 4: How does context affect relationships?</u></strong></p> <ol start="11"> <li><strong> Diagnosticity:</strong>Some situations will give you a very clear view of your partner and your relationship. A number of theories in social psychology examine the way we make attributions about others. If you see someone cheating, stealing, or <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/deception">lying</a></span>, you’ll think less of that person, unless you know about mitigating circumstances. In a relationship, you’ll also see your partner in a variety of situations. The critical ones allow you to see your partner’s true qualities: For example, when you really need your partner to be there for you, will your partner rise to the occasion? If so, this willingness of your partner to act on your behalf will help cement your relationship.</li> <li><strong> Alternatives: </strong>Is there someone else who presents an attractive option to your current partner? Or might you rather not be in a relationship at all? The existence of these alternatives will threaten the quality of your relationship, or perhaps lead to its demise.</li> <li><span><strong><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/stress">Stress</a></strong></span><strong>:</strong>When a situation challenges your ability to cope, you’ll experience stress. In a relationship, couples must cope together with situations that test their resources. How well do you and your partner handle these exigencies? If you do it well, that is a sign of a healthy relationship.</li> <li><strong>Culture: </strong>Looking more broadly outside the relationship, the social context of your family, cultural traditions, and beliefs help shape who you and your partner are and how you relate to each other. Some of these are theoretically quite obvious, such as celebrating holidays and getting together for reunions. Others might not be so apparent, such as the state of the economy, social attitudes toward monogamy, or historical trends in <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/divorce">divorce</a>rates, employment of women outside the home, and even needs for <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapy-types/art-therapy">self-expression</a>. You don’t usually pay attention to these factors, but they influence your relationship nevertheless.</li> </ol> <p>Now answer the question of how well you thought your relationship stacked up when evaluated according to each principle. There’s no such thing as a perfect relationship but seeing whether yours has the 14 “ingredients” may be just what’s needed to help yours be as fulfilling as possible over time.</p> <p><em>Written by Susan Krauss Whitbourne. Republished with permission of <strong><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/">Psychology Today.</a> </strong></em></p>

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Why the controversy around Princess Eugenie’s extravagant wedding keeps getting bigger

<p>As the upcoming wedding of Princess Eugenie and fiancé Jack Brooksbank looms closer, more information has been released about the granddaughter of the Queen's lavish plans.</p> <p>It has been revealed that Eugenie’s celebrations will take place over two days, October 12th and 13th.</p> <p>On October 12, Eugenie will wed Jack in a ceremony at St George’s Chapel at Windsor Castle, the same church where Prince Harry and Meghan said their vows earlier this year.</p> <p>After the ceremony, Eugenie and Jack will have a carriage procession at midday from the Royal Mews out of Windsor Castle and on to part of the High Street.</p> <p>Although many have questioned why the ninth-in-line to the throne is having a carriage procession, it will give members of the public the chance to see the couple.</p> <p>However, unlike the Duke and Duchess of Sussex, the carriage will not travel along the Long Walk.</p> <p>Following the carriage procession, a reception and lunch for guests will be hosted by the Queen before the wedding party moves to the Royal Lodge in Windsor that evening for a black-tie party.</p> <p>The Royal Lodge is owned by Eugenie's parents Prince Andrew and Sarah Ferguson despite the couple divorcing in 1996.</p> <p>The second day of celebrations has caused the most controversy as the couple plan to host a festival-themed event at the Royal Lodge.</p> <p>A royal source told <a href="https://dailytelegraph.co.uk/"><strong><em style="font-weight: inherit;"><u>The Daily Telegraph</u></em></strong></a>: "After the more formal celebration at Windsor Castle, the Saturday bash will be a relaxed party.    </p> <p>“There will be dodgems and funfair rides, coconut shies, lots of food stalls, loads of cocktails, Bloody Marys for the hangovers and a festival vibe.”</p> <p>It is expected that Eugenie’s guest list will include stars such as George and Amal Clooney, Cara Delevingne, Ed Sheeran and Sienna Miller.</p> <p>The 28-year-old’s wedding extravaganza will reportedly cost taxpayers $3.4 million to cover security charges such as getting extra patrolmen, overtime charges, as well as additional firearms.</p> <p>Earlier this year a royal spokesperson said: “Costs for security will be shared by individual police forces and the local council but all other costs for the wedding will be met privately.”</p>

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Prince Harry’s adorable moment with Meghan

<p>As Duchess Meghan adjusts to her life as a member of the British royal family, Prince Harry has proven that he is willing to assist her in every way he can.</p> <p>From whispering advice to her on the balcony of Buckingham Palace at Trooping the Colour to catching her when she slipped in heels while walking on grass, the Duke and Duchess of Sussex have proven that they make a great team together.</p> <p>While supporting Meghan at the launch of her new charity cookbook yesterday with his mother-in-law Doria Ragland, Prince Harry made an affectionate gesture to his wife.</p> <p>The 37-year-old former actress was hit by a sudden gust of wind while addressing the crowd, so Prince Harry leaned forward to remove the hair from her face and smooth her shiny locks down.</p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet" data-lang="en"> <p dir="ltr">When you just have to flatten down the wife’s hair on a windy day ... <a href="https://t.co/4E7L3iurB7">pic.twitter.com/4E7L3iurB7</a></p> — Chris Ship (@chrisshipitv) <a href="https://twitter.com/chrisshipitv/status/1042793934215434241?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">September 20, 2018</a></blockquote> <p>Meghan smiled sweetly to Harry for the helping hand and then continued speaking to the crowd.</p> <p>Prince Harry, who proudly watched on as his wife took centre stage, was also seen resting his head on her shoulder and sneaking extra samosas behind his back.</p> <p>The charity cookbook Together: Our Community Cookbook marks Meghan’s first solo project as a royal.</p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet" data-conversation="none" data-lang="en"> <p dir="ltr">"The power of food is more than just the meal itself — it is the story behind it. And when you get to know the story of the recipe, you get to know the person behind it." — The Duchess of Sussex <a href="https://twitter.com/hashtag/CookTogether?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">#CookTogether</a> <a href="https://t.co/10VRNtWFjM">pic.twitter.com/10VRNtWFjM</a></p> — Kensington Palace (@KensingtonRoyal) <a href="https://twitter.com/KensingtonRoyal/status/1042792172389654530?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">September 20, 2018</a></blockquote> <p>The charity cookbook is made up of 50 recipes compiled by a group of women who run the Hubb Community Kitchen, which is an initiative based near the site of the Grenfell Tower.</p> <p>In June last year, a fire destroyed the 24-storey apartment block, causing 72 deaths and injuring more than 70 others.</p> <p>Meghan made a heartwarming speech to the guests at the cookbook launch without any notes, describing the project as a “tremendous labour of love”.</p> <p>“I said in the foreword that this is more than a cookbook,” she said.</p> <p>“And what I mean by that is the power of food is more than just the meal itself — it is the story behind it.</p> <p>“When you get to know the story of the recipe you get to know the person behind it.</p> <p>“And that’s what we’re talking about in terms of coming together, to really engage and talk and to be able to celebrate what connects us rather than what divides us.</p> <p>“That I believe is the ethos of together.”</p> <p>The cookbook is already a bestseller on Amazon, with thousands already pre-ordering their copy.</p> <p>In her foreword in the book, Meghan described the kitchen as a “place for women to laugh, grieve, cry and cook".</p> <p>“I had just recently moved to London and I felt so immediately embraced by the women in the kitchen and their warmth and their kindness,” she said.</p> <p>“On a personal level, I feel so proud to live in a city with so much diversity. There are 12 different countries represented just in this room. It’s pretty outstanding.</p> <p>“Everyone embraced this so deeply because it’s been a passionate project for all of us — and for good reason.”</p>

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Palace announces another royal wedding

<p>Buckingham Palace has announced that another royal wedding is on its way after the engagement of Lady Gabriella Windsor and Thomas Kingston.</p> <p>Lady Gabriella is the daughter of Prince Michael of Kent, who is a first cousin of the Queen.</p> <p>Thomas, 41, proposed to Gabriella last month on an island in the southwestern English Channel, the Isle of Sark.</p> <p>The palace released news of the couple’s nuptials alongside a statement written by Gabriella’s parents.</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img style="width: 324.99999999999994px; height:500px;" src="/media/7820907/1.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/4f59e8e7da174d45969108813c4d8e41" /></p> <p>“Prince and Princess Michael of Kent are delighted to announce the engagement of their daughter Lady Gabriella Windsor to Mr Thomas Kingston. The engagement took place in August; Mr Kingston proposed on the Isle of Sark,” the statement read.</p> <p>Gabriella, who is affectionately known as Ella, is a second cousin to the Queen and 50th in line to the throne.</p> <p>The 37-year-old works as a brand director while Thomas works in market investment and is the Director of Devonport Capital.</p> <p>The newly-engaged couple will reportedly schedule their wedding for Spring 2019.</p> <p>Although Gabriella shies away from the spotlight, she does appear with the main members of the royal family for significant events, including Trooping the Colour to celebrate the Queen’s birthday.</p> <p>Thomas, 41, was previously in a relationship with Duchess Catherine’s younger sister, Pippa, who married James Matthews in May last year.</p> <p>Thomas and Pippa dated in 2011 and were spotted attending the ATP Tennis finals together.</p> <p>Their relationship quickly fizzled out, but they remain close friends. </p>

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The bizarre royal wedding rules Princess Eugenie has to follow

<p>In just under a month, the second royal wedding of the year will take place as Princess Eugenie says “I do” to Jack Brooksbank on October 12.</p> <p>The youngest child of Prince Andrew and The Duchess of York Sarah Ferguson is planning for her big day to be a royal wedding extravaganza, with the ceremony taking place at St George’s Chapel at Windsor Castle, just like her cousin Prince Harry.</p> <p>But before the 28-year-old can enjoy the lead-up to her big day, there is a royal wedding protocol checklist that she needs to make sure is met.</p> <p>According to <em style="font-weight: inherit;">Evening Standard</em>, there are 17 rules that Eugenie must follow on her big day.</p> <p>Some of the rules are quite standard, such as the bride having to wear a white dress and a tiara.</p> <p>However, one of the more peculiar rules is that her wedding bouquet needs to contain myrtle – a tradition that has been carried out by every royal bride, including Duchess Meghan, since Queen Victoria walked down the aisle.</p> <p>The royal bride is also expected to lay her bouquet at the Tomb of the Unknown Warrior, although it is not known where this must occur before or after the reception.</p> <p>Another royal protocol is that the royal family must always sit on the right-hand side of the church and that the bride’s ring must be made of Welsh gold.</p> <p>Although many royal weddings have been televised over the years, it has been reported that BBC <a href="https://www.oversixty.com.au/lifestyle/family-pets/the-bizarre-thing-prince-andrew-is-trying-to-do-for-princess-eugenie-s-wedding/"><u><strong>turned down the offer</strong></u></a> to cover her big day over fears the ratings would be low.</p> <p>“The BBC was approached because they have a special relationship with Buckingham Palace and a formula that works,” an unnamed source told the <em style="font-weight: inherit;">Mail on Sunday</em>.</p> <p>“But they turned it down because they don’t think enough people will tune in and that there isn’t enough support for the Yorks.”</p> <p>The palace is yet to confirm where Eugenie’s star-studded wedding will be televised.</p>

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The Wiggles' marriage split: This is why Lachlan Gillespie and Emma Watkins aren't together anymore

<p>Purple Wiggle Lachlan Gillespie has shared a few words about the turmoil between himself and former partner Emma Watkins.</p> <p>Gillespie broke his silence on the ABC’s <em>Australian Story</em>, a short time after the pair announced their seemingly amicable split last month.</p> <p>Watkins, who is currently the yellow Wiggle, revealed to <em><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.dailytelegraph.com.au/entertainment/sydney-confidential/purple-wiggle-lachlan-gillespie-reveals-relationship-friction-came-from-work-pressures/news-story/f8dad38ea2f6ef6b4188d1ca32d09f10" target="_blank">The Daily Telegraph</a></em> that she was the one that initiated the split but also went on to clarify that there was no sense of hostility between the pair, but Gillespie believes otherwise.</p> <p>“We’re very different, Emma and I. We’re very … I think I’m the more romantic one. She’s very much down the line and she just … she’s got her own way of doing things,” Gillespie said on Monday night’s episode.</p> <p>“It’s not easy spending that much time together with the pressure of work, too.</p> <p>“I think it has gone through ups and downs. There’s not a lot of time in between to spend together outside Wiggles.</p> <p>“It has all been all-consuming, and that’s been a tricky thing to get right, I suppose.”</p> <p>Watkins – whose rise as the yellow Wiggle has made her a fan favourite – had only good things to say about her ex-husband.</p> <p>“Lachy has been so supportive, and I really can’t thank him enough in all of this,” Watkins said.</p> <p>“We started to spend more time with our families, and that started to become quite a priority for us. I think there was a realisation that romantically it just wasn’t going the way that our friendship was going.</p> <p>“I think we decided to part our ways quite organically over the course of about eight months. It was a mutual decision and we wanted to wait until the end of the year and then try and work out a way to make a statement to our fans.”</p> <p>The couple decided to make a public statement regarding their separation.</p> <p>“When the media first called I think initially I thought, ‘Oh no – they don’t really know what’s going on,'” said Watkins.</p> <p>“And then as the hours kept going by I kept getting more calls and I thought, ‘Oh, OK – I think people know more than we thought they did.'”</p>

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The new and reliable way to spot a liar

<p><strong><em>Susan Krauss Whitbourne is a professor of Psychology and Brain Sciences at the University of Massachusetts Amherst. She writes the Fulfilment at Any Age blog for Psychology Today.</em></strong></p> <p>Figuring out who will be truthful is as important a determination to make as any you might make in your life. Your quest to identify what's a lie ranges from distilling the newsfeed you receive on a moment-to-moment basis to trying to decide if a salesperson is giving you a truly good deal for a truly good product. Psychology addresses the question of dishonesty from a range of perspectives, such as interpreting <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/body-language">body language</a></span> or counting the number of “uh’s” in a person’s speech. However, it would also make sense that <span><em><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/personality">personality</a></em></span> would figure into the equation. Putting this idea to the test, University of Cape Town (South Africa) psychologist Yolandi-Eloise Jansevan van Rensburg and colleagues (2018) explored academic dishonesty in a context easily investigated with college undergraduates. Although their focus is on this specific type of cheating, the results of this study also have implications for <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/empathy">understanding</a></span> dishonestly on a larger scale.</p> <p>Van Rensburg and her colleagues note that a large percentage (43%) of college students admit to having cheated at some point and in some way on exams. This estimate comes from a range of studies conducted between 2002 and 2013, with nearly 135,000 participants. In a way, although <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/infidelity">cheating on</a></span> campus is a headache primarily for instructors, the problem also takes on significance when you consider that some of those cheaters are now serving the public, sometimes in situations involving life or death decisions. Who wants a cheater conducting <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/neuroscience">brain</a></span> surgery or doing your taxes?</p> <p>The personality traits that the South African researchers believed would be most related to academic <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/deception">deception</a></span> stem from the so-called “HEXACO” model that includes as one if its components the honesty-humility dimension. As you can most likely guess from the term, scores on this personality attribute are related to what the researchers call “counter-academic behaviour.” In other words, people with low scores on the honesty end of the continuum should be more likely to commit “multiple ethical transgressions within an academic context” that would include cheating and plagiarising among other behaviours such as abusing substances and holding low personal standards. Whether honesty-humility scores would include cheating specifically within this range of counter-academic behaviour became the study’s empirical question.</p> <p>According to van Rensburg et al., it is necessary to break the honesty-humility scores down further in the effort to predict cheating. Honesty refers to being fair and trustworthy, and unwilling to engage in behaviours designed to provide personal gain such as exploiting, stealing, lying, and of course, cheating. People high in humility avoid being greedy and regard themselves as not particularly entitled to special treatment. Putting the two together, people may want to get ahead and hope to get special treatment (i.e. be low in humility), but honesty puts the brakes on their doing so, acting as a “control element” against engaging in counterproductive behaviour.</p> <p>Using an online sample of 308 South African students ranging from 18 to 47 years of age, with an average age of 23, van Rensburg and her collaborators assessed cheating both with direct questions about counter-academic behaviour as well as with a disguised measure of cheating in the form of an online task that participants were to score themselves. The online cheating task was administered prior to the personality test to ensure that participants wouldn’t guess the actual purpose of the study and then be influenced by the honesty questions when they performed the task.</p> <p>The online cheating measure was cleverly designed to tempt participants to cheat by giving them the opportunity to win money if they performed well. Participants were told they should not use any unauthorised help such as using a calculator, nor to change their answers once they started seeing the correct scores. After completing the task, participants then reported on whether or not they had cheated in the process of scoring themselves or using any of that unauthorised help. To assess counter-academic behaviour, the researchers asked participants a series of questions regarding such examples as submitting a class paper or project that was not their own work (misrepresentation) and turning in work that was of poor quality and lower than their true potential or ability (low personal standards).</p> <p>Think now about what you would do in the online task scenario. Would you try to change your answers or give yourself an honest grade based on which ones you got right and which you got wrong? If you believe you would refrain from cheating, why would this be? Would you feel it was unfair to receive unearned money or would you just feel that you were being insincere? Think too about whether you’d really want money you hadn’t earned. Is it worth it to get an extra few dollars in terms of your own self-respect and integrity, or would you stop at nothing to try to game the system?</p> <p>As it turned out, the fairness dimension ranked above all else in predicting who self-reports engaging in counter-academic behaviour. With fairness including an adherence to social norms and unwillingness to take advantage of others, the authors reasoned, people with high scores on this trait should stay away from all forms of behaving badly in academic settings. For the online cheating test, though, it was greed avoidance that provided the strongest predictive value. That material gain, small though it was, provided sufficient incentive for the greedy students to grab what they could.</p> <p>Breaking honesty-humility down into its components, then, and differentiating between general college misbehaviour and cheating on a specific task allowed the South African <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/teamwork">team</a></span> to pinpoint the distinct personality traits that lead people to lie to get what they feel they deserve. If you generalise beyond an academic situation, the findings suggest that the people most likely to cheat their way to the top are, at their core, greedy. Their desire to acquire material goods allows them to suspend their own sense of right and wrong. Those individuals who uphold the values of fairness will, by contrast, avoid the more general range of unsavoury behaviours that include ethical transgressions. </p> <p>If you want to figure out who to trust, the van Rensburg et al. study suggests you do a quick assessment of fairness and greed avoidance. Even if you dangle attractive goodies to the people high in greed avoidance, they’ll be able to resist temptation. You can conduct your own experiments of giving them the opportunity to earn something they don’t deserve and see how they behave. The people who believe in fairness, similarly, can be put to the test by finding out if they would try to get away with bending the rules if they could. Of course, you can also see if they do. If a salesperson fails to charge them for an item, do they point this out, or furtively leave the scene as fast as possible?</p> <p>Finding fulfillment in your own personal search for success means not cheating to get what you want. Learning to figure out who to trust in your relationships means looking not so much at their nonverbal communication but at the more easily observable, and perhaps reliable, conduct.</p> <p><em>Written by Susan Krauss Whitbourne. Republished with permission of <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com"><strong><u>Psychology Today.</u></strong> </a></em></p>

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Duchess Meghan’s heartfelt note to fans

<p>Since joining the British royal family earlier this year, Duchess Meghan has captivated the attention of the world.</p> <p>And now, the Duchess of Sussex has proven how much the love and support of her fans has touched her.</p> <p>When Meghan celebrated her 37th birthday last month she was flooded with sweet cards and letters, so the royal made a special gesture to show her appreciation. </p> <p>Although the busy royal understandably didn’t have time to reply to each card personally, well-wishers received a thoughtful thank you card from Kensington Palace.</p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet" data-lang="en"> <p dir="ltr">A look at the latest “Thank You” card being sent out by Kensington Palace on behalf of Duchess Meghan to those who wished her a Happy Birthday🎂 <a href="https://t.co/vgVlU6EJB8">pic.twitter.com/vgVlU6EJB8</a></p> — Omid Scobie (@scobie) <a href="https://twitter.com/scobie/status/1039449700049543168?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">September 11, 2018</a></blockquote> <p>The heartfelt note reads: “The Duchess of Sussex is so touched you took the trouble to write as you did on the occasion of her 37th birthday."</p> <p>“It really was most thoughtful of you and Her Royal Highness sends you her heartfelt thanks and best wishes.”</p> <p>It is not uncommon for members of the British royal family to send thank you cards to well-wishers.</p> <p>The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge sent a card with a photo of the couple in response to cards they received on their seventh wedding anniversary in April.</p> <p>A card with a photo of Prince George was also sent to royal fans who sent in a card for his fifth birthday. </p>

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Age gap love: "I left my husband for a man 23 years my senior"

<p class="sics-component__html-injector sics-component__story__intro sics-component__story__paragraph">Pete and I met in 2001. He was 61 and I was 38.</p> <p class="sics-component__html-injector sics-component__story__paragraph">This December we'll be celebrating 14 years of marriage.</p> <p class="sics-component__html-injector sics-component__story__paragraph">When we met, we were both married with children and tried to stay with our partners, but we quickly found that our love was too strong for us to be apart. </p> <p class="sics-component__html-injector sics-component__story__paragraph">At the time, my parents found the whole situation very hard to deal with – not because of his age, but because I was going to get a divorce. They were both raised with a strong faith and were opposed to the idea. </p> <p class="sics-component__html-injector sics-component__story__paragraph">Adding to the fact that we were both married at the time, Pete was my boss, which meant this relationship was frowned on by many people around us.</p> <div class="sics-component__ad-space sics-component__ad-space--storybody "> <p class="sics-component__html-injector sics-component__story__paragraph">Through all of this, we quickly found out who our true friends were and in time, my parents and family grew to love him. His children welcomed me into their family, as my son welcomed Pete into ours. </p> <p class="sics-component__html-injector sics-component__story__paragraph">Over the years, life has been great to us. There have been minor problems but in all, there was nothing we couldn't work through together. </p> <p class="sics-component__html-injector sics-component__story__paragraph">I never once thought that I would marry an older man, but it's true what they say, you can't help who you fall in love with. </p> <p class="sics-component__html-injector sics-component__story__paragraph">My husband still keeps very good health and now, at almost 77 years of age, has only recently retired. I am often told that Pete doesn't look his age and he often points out how lucky he is to have such good genes.</p> <p class="sics-component__html-injector sics-component__story__paragraph">Overall, the age gap hasn't been an issue in our relationship. A few years ago he got hearing aids, but that ended up being a relief for both of us.</p> <p class="sics-component__html-injector sics-component__story__paragraph">Pete and I enjoy cycling while he also enjoys socialising and doing crosswords, which he says will prevent dementia. He is on no medication and hardly visits a GP. In fact, he refuses to even get the flu shot.</p> <p class="sics-component__html-injector sics-component__story__paragraph">Recently, we have moved to a small town where we live mortgage free and are retired. Thankfully, I am lucky enough to piggy back on Pete's pension due to his age so we now spend all of our time together doing things without work getting in the way of our day.</p> <p class="sics-component__html-injector sics-component__story__paragraph">While we have similar interests, we also do things on our own to keep our independence. We both volunteer at different places, he attends Tai Chi every week, while I enjoy walking regularly. </p> <p class="sics-component__html-injector sics-component__story__paragraph">For our future, our plans are to make the most of each day with each other, enjoy some travel and keep well. </p> <p class="sics-component__html-injector sics-component__story__paragraph">Having previously worked in aged care for many years I am aware of what is coming. I'm certain that is still a long way off yet but when it comes, I'll be by his side to see him through those tough times. </p> <p class="sics-component__html-injector sics-component__story__paragraph">Life is good with Pete, and we laugh, love and live each day together.</p> <p class="sics-component__html-injector sics-component__story__paragraph"><em>Written by Mary-Anne Evans. Republished with permission of <a href="https://www.stuff.co.nz/life-style/106872135/maryanne-evans--age-gap-relationship">Stuff.co.nz</a>.</em></p> <p class="sics-component__html-injector sics-component__story__paragraph"> </p> </div>

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Private letters reveal what Prince Philip thought of Princess Diana

<p>The news of Princess Diana and Prince Charles filing for divorce shocked the world, and now, what Prince Philip thought of the matter has been revealed.</p> <p>Following the controversial interview of Princess Diana with Martin Bashir in 1995, in which she said there were “three people” in her marriage, the Queen advised the couple to divorce.</p> <p>According to <em><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.thesun.co.uk/" target="_blank">The Sun</a></em>, Diana admitted to the late singer George Michael that the breakup was “grim” and the royal family was “not very loving".</p> <p>But years after those events transpired, unreleased letters between Princess Diana and Prince Philip show that the Duke of Edinburgh took his daughter-in-law’s side when things “got messy” between the couple.</p> <p>In a letter dating back to 1992, after her separation from Prince Charles, Philip told Diana that he and his wife, the Queen, disapprove of their son’s love life.</p> <p>He allegedly wrote: “Charles was silly to risk everything with Camilla for a man in his position.</p> <p>“We never dreamt he might feel like leaving you for her. I cannot imagine anyone in their right mind leaving you for Camilla. Such a prospect never even entered our heads.”</p> <p>The letter was signed off, “with fondest love, Pa.”</p> <p>He also allegedly expressed his support for his daughter-in-law and offered to act as a mediator between her and Charles while they fought through the bitter divorce.</p> <p>“I can only repeat what I’ve said before if invited, I will always do my utmost to help you and Charles to the best of my ability,” he reportedly wrote.</p> <p>“But I am quite ready to concede that I have no talent as a marriage counsellor.”</p> <p>But despite all of this, Prince Philip made it clear that he would not support Diana being a part of new relationships of her own, writing: “We do not approve of either of you having lovers.”</p> <p>According to reports, it is also claimed that he asked the Princess to look “honestly” into her heart and ask whether “Charles’s relationship with Camilla had nothing to do with your behaviour towards him in your marriage?”</p> <p>According to Princess Diana’s former private secretary, Patrick Jephson, her in-law’s support meant a lot to her.</p> <p>“Here at last was written proof that this was acknowledged, recognised, and there was sympathy for her,” he said.</p>

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The one word a narcissist doesn’t want to hear

<p><strong><em>Susan Krauss Whitbourne is a professor of Psychology and Brain Sciences at the University of Massachusetts Amherst. She writes the Fulfilment at Any Age blog for Psychology Today.</em></strong></p> <p>Narcissism is marked by a distinct belief in one’s own exceptionalism. People high in this quality are convinced that they are better than everyone else and deserving of attention and recognition. They certainly don’t want to be criticised or called out for any misbehaviour. Perhaps you have a relative who likes to show off at family gatherings as being the best cook in the clan. She produces what she believes to be perfectly prepared potatoes, making sure everyone applauds her contribution as she flamboyantly sets them on the table. Unfortunately, no one thinks they're actually all that good. When the potatoes inevitably go uneaten time after time, she seems oblivious until someone finally gets up the nerve to point this out. The result, in retrospect, was predictable: “What’s wrong with you people? You wouldn’t know good cooking if it stared you in the face!”</p> <p>As hard as it is for people high in narcissism to accept criticism, it’s even more difficult for them to take “no” for an answer. You might have a very demanding and self-centred boss who, like the Queen of Hearts in <em>Alice in Wonderland</em>, wants everyone in her vicinity to do what she tells them to do. You wouldn’t dare criticise her or even offer constructive comments about how she might try moving the chairs around her desk so that it would be easier to have meetings in her office. The last time you tried this, you stopped yourself before the eruption reached its full proportion. What if, along related lines, you indicated your disagreement with her managerial style? The last time someone tried this, she told them never, ever, to talk to her that way again. </p> <p>There are many words people high in narcissism don’t want to hear, but perhaps the worst involve a “no,” as in “No, you can’t," "No, you're wrong," or — even worse — “No, I won’t.” This makes it difficult to go about your ordinary business with the people in your life who don't understand the give-and-take of normal social interactions. According to a 2014 study by Hacettepe University (Turkey)’s Şefika Şule Erçetin and colleagues, this type of “Managerial Narcissism” can create chaos. The highly <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/narcissism">narcissistic </a></span>come up with “new and dramatic <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/motivation">goals</a></span>” whose inability to succeed can only be attributed to “outside conditions or enemies who attempt to hinder them” (p. 98). If you try to stop this managerial narcissist, by extension, you become “the enemy”. </p> <p>From this description, you might think that you could readily identify the managerial narcissist in your life. Test these ideas against sample items from the scale developed by the Turkish authors. Each item appears after the dimension it represents on the scale:</p> <ol> <li><span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/leadership">Leadership</a></span>and authority: I am a good leader.</li> <li>Anticipation of recognition: I know that I am a good manager, because everyone says so.</li> <li>Grandiosity: I very much want to be powerful.</li> <li>Self-admiration and vanity: If I ran the world, it would be a much better place.</li> <li><span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/conditions/exhibitionism">Exhibitionism</a></span>: Everyone likes hearing my stories.</li> </ol> <p>If the person in question seems to fit these items, then the chances are good that you’re dealing with someone high in this extremely bossy form of narcissism. How, then, do you approach realistically the situations in which you need to refuse an order or challenge your boss’s strategy? You know that to preserve your sanity, or at least the effectiveness of the group’s efforts, you’re going to have to say something, but if you’re fired, you’ll be deprived both of the opportunity to make changes and, of course, your pay check. Similarly, if you challenge that narcissistically managerial family member, you’ll risk creating irreparable family divisions that might include your banishment from holiday and birthday gatherings.</p> <p>Thus, knowing why individuals high in managerial narcissism have these unpleasant stances toward the people in their lives doesn’t really help you solve these dilemmas. Indeed, recognising that a person you need to challenge, potentially, is high in narcissism can only make the problem seem worse. You <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/fear">fear</a></span> “poking the dragon,” because you anticipate that the other person will retaliate against you because of the injury you’ve inflicted with your disagreement or challenge.</p> <p>University of Kentucky’s David Chester and C. Nathan DeWall (2016) conducted a study that can provide a way out of this quagmire. Chester and DeWall tested the proposal that “narcissists react aggressively to interpersonal insult because of a heightened discrepancy between their grandiose self and the now threatened self” (p. 366). To understand why they react this way, the research <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/teamwork">team</a></span> put undergraduate participants through a simulated social rejection while a brain scan (fMRI) measured their <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/neuroscience">neural</a></span> activity in an area involved in maintaining vigilance. The rejection simulation involved the game of “Cyberball” in which participants think they’re being excluded from a computer game by two people who throw the ball just to each other, and not to the participant. People who had scored high on the narcissism scale, and had heightened activity in this one brain region, reacted to rejection by "punishing" the opponents they believed had rejected them. No one was actually punished, of course, nor were there any actual opponents in this simulation, but the participants didn't know this at the time. They believed their rejection was real, and their response indicated they were intent on seeking revenge.</p> <p>It appears, then, that people high in narcissism who are vigilant for potential threats will be the ones you should most fear if you cross them by refusing to accede to their will or pointing out where they’re wrong. In real life, you can't test someone's intention of seeking revenge by pulling out a portable brain scan. As a suggestion for avoiding this unpleasant outcome, then, it might be worthwhile to consider Chester and DeWall’s observation from previous research that the acute sensitivity to rejection that some people high in narcissism show results from a life history “characterized by volatile, ‘hot-then-cold’ interactions with <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/attachment">attachment</a></span> figures” (p. 366).</p> <p>You can’t go back and fix those early <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/child-development">childhood</a></span> experiences, but knowing where the <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/anger">rage</a></span> comes from can help you approach the situation from a more empathetic standpoint. Prefacing your comments by offering ego-protecting words in which you show your admiration can help soften the blow. Knowing that confrontations provoke angry responses can also help you plan end-run strategies that allow you to achieve the same outcome in an indirect fashion. Returning to the example of the unpopular potatoes, you might work with whoever is organising the menu for the occasion to suggest a face-saving alternative, such as simply asking for another contribution, because there haven’t been enough, for example, cheese platters brought to your family gatherings.</p> <p>It can be difficult to establish fulfilling relationships with people whose narcissism makes them overly sensitive and reactive to challenges to their sense of self. In the long run, the delicate and tactful route may pave the way to happier outcomes for all.</p> <p><em>Written by Susan Krauss Whitbourne. Republished with permission of <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com"><strong><u>Psychology Today.</u></strong> </a></em></p>

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