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"You have to beg for help": how our welfare system pressures people to perform vulnerability

<p>People who rely on welfare payments to survive are often required to repeatedly tell stories of their personal hardships.</p> <p>In a <a href="https://www.theguardian.com/australia-news/2022/jun/07/job-seekers-could-have-welfare-stopped-under-onerous-new-points-based-system-advocates-warn">conditional welfare system</a>, many must regularly attend compulsory appointments, job search training courses, and self-development and treatment programs simply to receive their payments.</p> <p>People in extreme hardship often tell their stories even more frequently as they seek extra relief from non-government charities and community providers.</p> <p>Those on income support payments below the relative poverty line feel the crunch of <a href="https://www.ncoss.org.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/NCOSS_CostOfLiving22_FINAL_DESIGNED.pdf">inflation and rising living costs</a> most severely. This means many will require extra support from welfare services to meet their basic needs.</p> <p>Integral to this system is the idea of “performing vulnerability”.</p> <p>“Performing vulnerability” – a term I borrow from UK-based researcher <a href="https://policy.bristoluniversitypress.co.uk/vulnerability-and-young-people">Kate Brown</a> to update Australian academic <a href="https://www.cambridge.org/core/books/lowest-rung/FA159318C2D046EDD3C9347C8B8E4F2E">Mark Peel’s</a> idea of “performing poverty” – is not just about repeatedly describing personal hardship. </p> <p>It points to the expectation to describe hardship in particular ways that are recognisable – and hence believable – to support providers.</p> <p>My book, <a href="https://policy.bristoluniversitypress.co.uk/making-a-life-on-mean-welfare">Making a Life on Mean Welfare: Voices from Multicultural Sydney </a>shows how the expectation to perform vulnerability to access support shapes experiences on both sides of the welfare frontline. </p> <p>It can compound the cycle of disadvantage associated with receiving welfare in the long term. It does so by <a href="https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0038026119876775">fostering mistrust</a> between welfare users and providers, as well as tainting how people in need of support see themselves and their situation.</p> <h2>‘Tell me your story’</h2> <p>For my doctoral research, I spent 18 months speaking to welfare users and workers in culturally and linguistically diverse southwest Sydney. I also observed different aspects of service delivery while volunteering at a community welfare organisation. I interviewed 25 welfare users and 11 community welfare practitioners.</p> <p>As a researcher of everyday experiences of welfare and poverty, I know all too well what it is like to ask people to tell their stories of hardship yet again.</p> <p>I also grew up in an impoverished family reliant on welfare to get by. I know firsthand what the impact of retelling stories of hardship can be, particularly when the audience is, as Peel <a href="https://www.cambridge.org/core/books/lowest-rung/FA159318C2D046EDD3C9347C8B8E4F2E">puts</a> it, “someone who has the power to give or deny them something they need”.</p> <p>One of the community welfare practitioners I interviewed summed it up by saying: "They’re coming again feeling ashamed. They’ve knocked on someone’s door, to tell yet again how shitty their situation is."</p> <p>Her response was to chat and put them at ease before saying, “Can you tell me your story?” She would follow up by saying, “You’ve given me some insight, let’s formalise your story a little bit.”</p> <p>Some welfare workers showed more scepticism, particularly when it came to giving out emergency relief. </p> <p>When someone refused to share more than the minimum information required to be eligible for extra assistance, one welfare worker commented: "That person doesn’t want to take responsibility."</p> <p>Another practitioner told me, “That woman dramatised her situation,” but quickly added, “That doesn’t mean she wasn’t genuine.”</p> <p>The willingness of people seeking assistance to disclose personal hardships and do so convincingly impacts on how deserving they may come across to those delivering support. The pressure to perform can overshadow encounters between welfare users and workers even when it doesn’t determine the outcome.</p> <h2>‘It’s your dignity’</h2> <p>Among the most marginal welfare recipients I spoke to, “performing vulnerability” was another toll of poverty.</p> <p>Those experiencing the worst hardship frequently told me about having to explain “the ins and outs” and feeling “embarrassed”, “intimidated” or “uncomfortable” when they had to present to welfare agencies.</p> <p>Two young people (whom I have given fictional names) powerfully conveyed the cost of telling all about their struggles:</p> <blockquote> <p>Kane: Often if you go to them sorts of people (welfare agencies) you’ve gotta put it all out there, that you’re homeless, that you got nothing, you got no friends, no family – and then they’re gonna go boom “alright” (you get the help you came for)…</p> <p>Nessa: Yeah, that’s what I had to do to get a house and it’s embarrassing (talking over each other) I think it’s embarrassing.</p> <p>Kane: You gotta go down to those levels you know – it’s wrong.</p> <p>Nessa: When you gotta expose everything and don’t want to, it’s, like, your dignity.</p> <p>Kane: Yeah, it’s everything.</p> </blockquote> <h2>Performing is not pretending</h2> <p>The most marginal welfare users get a great deal of practice performing their hardship. But knowing how to tell their story a certain way is not the same as pretending.</p> <p>Not only do people at the sharp end of the welfare system have to endure the hardships of poverty, but they must then recite it in a way that registers as genuine, pressing and beyond reprieve.</p> <p>As a woman living on the disability support pension put it:"You don’t have the flexibility that a rich person has to respond to crisis, so you have to beg for help. That takes time! And you know you’ll be judged like it’s your fault."</p> <p>A welfare system that demands disclosure of personal hardships – even when geared towards being <a href="https://onlinelibrary-wiley-com.ezproxy.uws.edu.au/doi/full/10.1111/1468-4446.12740">supportive</a> rather than suspicious – can undermine dignity and hold back those unwilling or unable to tell their story convincingly or in enough detail.</p> <p><em>Image credits: Getty Images </em></p> <p><em>This article originally appeared on <a href="https://theconversation.com/you-have-to-beg-for-help-how-our-welfare-system-pressures-people-to-perform-vulnerability-180975" target="_blank" rel="noopener">The Conversation</a>. </em></p>

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Teenager at centre of COVID lockdown begs “hate speech” to stop

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The teenager whose movements resulted in the recent lockdown of Tamworth has pleaded for the thousands of daily abusive messages to stop.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Shannon Dockerty drove from Newcastle to Tamworth last Wednesday and visited several venues while unknowingly infectious the following day.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Following the announcement that the Hunter region was entering lockdown, Ms Dockerty returned to Newcastle that afternoon and got tested for COVID-19, only to receive a positive result the next night.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Tamworth then entered lockdown for a week, commencing on Monday at 5pm.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Individuals who visited the cafes, pub, and vape store at the same time as Ms Dockerty were told to get tested and isolate.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Since her isolation period started, Ms Dockerty says she has been receiving thousands of “nasty messages” each day.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">In a TikTok video she shared on Tuesday, she was fighting back tears as she revealed she had been getting “hate speech” despite not breaking any rules.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“Just a reminder that we’re all human and that person you’re abusing has received many nasty messages and has feelings,” she captioned the clip.</span></p> <p><img style="width: 422px; height:316px;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7843054/40589b7304cb2e12936130a330887567.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/45156f136ed54a51a72be3f06ceabdd0" /></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Image: news.com.au</span></em></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">But, her plea was largely ignored, with hundreds arguing that her trip might not have broken the rules but was still unnecessary.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“Should’ve stayed home. No one’s going to give you sympathy,” one said.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“So you don’t want to get hate speech or comments? You should have stayed home and followed the rules like everyone else,” another wrote.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Others falsely accused her of leaving the Hunter region after lockdown had commenced, as well as not isolating while waiting for her COVID-19 test results.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">To combat the false accusations, Ms Dockerty broke down her movements on Instagram, including details of her morning expedition with a friend on Thursday, after which she settled in at a pub where the 11am press conference was playing.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">After hearing the Premier’s announcement that there had been new cases in Newcastle and that the area would be entering lockdown, Ms Dockerty and her friend went for a test straight away.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">In just a few hours after the test, Ms Dockerty was travelling back to Newcastle to isolate.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">With her only knowledge of cases in Newcastle being COVID-19 fragments being detected in sewerage, the last thing she expected was to receive a positive test result.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Ms Dockerty suspects she may have contracted the virus at a university beach party, but had been unaware of the potential infection as she didn’t start experiencing symptoms until after her test.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Ms Dockerty told news.com.au that she had developed “pretty rough” symptoms, and was “a bit sick of waking up to thousands of comments about whether I did the right or wrong thing when NSW Health have already commended my actions”.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Since Tamworth entered lockdown, the area, along with Armidale and the Northern Rivers, has reported no additional cases, which Premier Gladys Berejiklian said were “positive signs”.</span></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Image: news.com.au</span></em></p>

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Lisa Curry begs parents to do one thing in memory of her daughter

<div class="post_body_wrapper"> <div class="post_body"> <div class="body_text "> <p>Devastated Olympian Lisa Curry is struggling to come to terms with the death of her daughter Jaimi, who passed away from an unspecified illness at the age of 33.</p> <p>Lisa has called on parents to hug their children and tell them they love them after her heartbreaking loss.</p> <p>She's also thanked her fans for the "outpouring of love and strength" as they have flooded her social media with kind messages.</p> <p>“There are so many messages from so many people and it’s difficult to get back to all of you but in time we’ll try,” Lisa wrote.</p> <p>“Sadly, I know that we are not the only parents who have lost a child...</p> <p>“So to all the parents who have lost a child, and to those who will, today, tomorrow.... somehow I guess we get through it.</p> <p>“The grief is immense and we are allowing it to take its course.</p> <p>“If I can ask you to do something [for] Jaimi ... right now, go and give your children the biggest hug and tell them how much you love them, and do that every day, because you’ll never know if it’s the last day...</p> <p>“Our beautiful Jaimi. Resting peacefully now.”</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/CFLUI5KDRgA/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;"><a style="color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CFLUI5KDRgA/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">Thank you so much for the outpouring of love and strength we are receiving. There are so many messages from so many people and it’s difficult to get back to all of you but in time we’ll try. Sadly, I know that we are not the only parents who have lost a child... so to all the parents who have lost a child, and to those who will, today, tomorrow.... somehow i guess we get through it. The grief is immense and we are allowing it to take its course. 😞💔 If I can ask you to do something from Jaimi... right now, go and give your children the biggest hug and tell them how much you love them, and do that everyday because you’ll never know if it’s the last day... 😞 Our beautiful Jaimi🌸Resting peacefully now🌸</a></p> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;">A post shared by <a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/lisacurry/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank"> Lisa Curry AO</a> (@lisacurry) on Sep 15, 2020 at 5:10pm PDT</p> </div> </blockquote> <p>Lisa announced on Monday that her daughter had passed, saying she was "heartbroken".</p> <p>“Jaimi will forever be remembered as a caring, bright and loving soul who always put others before herself,” Lisa said.</p> </div> </div> </div>

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URGENT RECALL: Officials are begging customers to BIN popular dairy product

<p><span>Dairy Farmers are urging customers who purchased their 1 and 3 litre milk to throw it away due to potential E. coli contamination. </span><br /><br /><span>The popular dairy products are being pulled off shelves as the announcement comes and Lion Dairy and Drink, who own and operate the Dairy Farmers brand, issued a recalls for both products which have been sold in NSW. </span><br /><br /><strong>The affected milk products include:</strong><br /><br /><span>- Dairy Farmers 3L Full Cream White Milk with a use by date of 24/02/2020</span><br /><br /><span>- Dairy Farmers 1L Full Cream White Milk with a use by date of 25/02/2020</span><br /><br /><span>Consumers who have products with the matching use by dates are being urged to throw them out.</span></p> <p><img style="width: 500px; height: 281.25px;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7834558/logo-iga-woolworths-coles-5.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/435426a6a4fb42579a3b48ad99ca5b51" /><br /><br /><span>The impacted milk produce were manufactured at Lion's Penrith dairy plant, and were distributed for sale through Coles, Woolworths and IGA stores.</span><br /><br /><span>"There have been no consumer complaints to date regarding these products," Lion Dairy and Drinks said in a statement. </span><br /><br /><span>"We encourage anyone who has consumed the Dairy Farmers 3L or 1L Full Cream white milk product with the respective Use By Dates and made and sold in New South Wales and who feels unwell to seek medical advice as required."</span><br /><br /><span>The company said they had not received any customer complaints but denied to comment on how the issue arose. </span><br /><br /><span>Lion Dairy and Drinks will issue a full refund for consumers who have purchased the affected products.</span><br /><br /><span>Concerned consumer are being urged to call Lion Dairy and Drinks Customer Enquiries Centre on 1800 677 852.</span></p>

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Lowest act: Thieves steal gear to pose as firefighters and beg for fake donations

<p>A NSW fire station has warned residents to keep an eye out as thieves stole firefighter gear from the station and could be posing as fireys to get donations from unaware locals.</p> <p>Wyong Fire Station, on the Central Coast of NSW, was broken into on Saturday night and alerted locals to what had been stolen in a Facebook post.</p> <p><iframe src="https://www.facebook.com/plugins/post.php?href=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2Ffrnsw505%2Fposts%2F1990863537726068&amp;width=500" width="500" height="745" style="border: none; overflow: hidden;" scrolling="no" frameborder="0" allowtransparency="true" allow="encrypted-media"></iframe></p> <p>Yellow fire helmets, bushfire jackets and gloves, ID cards, goggles, shirts and trousers as well as white flash hoods resembling balaclavas were stolen.</p> <p>“All of these items are clearly marked or branded with FRNSW logos and some of these will have firefighters names on them,” the post read.</p> <p>The post ended by saying that FRNSW “do not door knock or go around asking for monetary donations or discounts”.</p> <p>Hundreds have since commented on the post, condemning the thieves’ actions.</p> <p>“What is wrong with these people?” one woman said.</p> <p>“This is just the lowest act,” another person said.</p> <p>“This is horrible, hard to believe that someone could be this low or do something like this. Hope they find the grub!” another wrote.</p> <p>A man commented saying that they saw a ‘solo door knocker’ when driving.</p> <p>“Saw a ‘solo door knocker’ in Gorokan, Dudley St about an hour ago when driving. Was a man, dressed in RFS and holding a bucket.</p> <p>“I have notified the station, maybe keep an eye out if in Gorokan.”</p>

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Local authorities beg tourists not to use Google Maps to find “hidden beaches”

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">A spike in lost visitors has prompted the local authorities in Sardinia, Italy to warn tourists about using Google Maps to find hidden beaches.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The island is famed for its white sand coves and stretches of sand.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Local authorities have recently reported a spike in lost tourists who have tried to find the island’s “hidden beaches” but ended up on dangerous cliff edges instead.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Emergency services and the fire brigade are regularly called out to rescue tourists who find themselves stuck on dirt tracks. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">A family who were travelling in a Porsche were forced to abandon the vehicle after nearly falling off a cliff.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">144 vehicles have been rescued in two year and authorities are now putting up signs that advise visitors not to use Google Maps on the island.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Baunei Mayor Salvatore Corrias told </span><a href="https://edition.cnn.com/travel/article/sardinia-google-maps-tourists-lost-baunei/index.html"><span style="font-weight: 400;">CNN</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> that the signs are in both English and Italian, warning of the road tracks.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">He said Google Maps were "misleading" drivers and often took cars on "unpassable tracks".</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">A Google Maps spokesperson told </span><a href="https://www.thesun.co.uk/travel/10147431/tourists-google-maps-sardinia-beaches/"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Sun Online Travel</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">: </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">"We're aware of an issue in Sardinia where Google Maps is routing some drivers down roads that can be difficult to navigate due to their terrain.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">"We're currently working with the local government to resolve the issue and are investigating ways we can better alert drivers about these types of roads."</span></p>

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“We simply cannot continue”: Guide Dogs Queensland beg for help

<p><a href="https://www.guidedogsqld.com.au/"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Guide Dogs Queensland</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> have put out a desperate plea for Puppy Raisers as they need help raising current and future litters of guide dogs.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“We simply cannot continue without more volunteer puppy raisers,” Guide Dogs Queensland general manager of guide dog services Lee Buckingham told </span><a href="https://www.news.com.au/national/queensland/can-you-raise-a-guide-dog-to-change-someones-life/news-story/e039f27b61b78a260b831d3857635e39"><span style="font-weight: 400;">news.com.au</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“It takes almost two years and more than $50,000 to breed, raise, and train just one Guide Dog. We rely on the generous community donations to make this possible, and of course, the incredible dedication and commitment of our volunteer Puppy Raisers.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">This means that the current puppy raisers are working without a break, including the Burgess family.</span></p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/B2vxBiwA7Cf/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;"><a style="color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/B2vxBiwA7Cf/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">We have so many pups (just like Jessie) coming on site to start their training, and it's so exciting! 🐶 Our puppy raisers are doing incredible jobs! You can find out more about becoming a puppy raiser by clicking the link in our bio. 😍</a></p> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;">A post shared by <a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/guidedogsqld/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank"> Guide Dogs Queensland</a> (@guidedogsqld) on Sep 23, 2019 at 1:04am PDT</p> </div> </blockquote> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“We were planning to have a break for a little while,” Alan Burgess said.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“But Guide Dogs desperately needed someone to raise Isaac — and this job is far too important to say ‘no’ to.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“There is someone who is blind or vision impaired out there right now who really needs a Guide Dog to continue living an independent lifestyle, and that is all the motivation we need to continue raising the next generation of Guide Dogs.”</span></p>

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“Please deport my son”: Parents beg government for help after son stole life savings

<p>Tearful parents have pleaded with the Australian government to deport their son after he stole their credit cards and racked up $47,000 of debt in their name.</p> <p>Speaking to <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong><a href="https://www.9now.com.au/a-current-affair/2018/extras/latest/180529/deport-my-son?ocid=Social-9ACA" target="_blank">A Current Affair</a></strong></em></span>, Jill and Tony Lewis said they don’t want to see their son Russell ever again after broke into their home, stole their credit card information and took all their money.</p> <p>“Please deport my son, because I've had enough… I never want to see him again,” Mr Lewis said on the program.</p> <p>Ms Lewis broke down as she recalled the moment five years ago the couple realised their own son had left them penniless. He had spent their life savings on televisions, a four-wheeler and a portable air conditioning unit and more.</p> <p>“Please deport Russell because I don't want to see him again.”</p> <p>Tony and Jill, who moved to Australia from England in 1985 with their 10-year-old-son Russell, said they expected to be retired by now.</p> <p>Instead they were forced to sell their home and business. They’re now borrowing money to pay their rent while looking after Russell's six-year-old daughter. </p> <p><iframe src="https://www.facebook.com/plugins/video.php?href=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2FACurrentAffair9%2Fvideos%2F1557544647685240%2F&amp;show_text=1&amp;width=560" width="560" height="470" style="border: none; overflow: hidden;" scrolling="no" frameborder="0" allowtransparency="true" allow="encrypted-media" allowfullscreen="true"></iframe></p> <p>Russell has been convicted for fraud and was sentenced to 3.5 years' jail in Sydney's Long Bay. He will remain behind bars until 2020.</p> <p>The couple told A Current Affair in 2013 they were headed back to the UK for a holiday and had informed the Commonwealth Bank their accounts would remain idle.</p> <p>Before they had even reached the UK, the pair said Russell broken into and robbed their home.</p> <p>The couple, however, did not know they had been robbed by their son until they came back from their holiday and a bank teller alerted them.</p> <p> </p>

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James Packer “begs” ex-wife to take him back

<div class="replay"> <div class="reply_body body linkify"> <div class="reply_body"> <div class="body_text "> <p>Days after he <a href="/health/mind/2018/03/billionaire-james-packer-steps-down-due-to-mental-health-issues/" target="_blank"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">stepped down as director of Crown Resorts</span></strong></a> due to mental health issues, James Packer has checked into rehab and is reportedly “desperate” to reunite with his second ex-wife, Erica Baxter.</p> <p>According to <a href="https://www.dailytelegraph.com.au/news/special-features/in-depth/james-packer-illness-billionaire-reaches-out-for-exwife-erica-for-support-in-troubled-times/news-story/b1195a2ab645d907dab74f65f7435405" target="_blank"><strong><em><span style="text-decoration: underline;">The Daily Telegraph</span></em></strong></a>, the billionaire businessman has “begged” the mother of his children to take him back.</p> <p>However, friends of the pair say Baxter isn’t looking to reconcile, explaining the former couple’s three children are her number one priority.</p> <p>“Turning back the clock five years might be what James wants but it won’t help Erica,” the friend told the <em>Daily Telegraph</em>. “She has finally got her life together and has created a stable life in Los Angeles for her kids.</p> <p>“She doesn’t want to undo the good work she’s done with James repairing the relationship. As platonic friends they are good parents and his children get to see James at his best.”</p> <p>Packer has reportedly checked into one of the most exclusive psychiatric facilities in the US, McLean Hospital in Belmont, California. His 80-year-old mother Roslyn was seen flying out of Sydney Airport last week to be by her son’s side.</p> </div> </div> </div> </div>

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Meghan Markle’s half-sister begs for forgiveness

<p>Meghan Markle’s half-sister has begged the bride-to-be to forgive her for not staying in contact for three years and for the nasty public comments she has made about her famous sibling to the media.</p> <p>Samantha Grant, 53, also hopes that her upcoming book, <em>The Diary of Princess Pushy’s Sister,</em> won’t stop her getting an invite to the royal wedding of Prince Harry and Markle.</p> <p>In an interview with <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a href="http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/world-news/i-last-talked-three-years-11838018">The Mirror</a></strong></span>, Grant said that Markle’s last words to her in 2014 were: “I love you, babe. I’m really glad we had this conversation. Keep in touch.”</p> <p>But she said they fell out of touch because Markle “got busy”, saying: “I tried. But I think she just got really busy.”</p> <p>Grant, a former actress who is now confined to a wheelchair after being diagnosed with multiple sclerosis, said: “I hope now that she knows I was there. I should’ve really reached out more ... but I’m proud of her.”</p> <p>She also defended her book’s title, saying her book does not seek to criticise Markle but instead pokes fun at “social perceptions and labels”.</p> <p>Grant believes their rift may have been caused when she suggested on the phone that Markle should contribute financially to the family.</p> <p>Grant recently told In Touch, “If you can spend $US75,000 on a dress, you can spend $US75,000 on your dad”, referring to Markle’s dress she wore for her engagement announcement photos with Prince Harry.</p> <p>“It was probably not my place to say but I was just saying, ‘Hey, help Dad with some of that money for school now you’re making a lot of money’. I think at that time she wasn’t that pleased about what I had to say. And she said, ‘There are too many cooks in the kitchen, babe’,” Grant told The Mirror.</p> <p>When asked if she thinks she will get an invitation to the royal wedding, she said: “That’s her day. It’s her special moment. And I would love to be a part of it. But, I think, possibly she might also understand that it’s not easy for all of us to get there. But if we can, we will.”</p> <p>She added: “It would be pleasing for us to be there and be invited. But it’s entirely her decision.</p> <p>“I’d be lying to say that I wouldn’t be hurt if I didn’t get an invite but that’s really up to her.”</p> <p>She ended with a plea to Markle: “I can only say to Meg, ‘Forgive me’.”</p>

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Family begs for thieves to return mother’s stolen ashes

<p>A Queensland woman is distraught after thieves broke into her home and stole her mother’s ashes.</p> <p>The family from Waterford West spoke to Seven News, begging the robbers to return the sacred remains of their loved one.</p> <p>Vicki Roberts lost her mum Phyllis to cancer eight years ago and can’t believe that even thieves would stoop so low to steal someone’s ashes.</p> <p>"I'm just so upset that someone would be low enough to take my mum's ashes," she said.</p> <p>The ashes were in a box on Vicki’s coffee table.</p> <p>On Tuesday afternoon, Vicki returned home from her Christmas holidays to find her house ransacked and the box gone.</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img width="497" height="275" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7266745/1_497x275.jpg" alt="1 (74)"/></p> <p>"I promised her that I would look after her and I haven't," Vicki said.</p> <p>Other things missing after the robbery included jewellery, a camera and two money tins.</p> <p>The family believes the thieves thought the box of ashes was a money box.</p> <p>"The other stuff can be replaced, but that can't," Phyllis's grandson Nathan Roberts said.</p> <p>"She was everything."</p> <p>Forensic officers have dusted for fingerprints as they search to locate the ashes and find the offenders.</p> <p>"She'd be angry, she'd be the kind of person who would come back and haunt them," Nathan added.</p> <p>Vicki has pleaded for the thieves to return the ashes, either by leaving them at a police station or on her front door at night – no questions asked.</p> <p>"I would love to be able to go to sleep and wake up and she's back here," she said.</p>

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Photographer captures moment dog begs for freedom

<p>These powerful emotive photographs capture a shelter Chihuahua in California beginning for an escape and more crucially a new home to belong to.</p> <p>Photographer, John Hwang, has spent one on one time with the pooch, who he described as restless from being in the kennel, looking to find a way out. It wasn’t until he started snapping some shots of the furball when something surprisingly touching suddenly happened.</p> <p>“He got up on his hind legs, put his front paws together and shook them up and down, as if begging me to help him,” Hwang said.</p> <p>Initially it was too real to be true and Hwang thought this action of beginning was unintentional, but the dog continued to do it and it was seen as a sign of beginning for freedom.</p> <p><strong><em>Related links:</em></strong></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/health/mind/2016/01/worlds-happiest-countries-in-2015/">These are the happiest countries in the world</a></strong></em></span></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/health/mind/2015/11/how-to-banish-negative-thoughts/">7 ways to banish negative thoughts</a></strong></em></span></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/health/mind/2015/11/how-to-be-happy-in-todays-world/">How to be truly happy in today’s world</a></strong></em></span></p>

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The cutest animal bellies that beg to be tickled

<p>When an animal presents their belly to you must drop everything and give it a thorough rub. Because how could you resist this adorably cute animal who want nothing more than some belly love?</p><p>&nbsp;<img width="499" height="665" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/9037/1_499x665.jpg" alt="1 (57)" style="display: block; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"></p><p><img width="499" height="665" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/9038/2_499x665.jpg" alt="2 (60)" style="display: block; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"></p><p><img width="499" height="665" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/9039/3_499x665.jpg" alt="3 (56)" style="display: block; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"></p><p><img width="500" height="334" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/9040/4_500x334.jpg" alt="4 (53)" style="display: block; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"></p><p><img width="500" height="500" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/9041/5_500x500.jpg" alt="5 (51)" style="display: block; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"></p><p><img width="499" height="388" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/9044/6_499x388.jpg" alt="6 (50)" style="display: block; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"></p><p><img width="500" height="375" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/9046/7_500x375.jpg" alt="7 (44)" style="display: block; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"></p><p><img width="499" height="650" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/9048/9_499x650.jpg" alt="9 (33)" style="display: block; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"></p><p><img width="500" height="250" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/9050/10_500x250.jpg" alt="10 (26)" style="display: block; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"></p><p><strong>Related links:</strong></p><p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong><a href="/lifestyle/pets/2015/08/animal-sleeping-buddies/">Unlikely animal sleeping buddies that will melt your heart</a></strong></em></span></p><p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong><a href="/lifestyle/pets/2015/08/teeny-tiny-animal-gallery/">14 teeny tiny animals</a></strong></em></span></p><p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong><a href="/lifestyle/pets/2015/07/camouflaged-cats/">Can you spot the cats playing hide-and-seek?</a></strong></em></span></p>

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