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Mother's shock admission after storming bully's classroom

<p>The mother who made headlines after <a href="https://oversixty.com.au/lifestyle/family-pets/mother-breaks-silence-after-confronting-daughter-s-bully" target="_blank" rel="noopener">storming</a> into her daughter's classroom to confront her bully has revealed the extent of the mental torment she was receiving at school. </p> <p>Speaking to Kyle and Jackie O about the ordeal, the distraught mother said she was at her wits end when her daughter stopped eating and was having suicidal thoughts. </p> <p>“Our daughter was bullied immensely, probably for over 12 months,” she explained, detailing how alarm bells rang when she looked through her daughter’s bag.</p> <p>“She stopped eating, I would find mouldy sandwiches in her bag."</p> <p>“She had come home and she fell into my arms on the floor and said ‘mum, I cannot do this anymore, what is the point of living?’”</p> <blockquote class="instagram-media" style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/reel/DFuJ_C2vn2W/?utm_source=ig_embed&utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="14"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"> </div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"> </div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"> </div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"> </div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"> </div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <div style="padding: 12.5% 0;"> </div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; margin-bottom: 14px; align-items: center;"> <div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(0px) translateY(7px);"> </div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; height: 12.5px; transform: rotate(-45deg) translateX(3px) translateY(1px); width: 12.5px; flex-grow: 0; margin-right: 14px; margin-left: 2px;"> </div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(9px) translateY(-18px);"> </div> </div> <div style="margin-left: 8px;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 20px; width: 20px;"> </div> <div style="width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 2px solid transparent; border-left: 6px solid #f4f4f4; border-bottom: 2px solid transparent; transform: translateX(16px) translateY(-4px) rotate(30deg);"> </div> </div> <div style="margin-left: auto;"> <div style="width: 0px; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-right: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(16px);"> </div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; flex-grow: 0; height: 12px; width: 16px; transform: translateY(-4px);"> </div> <div style="width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-left: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(-4px) translateX(8px);"> </div> </div> </div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center; margin-bottom: 24px;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 224px;"> </div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 144px;"> </div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" href="https://www.instagram.com/reel/DFuJ_C2vn2W/?utm_source=ig_embed&utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank" rel="noopener">A post shared by Kyle and Jackie O (@kyleandjackieo)</a></p> </div> </blockquote> <p>The mother also claimed that prior to her classroom tirade, she had gone through “the right channels” but hadn’t received any help</p> <p>"We did everything. We spoke to the principal, and the teacher didn't even give me the time of day."</p> <p>Henderson was shocked by the mother’s admission.</p> <p>“Oh my god, as a mum, I can only imagine what you thought,” she said.</p> <p>“It is disgusting that they didn’t do anything for you.”</p> <p>“She would go from a beautiful 13-year-old girl to nothing,” the devastated mum said.</p> <p>Meanwhile, Sandilands backed the mother, “You did what you’re supposed to do, you protected your child”.</p> <p>Sandilands then took aim at the eSafety Commissioner who he claimed KIIS FM had invited on air to discuss bullying, saying, “The e-commissioner will not come on and talk to us about it, that’s her only job.”</p> <p>Speaking to <em>7News</em> after the incident, the woman admitted her actions were wrong, but insisted she was standing up for her daughter.</p> <p>“I don’t want my daughter to be another statistic. I don’t want to have to bury my child,” the mother said.</p> <p>“She was crying, she was devastated that this child told her to go and hang herself."</p> <p>“That is a breaking point for any parent … I went into survival mode, and protective mode. I did let loose, unfortunately was a side, I don’t show very often. But that was a tipping point for that day.”</p> <p><em>Image credits: 7News</em></p>

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62-year-old teacher arrested after classroom brawl

<p><strong><em>WARNING: This video contains footage some viewers may find distressing</em></strong></p> <p>Disturbing footage has surfaced online of a teacher appearing to physically attack a student at a NSW public school.</p> <p>The incident occurred at Maitland Grossmann High School, northwest of Newcastle on March 22.</p> <p>Footage filmed by students shows their classmates throwing paper balls at the teacher, 62, who then proceeded to throw the paper balls back at one boy.</p> <p>The situation escalated quickly as the teacher appeared to grab one boy by the collar and pulls him down onto one of the desks, causing other students to get involved.</p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet"> <p dir="ltr" lang="en">CONTENT WARNING: Some viewers may find the following story confronting.</p> <p>A teacher at a school in the New South Wales Hunter region has been charged with assault, after a classroom brawl with students. <a href="https://twitter.com/MaggieRaworth?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">@MaggieRaworth</a> <a href="https://twitter.com/hashtag/9News?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">#9News</a> <a href="https://t.co/Gv5ZmpuYCT">pic.twitter.com/Gv5ZmpuYCT</a></p> <p>— 9News Sydney (@9NewsSyd) <a href="https://twitter.com/9NewsSyd/status/1638341798761320449?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">March 22, 2023</a></p></blockquote> <p>One student can be seen in the video pushing the 62-year-old away, yelling “You wanna f***ing touch him again?”, to which the teacher responded by telling the teens to put their phones away.</p> <p>A desk is then thrown at the teacher and several concerned students rush to leave the classroom.</p> <p>The video appears to show the teacher striking the student while he is on the floor.</p> <p>“Are you f***ing stupid?” a student can be heard yelling.</p> <p>The evidently enraged teacher then stands in the doorway and says to the students, “Who wants to have a go?”</p> <p>NSW Police have confirmed the teacher was arrested and charged with common assault.</p> <p>“About 9.30pm, a 62-year-old man was arrested and taken to Belmont Police Station, where he was charged with common assault,” NSW Police told news.com.au.</p> <p>“The teenage boy was assessed at the scene by NSW Ambulance paramedics; however, was not physically injured.</p> <p>The teacher has been given conditional bail to appear before Maitland Local Court on April 6.</p> <p>A NSW Department of Education spokesperson said the department is aware of the incident and the school is now working with police.</p> <p><em>Image credit: YouTube/Twitter</em></p>

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‘Lit therapy’ in the classroom: Writing about trauma can be valuable if done right

<p>Some of my students have been assaulted. Others have been homeless, jobless or broke, some suffer from depression, anxiety or grief. Some fight addiction, cancer or for custody. Many are in pain and they want to write about it.</p> <p>Opening wounds in the classroom is messy and risky. Boundaries and intentions can feel blurred in a class where memories and feelings also present teachable moments. But if teachers and students work together, opportunities to share difficult personal stories can be constructive.</p> <p><strong>Writing about trauma</strong></p> <p>The health benefits of writing about trauma are <a href="https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/15401383.2018.1486259">well documented</a>. Some counselling theories — such as narrative therapy — incorporate writing into their therapeutic techniques.</p> <p><a href="https://link.springer.com/article/10.1023/A:1020353109229">Research suggests</a> writing about trauma can be beneficial because it helps people re-evaluate their experiences by looking at them from different perspectives.</p> <p><strong>Join 130,000 people who subscribe to free evidence-based news.</strong></p> <p>Get newsletter</p> <p>Studies <a href="https://www.health.harvard.edu/healthbeat/writing-about-emotions-may-ease-stress-and-trauma">suggest</a> writing about traumatic events can help ease the emotional pressure of negative experiences. But <a href="https://www.health.harvard.edu/healthbeat/writing-about-emotions-may-ease-stress-and-trauma">writing about trauma</a> is not a cure-all and it may be less effective if people are also struggling with ongoing mental health challenges, such as depression or post-traumatic stress disorder.</p> <p>Internationally acclaimed researcher and clinician Bessel van der Kolk asserts in his book, <a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/18693771-the-body-keeps-the-score">The Body Keeps the Score</a>, that trauma is more than a stored memory to be expunged. Rather, van der Kolk suggests our whole mind, brain and sense of self can change in response to trauma.</p> <p>Pain is complicated. And teachers in a classroom are not counsellors in a clinic.</p> <p>If properly managed, though, sharing stories about personal suffering can be a relevant and valuable educational experience. It’s a strategy that, in a professional setting, could be referred to as “lit therapy”.</p> <p><strong>An empathetic space</strong></p> <p><a href="https://www.psychology.org.au/for-members/publications/inpsych/2012/feb/17-Working-with-African-refugees-An-opportunity">Dr Jill Parris</a> is a psychologist who works with refugees and uses lit therapy as an extension of trauma counselling. Parris and I also worked together on the project <a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/27192485-home-truths">Home Truths: An Anthology of Refugee and Migrant Writing</a>, which paired refugee authors with a writing mentor to develop personal stories about challenging migrant journeys to Australia.</p> <p>Parris says writing about trauma is helpful in most cases, as long as teachers and their students monitor stress levels and offer an empathetic space where storytellers are given the time and tools to manage the complex feelings that may surface.</p> <p>“It is important that people feel absolutely free to avoid focusing on traumatic events and this should be made clear from the start,” says Parris.</p> <p>Teachers should therefore be wary of implying traumatic personal stories are inherently worthy subjects, that divulgence alone is more likely to receive a higher grade or publication. It isn’t. In fact, sharing a story may be detrimental. It may be unfair to the author’s future self, the other people involved in their experience, or to the piece’s intention for its readers.</p> <p>Helping individual students identify their own readiness to share personal experiences is an important first step. Parris recommends asking students how they <em>know</em> they are ready to share their story. What has changed to <em>make</em> them ready? Answering these questions helps people sit outside themselves.</p> <p>As teachers, we also need to be mindful that sharing painful memories presents a risk for those hearing them.</p> <p><strong>Vicarious trauma</strong></p> <p><a href="https://scholarscompass.vcu.edu/uresposters/318/">Vicarious trauma is a real threat</a>. To help mitigate the risk of emotional contagion, teachers should check in with students at the beginning and end of class to monitor feelings, reminding people they are in the present, that the trauma they recounted or heard was survived.</p> <p>If people feel stressed, Parris recommends looking around and forcing ourselves to name what we see, hear, feel, taste and smell as a way of <a href="https://positivepsychology.com/self-regulation/">returning to the present</a>. Discussing what people will do outside class to care for themselves is also useful.</p> <p>As teachers, it is important to help our students organise their thoughts and feelings in relation to the craft of professional writing, which is writing intended for consumption by an anonymous reader.</p> <p>Students are likely to write what they’re passionate about — the good, the bad and the ugly. Their best writing comes out of what’s meaningful to them. Teachers can help guide their students’ search for authenticity.</p> <p>Feelings and experiences matter, but writers and readers also want to know what they mean. Revealing how masters of personal storytelling bridge the personal and the universal is useful in demonstrating the broader purpose of sharing stories.</p> <p>Story craft is part of how author Joan Didion’s <a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/7815.The_Year_of_Magical_Thinking">The Year of Magical Thinking</a> is both a personal reflection and a forensic investigation of grief. Part of a writing teacher’s job is exploring how personal stories can contribute to the archive of collective human experience.</p> <p>While I work with adult students, there is also <a href="https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2015-59081-009">evidence</a> narrative writing exercises can help children and teenagers process thoughts and emotions related to challenging personal events.</p> <p>This work is emotionally demanding. Scenes of horrible things people have told me occasionally invade my mind, as if another person’s lived experience orbits my own memories. It’s unsettling. It’s also why stories matter. Because hearing them can help us better understand the people who share them. Stories help us glimpse the humanity in the hardship, showing us while pain is universal, compassion is too.</p> <p><em>Written by Yannick Thoraval. Republished with permission of <a href="https://theconversation.com/lit-therapy-in-the-classroom-writing-about-trauma-can-be-valuable-if-done-right-145379">The Conversation.</a> </em></p>

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The new-age classroom where primary school students and seniors learn together

<p>Seniors have a lifetime of experience and wisdom to share, children have an insatiable curiosity for knowledge and a revolutionary classroom concept is bringing the two generations together.</p><p>Welcome to the intergenerational classroom at Saskatoon’s Sherbrooke Community Centre in Canada. Twenty students (chosen from a pool of applicants) will complete their Year 6 education at Sherbrooke, guided by their elders.</p><p>Lead teacher Keri Albert says the classroom has been a success with both sides learning from each other.</p><p>“An example might be transportation,” said Keri. “So, what was it like for [the elders] when they were young and then the iGen students are talking about what it’s like for them now.”</p><p>The sixth graders are also teaching residents how to play online games on the iPads and computers in the classroom.</p><p>The basics of reading, writing and arithmetic are taught but aside from the curriculum, students are learning empathy, compassion, communication and general life lessons.</p><p>The feeling and lessons are mutual. Jodi Grant, a former professor, was placed in a care home after a vehicle accident. She was ready to give up her career in teaching but this new program has given her a new lease on life.</p><p>“It’s just pure heaven,” Jodi said, after spending her morning reading to the students.</p><p>“It’s gone from dismal to super invigorating. Prior to iGen, I had to try really hard to keep going,” she continued. &nbsp;</p><p>“These children bring so much energy and life and excitement to the elders here,” said Sherbrooke spokesperson Patricia Roe.</p><p><strong>Related links:&nbsp;</strong></p><p><a href="/news/news/2015/02/community-adopts-90-year-old-woman/"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>A community adopts a 90-year-old woman with no family</strong></em></span></a></p><p><a href="/news/news/2015/02/82-year-old-man-daisy-to-wife/" target="_blank"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>Strangers shovelled snow so 82-year-old man could deliver flowers to his late wife</strong></em></span></a></p><p><a href="/news/news/2015/02/australia-introducing-tactile-banknotes/" target="_blank"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>13-year-old blind boy gets Australia to finally introduce “tactile banknotes” to help visually impaired</strong></em></span></a></p>

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