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Grace Tame pays Scott Morrison rare compliment

<p>One of Scott Morrison's most vocal critics Grace Tame, has offered the Prime Minister a rare compliment. </p> <p>The former Australian of the Year  appeared on the <a href="https://www.betootaadvocate.com/betoota-podcast/" target="_blank" rel="noopener" data-link-type="article-inline">Betoota Advocate’s podcast Decode</a> on Monday to cover a range of topics in the lead-up to the election.</p> <p>During the conversation, Grace offered Morrison an out-of-pocket nod. </p> <p>“He’s quite intelligent. I’ll give him that,” Tame said.</p> <p>But the compliment was swiftly followed by a jab at the PM's expense. </p> <p>“No one can be the leader of a country without having intelligence and skills and mastery, at least, of manipulation.”</p> <p>She went on to double-down on the sledge, saying he’d waged “petty vendettas” against his opponents. </p> <p>Grace also addressed the now infamous side-eye she gave the PM at the Australian of the Year finalists’ function in January, which has been immortalised in a series of photos. </p> <p>Tame, a survivor of child sexual abuse, said that Morrison was "entitled" by expecting her to smile.</p> <p>“The problem with Scott Morrison - his entitlement,” she told the podcast.</p> <p>“’I’m the prime minister, and she should smile at me because I’m the Prime Minister’.”</p> <p>After the incident at the Lodge, Morrison addressed Grace's choice not to smile, saying he supported her advocacy work, but the event was not about her. </p> <p>“When Jenny and I invite someone to our home, we greet them with a smile and they’re always welcome, and that day was actually about all the finalists that we came to celebrate,” Morrison told 4BC.</p> <p>“That day was all about them.</p> <div> <p>“I haven’t raised any issues about (it) - all I’m saying is we were there that day to celebrate those who had done an incredible job for our country.”</p> </div> <p><em>Image credits: Twitter</em></p>

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The one “backhanded compliment” Deb Knight is sick of receiving

<div class="post_body_wrapper"> <div class="post_body"> <div class="body_text "> <p>As Deborah Knight moves from strength to strength when it comes to her career, she likely fields unsolicited commentary on her wardrobe and makeup choices.</p> <p>After moving on from<span> </span>Today, Knight has started a new radio gig and her on-the-job styling has changed from hour-long sessions with a range of stylists to a more low-key look.</p> <p>However, it is something that her followers on social media can’t help but point out.</p> <p>"To those who comment that I 'look so different' when I post pics without the full TV hair and makeup - no s--- Sherlock!" the 2GB Afternoons show host tweeted.</p> <p>"An hour with a professional hair and makeup artist is time well spent for good reason. Always feels like such a backhanded insult.. Au naturel is OK too tho."</p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet"> <p dir="ltr">To those who comment that I “look so different” when I post pics without the full TV hair and makeup - no sh** Sherlock! An hour with a professional hair and makeup artist is time well spent for good reason. Always feels like such a backhanded insult.. Au naturel is ok too tho..</p> — deborah knight (@deborah_knight) <a href="https://twitter.com/deborah_knight/status/1229720006516039682?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">February 18, 2020</a></blockquote> <p>Knight has previously spoken about her preference for a more natural look, explaining to<span> </span><a rel="noopener noreferrer" href="https://honey.nine.com.au/latest/deborah-knight-tv-makeup-torture/e6d6009d-7e24-455d-918c-67913e419c4a" target="_blank">9Honey</a><span> </span>that the first thing she does after coming off-camera is wiping off her makeup.</p> <p>"Because while a suit of TV armour is essential, nothing beats going au naturel," she wrote.</p> <p>"I've never been a fan of personal grooming that requires excessive time and attention. I don't enjoy the fussing at a hair salon, the smell of fake tan makes me feel ill, and I never find massages all that relaxing."</p> <p>Knight explained that in her “normal life”, she allots no time at all for hair and makeup.</p> <p>"I smother myself in moisturiser, but I don't wear makeup as I don't like the feeling of foundation or powder on my skin," she wrote.</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/B5bsgVzB0LB/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/B5bsgVzB0LB/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">A post shared by Deborah Knight (@deborah_knight)</a> on Nov 28, 2019 at 6:34pm PST</p> </div> </blockquote> <p>"And on the rare occasion that I do apply mascara or eyeliner, it always inexplicably ends up smudged or smeared nowhere near where it was meant to go."</p> <p>As for styling her hair?</p> <p>“Running a brush through my wet mop after a shower is pretty much my styling regime."</p> </div> </div> </div>

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“You look beautiful too Will!”: Cheeky fan compliments the Duke of Cambridge at BAFTAS

<p>A video of a cheeky royal fan has gone viral after he told Prince William he “looked beautiful” as the Cambridges walked the red carpet at the BAFTAS.</p> <p>The clip has been widely shared on Twitter and captures the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge walking up the stairs outside the Royal Albert Hall ahead of the awards show.</p> <p>Duchess Kate, dressed in a recycled gold-embroidered Alexander McQueen gown, was showered in compliments from the fans until one noticed that Prince William was left out.</p> <p>“You look beautiful Kate,” fans can be heard saying.</p> <p>“So do you, Will!” another fan quickly shouted.</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/B8EzQvKlY9a/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;"><a style="color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/B8EzQvKlY9a/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">You know that time I made @kensingtonroyal laugh??? Oh yeah...tonight at @ee @bafta ❤ #eebaftas🤵</a></p> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;">A post shared by <a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/matim84/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank"> Maciek Zielinski</a> (@matim84) on Feb 2, 2020 at 10:45am PST</p> </div> </blockquote> <p>Duchess Kate couldn’t help herself as she giggled and Prince William seemed thrilled with the compliment, saying “that’s nice, thank you!”.</p> <p>The video was first shared by Maciek Zielinski to his Instagram account.</p> <p>“You know that time I made @kensingtonroyal laugh??? Oh yeah...tonight at the BAFTAs,” he cheekily captioned the video.</p> <p>Royal fans were thrilled with the video.</p> <p>“This is the best royal video ever, thank you!” one fan commented.</p> <p>“At least they do have a sense of humour” another agreed.</p> <p>“I love his response, such a beautiful couple,” another fan said.</p> <p>The Duke and Duchess have been regulars of the BAFTAS since Prince William was made president of the British Awards in 2010.</p>

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3 things NOT to say after being complimented

<p>When you receive a compliment, how to you react? Do you thank the person giving the compliment? Do you go quiet? Do you shut them down?</p> <p>We all respond differently, but experts agree the healthiest thing to do is accept it. Why? Well, according to relationship expert and author Dr Jane Greer, shutting down someone’s compliment shows insecurity and a lack of confidence.</p> <p>“You aren’t able to claim ownership of whatever positive aspect of yourself that’s being addressed – your hair, your outfit, your talents and strengths,” she tells <a href="http://www.preventionaus.com.au/article/4-things-you-need-to-stop-saying-after-getting-a-compliment-481561" target="_blank"><em><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Prevention</span></strong></em></a>.</p> <p>So, the next time someone compliments you, avoid saying these three common things and swap them for a “thank you” instead.</p> <p><strong>1. “Yes, my hairdresser did a great job”</strong></p> <p>Your friend is complimenting you, not your hairdresser, so don’t give the credit to someone else. The same can be said if you’ve done something nice for a friend, like making a photo album. If they compliment your effort, don’t say, “oh, Ann gave me lots of help,” or “it was nothing”. Simply accept the praise and say, “thank you”.</p> <p><strong>2. “Oh stop it, that’s not true”</strong></p> <p>When someone compliments you, even if you don’t believe or agree with what they’re saying, resist the urge to shut them down. Show some appreciation for them taking the time to try and make your day – it never pays to respond to an act of kindness by brushing the person off.</p> <p>“The reality is most people are attracted to confident people, people who know their worth and value and respect themselves,” psychiatrist Dr Gail Saltz tells Prevention.</p> <p>“So it behoves you to accept compliments in a way that you can incorporate into your self-esteem, and with a genuine appreciation to the person who was kind enough to offer it. It also helps to give you a realistic but positive view of yourself.</p> <p>“At first, it really takes effort to change your reaction to compliments. You likely have to rehearse some ways in private to respond so you can more easily try them out in public.”</p> <p><strong>3. “Really? Do you think so?”</strong></p> <p>The person wouldn’t be complimenting you if they didn’t mean it. It’s not arrogant or narcissistic to accept a compliment rather than questioning it.</p> <p>“Women are much more likely to demur at a compliment because they have been socialized to believe that being feminine means being self-effacing and overly humble,” Saltz explains. “Women often feel it's not polite, nor comfortable, nor likeable to acknowledge and embrace a compliment.”</p> <p>Tell us in the comments below, how do you respond to compliments?</p>

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8 “compliments” people pay that are actually ageist

<p>Let’s get rid of these “compliments” that demean older people – whether they’re well-intended or not.</p> <p><strong>1. When a waiter or anyone else asks an older woman, "What can I get for you today, young lady?"</strong></p> <p>You would never say to a teenager, “What would you like today, Grandma?” Older people know their older than most in society, and you know what they’re actually perfectly fine with that! Like the question is implying, youth isn’t better.</p> <p><strong>2. Saying to any older person, “You’re so adorable/cute/sweet.”</strong></p> <p>People only use this type of infantilising language when they think someone is incompetent or not quite on the same intellectual level as they are. That’s why these term of endearments are only applied to babies and baby animals – you never hear a grown adult being described with those type of adjectives.</p> <p><strong>3. “You’re 80 years young!”</strong></p> <p>It’s meant to be a compliment, but in our youth-obsessed society it’s simply reinforcing the message: young is good, old is bad. There is nothing wrong with being older and the fear of using the word needs to stop.</p> <p><strong>4. “You’re only 80… oh that’s not old!”</strong></p> <p>Again, it’s simply factually incorrect and the 80-year-old person knows that. And again, being “old” (see how it’s such a loaded term?) is not bad.</p> <p><strong>5. “You’re not what a 60-something looks like.”</strong></p> <p>This compliment again underlines the fact in our society looking young (and younger for your age) is a good thing – and should be what people want. But if you’re 60-something, wouldn’t you want to look 60-something?</p> <p><strong>6. “You are still…”</strong></p> <p>It’s one of those phrases that reeks of ageism when it follows an age: “She’s 70 but still volunteering” or “He’s 80 but still playing golf” or “She’s 85 but still so sharp!” The words “still” shows how society really feels about the older demographic, where people conflate ageing with illness, disability and ineptitude. Why is it a surprise when older folks can do anything that doesn’t fit in the stereotypical idea of them?</p> <p><strong>7. “You are proof that 60 is the new 40.”</strong></p> <p>So being energetic, fit, engaged, interested in the world, and not looking “old” must mean that I have to be younger than my years? Again, this compliment is saying being 60 is bad.</p> <p><strong>8. “At your age, you’re allowed to forget something.”</strong></p> <p>It sounds like an innocuous enough comment at first, one that is even supportive. But why has having a “senior moment” become synonymous with forgetfulness, when memory loss is in no way the sole purview of older people. People of all ages have forgotten where they parked, left something at home or can’t remember what they needed to grab from the supermarket. When all you can think about is how age defines an older person’s life, it’s ageist. Just assume the older person had a momentarily lapse in memory just like everyone else!</p> <p><strong>Related links: </strong></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><em><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/health/mind/2016/01/older-generation-better-at-learning/">Older generations better at learning than everyone else</a></em></strong></span></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><em><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/health/mind/2015/12/ways-to-make-today-great/">10 sure-fire ways to make today a great day</a></em></strong></span></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><em><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/health/mind/2015/12/positive-thinking-and-mental-health/">Can positive thinking improve your mental health?</a></em></strong></span></p>

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