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Terrible or understandable? Mother admits she regrets picking “bland” baby name

Picking a baby name is not an easy task, especially since the perfect moniker can take months to resonate and stick with a set of nervous soon-to-be parents.

Rushing into making a decision can often result in a very regretful conscience - a feeling one displeased mother admits she knows all too well.

She took to mumsnet to share her own story of true regret over choosing a “bland” name for her daughter who is now four-years-old.

Her and her husband named their precious little girl Lily, which is a name the father really liked, but the mum was never quite so keen on.

She said: "I obviously wouldn't change it now but I can't seem to get over regretting what we called daughter, who is now four.

"Husband is a teacher and very picky about names. Her name is Lily. I did used to love it, but had reservations about popularity."

The regretful mum says her husband "assured" her that the name wasn't a very popular one when the baby was born and that he hardly taught any girls named Lily.

It might have been unknown years ago, however the mother says she feels like she hears it everywhere she goes nowadaysz

"She is one of three at nursery and I have waves of being ok with it but right now I feel I am obsessing over it, which I realise is pointless and in the grand scheme of things I know very trivial," continues the parent.

"Perhaps it's a combination of lockdown meaning there is more time to dwell on things.

"I just find her name really bland now and regret not being more firm with other options (I generally like more unusual, but classic names)."

Other Mumsnet users took to reassuring the woman who they felt might be overreacting.

One person said: "Lily is lovely. You can never predict what names will be popular in a certain class/group.

“Sometimes you end up with one Oliver and three Horatios or something! She's not always going to be in a big group of Lilys."

Another added: "Names always come in fashions. It is a pretty name and not at all like the 'unusual' ones that children really hate.

“Please don't regret this name, you only have to look at the baby names posts on here to see what parents are saddling their children with, learn to love it, she is her name."

A third wrote: "In the nicest possible way, you really need to find a way to let this go. You can't change a four-year-old's name.

“So the only way forward is acceptance. Maybe you are obsessing because of all the other things in life we have lost control of, but you can't do anything about this.

“You need to find distractions to take the heat out of this."

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