4 important lessons to teach children about friendship
As grandparents, we can often find ourselves observing our grandchildren’s friendships. Kids all have their moments of being mean or hurtful, but you can arm your grandkids with the tools to deal with people from all walks of life.
1. Do they make you feel happy?
Some friendships can be toxic, if they involve a lot of competition or jealousy. Teach your grandchildren to keep an eye on ‘friendships’ that don’t make them feel good. So called friends that put you down, or play you off against someone else, are best left alone.
2. Do you rely on one or two friends?
It’s always a good option to have a wide circle of friends if possible. People move, and relationships sometimes end, and your grandchild might find themselves alone if they only have a small group of pals. Encourage them to play with other kids, or take part in extra curricular activities to make friends outside of school.
3. Do your friends talk about other people negatively?
The trouble with gossip is that it can quickly turn into bullying. If your friends are starting to tell tales about other friends in the group, there’s a good chance they’re doing the same to you when you’re not around. These are not positive friendships. Try to spend time with people who are positive and kind, not mean spirited.
4. Don’t leave old friends behind
Friendships change over time. Some fall apart, some grow stronger. It’s important not to ‘drop’ one friend just because you’ve made a new one. Find ways to come together with friends, while also spending time one on one with them to strengthen relationships.
Have you got any old friends that have lasted a lifetime? What do you think your secret it?